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Post by hmmmmm on Dec 2, 2009 8:55:06 GMT -5
Now if you all re-read this posts as I (OMG) just did you will see on about page 2 or 3 I think Memy started getting snotty and rude about stuff-THAT MY FRIENDS is where the problems began! I actually was feeling BAD b/c I read all those supportive words most of you left for me, even TY, and I was like I can see where they are coming from. I actually appreciate the help you all were tryign to give me, UNTIL MEMY gets all rude and that made me react and get p*ssed. Anyway....its just come so far with the problems in here it really doesnt matter
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Post by reality on Dec 2, 2009 10:07:20 GMT -5
What i read was Memy gave it to you straight while you went into making excuses for you and your husbands behavior. It shouldn't take pages and pages for someone to get the point and make necessary adjustments to their situation. You either get it or you don't. Who wants to hear WHY a drug addict is on drugs or WHY a prositute sells her body. You can either leave them be or you can join them.
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Post by OK on Dec 2, 2009 10:31:59 GMT -5
Okay, if thats how you see it then thats fine. I can somewhat understand that. I mean I can look at the situation and see all your point of views. Even me stating why he does this and kid of making excuses. That was not my intention, but its just different when you are IN the situation rather than looking in as an outsider. That time of my life, I was VERY confused and hurt and its really difficult for me to stand my ground when I personally know the good in him ya know. I mean if I were reading it and seen the situation for what it was and I wasnt part of it, it would be easy to say-well leave, DUH! I just thikn so much deeper into the situation which may have be a down fall for me sometimes.
However, its not as simple as leave them or join them-you dont just abandon people you love, I have learned this over years of dealing with my mom mostly but liek I said at the same time I can see where everyone is coming from.
Possibly I take things personal very easily when it comes to certain things I guess, if thats even it. OR heck, maybe I honestly have a hard time when people dissagree with me, I have been known to be stubborn.
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Post by reality on Dec 2, 2009 14:31:39 GMT -5
Moms and kids are irreplaceable, of course stand by them. But you can only love someone so much until they don't love themselves. Deciding whether to stay or go depends on how much pain your willing to endure and how much respect you have for yourself to not have to go through the same things repeatedly.
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Post by ok on Dec 2, 2009 14:51:54 GMT -5
I VERY much agree with you.....I dont know if I would go through it all again but I guess when I think about it what I have today, then maybe I would. I cant really say, all I can do is live in today and know that all my pain did pay off. Its infortunate that we had such a rocky road to get where we are but he is a much better person in every way and I thank God for that every day, b/c not only do I have a husband who is a good man but my 3 little boys have their daddy. As hard as it is for others to beleive I have grown SO MUCH from all of the drama he has brought to the table and I DO know for sure as well as I beleive he does that if any of those things were to continue today or happen to pop up again, then I couldnt do it. There is ONLY so much a person can take before they crumble and I have enough self-esteem and concern for my family to know what I can deal with today.
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