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Post by wbmama on Apr 25, 2008 14:54:58 GMT -5
I think with all the new members and guests it would be good to introduce yourself and tell a little about what brings you here. What do you need to get from this board? What have you found?
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Post by destini1969 on Apr 25, 2008 15:14:29 GMT -5
Great idea wbmama! I am Destini, 38 and proud of it!  ) I have been dating my current guy a little over a year and five months out of that year, we've been experiencing BMD! It hurts my heart to know that BM is denying visitation with child because he is in a relationship with me. I know this would be the case regardless of who he's dating, but at this time it's me. This man is a wonderful father to his daughter and loves her to pieces, it great to actually see their interaction (when BM isn't tripping). I just want a better understanding of WHY and HOW I can be part of the solution and not the problem in this ordeal. I have gotten a few insights from some members on the board but I am seeking more. |
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Post by memyslfni on Apr 25, 2008 15:44:41 GMT -5
Its a shame how bm's automatically use us as the reason that their child doesnt see the father. As I have read in the BMD bible that these women are insecure/intimidated by us. They feed into their own insecurities by using the new girlfriend as a crutch. Therefore transpiring anger/hate within themselves.
I'd like for my bm to know that their is nothing to be insecure about. As you have ur kids, I have my own...Its about father and child(ren).
What tips my boat is that some bds pay child support and dont get to spend the quality time they'd like with their kids. Come on bm, if bd is trying to get the kids for the weekend this means u got all weekend to screw Tom, thingy, and Harry. Why make it hard on urself?
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Post by wbmama on Apr 25, 2008 15:49:08 GMT -5
LOL! I actually told our BM that - I said, "Don't you want a weekend off? You can go shopping do whatever. Maybe you should consider dating."
I was serious - just pissed her off - hell, knowing that I'm breathing pisses her off.
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Post by memyslfni on Apr 25, 2008 15:53:18 GMT -5
Hey does this board have an automatic bad language sensor. Because someone/thing modified what I wrote about Tom etc.... Am I going nuttso?
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Post by wbmama on Apr 25, 2008 15:58:15 GMT -5
ok - when you type b*tch it shows pregnant dog
and sh*t shows nuts
so I'm thinking d*ck is thingy
I'll try more words...
f**k = f*ck
ass = a**
girl thingy = Pu**Y
d**n = dam*
I think hell and piss work
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Post by destini1969 on Apr 25, 2008 16:07:52 GMT -5
LMBO!
Can someone tell me what does DH mean? Is is daddy hubby? I see this in different post!
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Post by memyslfni on Apr 25, 2008 16:16:04 GMT -5
DH means Darling Honey, u can refer to the Codes.... Post.
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Post by destini1969 on Apr 25, 2008 16:19:17 GMT -5
Thanx! ;D
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Post by nomoredrama on Apr 25, 2008 17:59:37 GMT -5
I am a spouse to my wonderful husband (DH) of almost 12 years. We have 2 biological children together (DS - 9, DD - 1.5). My DH has 2 BMs (a good one & a not so good one). I get along great with BM#1. BM#2 has caused the drama. We have gone thru drama since before we got married but recently more drama involving money. Long story short, BM#2 moved outside of the continental US with SD. DH & I have only seen SD 2 days in 6 years. BM#2 went thru hard time last year (fired for her foolishness). BM#2 called DH asking him to send more money (on top of child support he pays to her each month). Again, we have not seen SD but 2 days in 6 years. We have tried to get court ordered visitation amended several times but since she lives outside of the continental US, it is difficult. BM#2 has always claimed that she did not have a home phone. We can only reach SD (13 years old) via her mom's cell phone. We tried to establish email contact with SD but we have to go thru mom's email address. Mom won't even allow SD to speak with DH without her being within earshot. SD can not speak freely with her father.
I am getting what a need from this website...a place to speak with those who are experiencing similar issues so that I can draw from their experiences. It is also a place where I can scream as loud as I want to about the BM and not cause any drama...It is my venting place. Oh, and I also learn from our resident baby mama, Keia. Keia's post are colorful but she touches on some very good points. And, she always makes this board interesting.
I hope everyone who is now a member will continue to participate so that we can learn and grow together.
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Post by lovejones08 on Apr 26, 2008 21:58:44 GMT -5
Ms. LoveJones for his bones
His my love is LoveJones and I have BMD...LOL!!! I have been loving a man with this disease for 4 years and counting. A few times I have almost converted back to my old ways and punched her a** on site but God is good and so are my friends who saved her from an a** whoopin and me from a case...LOL my DH2B has been dealing with this before me and trys to deal with it the best way he can. She has tried to ruin his life totally by lying about very serious things that I will not mention but he has grown learn from his not so good decisions and now he is a better man for me. If was rough at first but we are still growing from it all. She has tried everything from calling my phone, coming to my place (DH2B did not live with me just visiting), following us around when she saw us driving, ran red lights just so we could see her driving past LOL, came to get her child just so she wouldn't be with us together, told her child not to call me by my nickname, tells her child that her daddy left them to make a new home with me, has her child call at late hours crying on the phone about is he going to move away because mommy told her he was probably going to move away too foolish mention all everything too much and i don't have the energy. I may get carple tunnel.
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