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Post by stepmother on Dec 26, 2007 15:21:59 GMT -5
Hello I'm a woman of a husband that has baby mama drama. He has tried everything that he could think of but nothing has worked. So I'm trying to find something that might help him with he's problem! Any help is welcomed.
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Post by faith on Dec 27, 2007 20:52:13 GMT -5
well what kind of drama you have to explain more is she not letting him see he child?
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Post by ceesmom on Dec 29, 2007 14:50:09 GMT -5
I'm married to a man who has 3 babies mothers and I don't get involved with their relationships. My advice to you is not to get invoved, allow him to work on that relationship because it will cause you nothing but heart ache and pain. You being his wife can only do and say so much. My advice to you is to pray, because prayer does change things.
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Post by Mikki on Jan 1, 2008 21:12:00 GMT -5
I disagree w/the last responder. You are his wife and it is just as much your business as it is his because you two are now united as one. He has no relationship with the mother of the children (or at least he has no obligation to) as he is married to you! Don't sleep - women, especially baby mamas are treacherous and believe me they are jealous of you because you have what they don't have. Reach out to the women and try to make the kids come 1st. If they have other agendas, watch your back and lay down the law. It's your life and the women shouldn't be in it at all--only the children by your husband!
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Post by ceesmom on Jan 4, 2008 8:44:44 GMT -5
I disagree w/the last responder. First of all I'm not going to have a stroke behind some baby drama stuff and trust me, prayer does change things. My husband has never had paternity established for any of these children and he seems to resent the fact when I have brought it up. He would send all this money to one of his babies mom and act like it was okay to do so, while I worked and I don't know if she has a job. She had another man down for a paternity test in the courts but my husband is paying child support to her w/out an order  She is habitual for getting evicted ever since 91 before she had these children. Another child lives out of state and her mother is willing to let her come visit us. She has never met me, seen where I live or have even spoken to me. Mind you, these women are in their 50's, my husband 40's and me in my 30's. He's never been married to them. Yes, I'm his wife but it seems as if the drama queens are. I'm in so much pain, you don't know the half of it. I have children of my own and I'm not going to rip and run behind all these mothers. I don't correspond w/these women and I guess they feel like my husband is a sucker but I'm not. They act like children. Like I said, I'm not going to have a stroke behind this because I 'm not going to have one behind my own children. ' |
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Post by ceesmom on Jan 4, 2008 8:57:21 GMT -5
P.S. both of these women had children w/my husband while they were in their 40's and they twist him like a cord. Truthfully, I don't feel like his wife because he is willing and has hurt me not to hurt them. Prayer does change things and this to shall pass.
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Post by overcomer7 on Jan 20, 2008 14:34:06 GMT -5
Sister I feel your pain and echo your sentiments; my husband hurts me it seems so that he won't hurt her. Let me give you a brief history of my situation.
I met my husband over 7 years ago. I went away for Grad school. We grew a part some and I broke up with him because he just didn't seem to value me. After graduation we found our way back to each other and I moved in with him. While we were a part he was dating other women-one of which he got pregnant. He didn't tell me until 2 days before thier (twin girls) delivery. It has been tough but I decided to marry him last May.
Since being married not much has changed. The mother does not know I exist. He refuses to tell her or her family that he is married in fear they will not allow him to see his girls. She refuses to let the girls visit him-so he says. He travels there once a month or ever other month alone-without me. He claims that he stays with the grandparents. But I only find pictures of the girls at her place. I tell him constantly that I do not want him staying there. But his reason is to see his kids and that's all that matters. Besides he will nver admit to actually staying there. He recently lost his job-so getting a lawyer for custody rights is not going to happen anytime soon. The wosre part of it is that he has to pay her $1050 a month-leaving nothing for us to start our own family. I am heartbroken, but I have to face that this marrige has never really existed. The most important thing to him is his children and yes maybe even her. I have to move on but I really don't have the courage to do so.
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Post by pisces22687 on Jan 28, 2008 14:18:33 GMT -5
Hey I'm not going through that type of situation but I can imagine how you feel with what you have posted on-line. I know that you are married to this man and maybe he's a great man I don't know but if you feel as though you can't handle the situation sit his ass down and explain to him that it's ridiculous how his baby mama's act so immature to be so d**n old and let him know how you feel about the situation and if he's not willing to make a change or adjustments you have to come up with a plan B. good luck sweetie
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Post by jusdntundstn on Feb 2, 2008 20:00:15 GMT -5
These guys have been stripped of their "manhood" and there is nothing us women, no matter how strong we are can help them get back. Whats done is done! Either we deal with it for the rest of our lives or theres always plan BBBB. My advice " if the rock dont budge" get rid of it. 'THEEE' WOMAN ALWAYS COMES FIRST....a man needs to love and respect himself before he can love you. If he cant stand up for himself what makes us think he'll put us first. THE CLOCK IS TICKING LADIES AND THEIR TIME IS RUNNIN OUT.....
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Post by Mommyof2 on Mar 6, 2008 23:52:31 GMT -5
Ladies, Ladies, Ladies!!! Stay away from these men who have 2 and 3 baby mammas! You're only asking for trouble and drama. What kind of man/woman would be so irresponsible as to let themselves get caught up with 3 bm's, that's horrible and totally asking for drama.
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Post by totamp on Mar 11, 2008 20:27:58 GMT -5
well my boyfriend and i been togeather for 10 years, about 2 years ago he cheated on me and the other women gotten pregnant she didnt know who was the father of her child, she thoght it was either her ex or my boyfriend , well we did a dna and it turn out to be my boyfriend baby, well i can say he step up and didnt let her disrespect me or our home , oh she tried all kinds of tricks they didnt work. i have two kids that my boyfriend has raise since they was 2and3 years old, he told her and his nuts stating sister and mother that he didnt just became a father when that girl had his first child but he was already a father to the two he help me raise and the baby is a added addition to the two he already got. this has truely made me say i will marry you
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She is habitual for getting evicted ever since 91 before she had these children. Another child lives out of state and her mother is willing to let her come visit us. She has never met me, seen where I live or have even spoken to me. Mind you, these women are in their 50's, my husband 40's and me in my 30's. He's never been married to them. Yes, I'm his wife but it seems as if the drama queens are. I'm in so much pain, you don't know the half of it. I have children of my own and I'm not going to rip and run behind all these mothers. I don't correspond w/these women and I guess they feel like my husband is a sucker but I'm not. They act like children. Like I said, I'm not going to have a stroke behind this because I 'm not going to have one behind my own children. '