How can I stop her?

[lovejones08]

yeah..LOL or just were just deadbeats..with their own drama. It's sad to say but some of these people men/women probably do their children a favor by being a deadbeat because they would probably be worse off if that mother/father was in their lives, but as children you don't really think on that level and you just want to know why mommy or daddy doesn't want you. It's too sad and I've been there in my life, but I overcame and I'm all good.

[saj2777]

Apparently BADCHICK wasn't really reading my responses....

[saj2777]

Okay here goes:

"Most don't want some other woman in the picture attempting to limit what they can get for their child which in this case is what saj is trying to do."

1. I am not some other woman, I am stepmom to those kids.
2. If you had followed my responses closely, we (my DH and I) take good care of my stepkids.

"If it isn't about the money saj, why does it bother you so much that she want's to file cs? Why are you so worried about her getting less and not more? "

1. What bothers me is that there are NO complaints about how we take care of my stepkids...NONE. The issue of CS has never come up...until she was informed of our pregnancy and our new home.
2. Someone here stated that in their situation, her DH's BM thinks that if her DH gets an extra dollar that 50 cents of that should go to her (the BM). That's the type of mentality this BM has, obviously, and as his wife that sh** ain't gon' fly.

"That is great and I wish you the best with your pregnancy but that doesn't make you any better than DH's childrens mother's he simply has a commitment to you and with them only to their children. . . .Women can sense when another woman feels she is superior to them. Maybe they can sense it and that's why they don't like you."

1. There is nothing simple about a commitment. There is nothing simple about a marriage. No, I don't feel that this makes me better than the BM's, I feel that it is the way they behave and react to my marriage to their BD that makes my opinion of them so poor.

"Could be that she thinks this may not be your only kid you have by him and she wants to get her claim in because in the event you all divorce you will automatically be granted cs. If she doesn't file before you she will get less."

1. Don't you think that is a little bit of too much thinking about me on the BM's behalf? Her claim? She doesn't have a claim...our responsiblity is to my stepkids and we fulfill that..we don't owe her anything.
2. And I know both BM's would probably love to see us end in divorce, but they can hang that up...there is no amount of drama (knock on wood) that they can dish to destroy what we have.


And finally..."Or she could be trying to punish you DH for having another child with you."

1. This is the type of reaction that I am talking about. What earthly power or privelge would any BM have to punish a BD? How more crystal clear could it be that if this is the case, the BM's focus is not her child (like it should be). If she's is more worried about how many kids we gon' have and punishin' him, then that's sad...If she really needs more money (which she doesn't ) then why isn't she taking that energy and trying to better her situation outside of seeking more CS from a good stepmom and BD?

[nomoredrama]

Saj, it doesn't matter what you say in your post. Unfortunately, some folks are going to read more into it than what is meant to be. Just keep doing you.

[saj2777]

Thanks tellit! I felt the need though, girl....I felt the need.

[badchick]

It seems to me some ladies have a clique-ish relationship about their posts. II am not saying she is right I m saying that's how it is. She doesn't care about you she just wants that money for her kid or herself. Of course she thinks about you and your kids because it effects her and hers. Don't give me the it doesn't affect her anything that affects your child affects you even if indirectly. If the woman wants cs let her have it. Why worry yourself about something you cannot control. Sometimes people just do things to spite other people. Deal with it. BM number 2 may soon follow suit.

[memyslfni]

Its called GOLDDIGGIN the same crap 50's bm tried to pull. But failed....Sorry just had to add my 2 cents.... Greed does not pay!!!!

[destini1969]

That was toooooo funny about 50 cents BM. Serves her right, she wasn't married to him helping him earn that money! ) There are gold digging women as well as gold digging men!