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Post by jaylady999 on Nov 19, 2009 10:07:41 GMT -5
BM got her a new man  It must be really pathetic for everything to be happy happy joy joy when your life is great and your new man is all you ever dreamed, but when you dont, all hell breaks loose for everyone around you.  I thank the high heavens everyday that I love myself enough that my virtue is to be happy with or without a man. DH and BM were on the phone last night(something that rarely ever happens), but they were discussing the kids report cards, etc. So she's all bubbly on the phone and shyt telling DH how good of a father he is, etc. Which I think is great for a BM to appreciate a BD especially if he is a decent one, no issues. But why does it take for you to be happy and content in your life for you not to try to bring everyone else down with you? So now she wants DH to meet him since 'he's the man that will be around their children'. DH told her 'its funny how Jay been around for 8 years and you've had zero interest in meeting her'. I almost choked on my drink, hilarious. So now its 'I've never had a problem with Jay, I think she real cool'. Whatev chick. She use to cringe just hearing my name, and whoa, the couple of times I happen to be going over to my MIL's house without realizing she was there, she broke her neck getting out the door, ya know, because seeing me actually brings fruition to the fact that ((gasp)) I really do exist. She just seeing green clovers and blue diamonds right now, aint nobody stupid. I am so glad DH knows what time it is.Next thing you know, she'll be wanting to have a couples dinner with me and DH. I am so over her  Ok, just my vent for the day ;D |
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Post by gemmani on Nov 19, 2009 11:33:34 GMT -5
Well, at least it's a "pleasant" vent! LMAO!
Puppies, butterflies and rainbows come out when BM has herself a MAY-UN!! Gosh darnit!
Man, why can't they just be happy with themselves without NEEDING a man by their side? A man can't complete you, only you can complete you. But whatever, at least she's 'happy'.
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Post by jaylady999 on Nov 19, 2009 11:36:22 GMT -5
FOR NOW Honestly, I hope it works out for her. I want her to be happy and its not even for selfish reasons because her unhappiness didnt phase my life one way or the other. But I just want all women to be happy in general. |
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Post by chalan on Nov 19, 2009 16:14:35 GMT -5
Jay~ Good for your DH! Really, why does BM need to tell BD how great her new friend is? Why does she think he cares? Personally, I think they are hoping for some show jealousy. Any hint that he still cares. But hey, if it helps her stay away, I’m all for it.
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Post by jaylady999 on Nov 19, 2009 16:29:28 GMT -5
Jay~ Good for your DH! Really, why does BM need to tell BD how great her new friend is? Why does she think he cares? Personally, I think they are hoping for some show jealousy. Any hint that he still cares. But hey, if it helps her stay away, I’m all for it. Cha, I am soooo positive she wanted to hear a twinge of jealousy in DH's voice, but his voice was full of pure excitement ;D He actually wants to see her happy too. I just think its pretty crappy that she wants to call and talk about her new man but couldnt stand to even hear the mention of my name |
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Post by doinwatigottado on Nov 19, 2009 17:24:42 GMT -5
Wow!! Well, as a woman happy for her, but as BM puhlease. No one needs to be in the know but her and her MAN. Is your Dh going to meet him? AND will you be there? Just curious. lol. What's the point? What does she want to happen? Why would your Dh want to meet him? lol. She def. wants a reaction. Whateva. I'm glad your such a positive person Jay. REALLY. Best way to brush it off, especially cuz she has her subtle issues with you. Keep it up. ;D  |
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Post by jaylady999 on Nov 19, 2009 17:52:38 GMT -5
DH has no intention of meeting him, but what he thinks is going to happen is that her new man will be strategically placed at her house when she knows DH is coming to pick up the kids DH is like most men, dont really care one way or the other. If they meet, they'll give dap and say 'what up man, how you feelin' and thats the end of that  As for me? I want no parts of that. Since I never do pick ups and drop offs, if they do meet, I wont be anywhere around. ;D My world has been filled with sunshine and roses, long before I met DH, so if BM wants to share her happiness around, she can miss me. I been happy for years |
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Post by jusdntundstn on Nov 19, 2009 17:53:03 GMT -5
This month it's Ren, Next month it's Stimpy....Who even cares  Wait a sec, BD does.....NOT Ha to the Ha! |
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Post by gemmani on Nov 19, 2009 17:56:20 GMT -5
LOL @ Jus, ren and stimpy. I used to love that show!
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Post by jaylady999 on Nov 19, 2009 18:09:48 GMT -5
Wait a sec, BD does.....NOT Ha to the Ha!
LOL. I know right. I am honestly trying to remember 8 yrs ago when I met DH if I felt the need to call and share my joy with BD. I really dont think I did. I dont even remember how they met, but I definitely know it wasnt something I set up to happen.
Whatever friendship they have, they formed all by their lonesomes, I didnt have nothin to do with that. I will admit though, that I am truly glad that they both have a wonderful respect for one another and the position each one of them has in Lil Jays life. BD truly does recognize that DH is a positive force in our son's life and he appreciates it. He ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS calls DH every single year on father's day and expresses his gratitude.
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Post by gemmani on Nov 19, 2009 18:15:43 GMT -5
When people feel the need to "show-off" their new mate to their ex, it makes me wonder if the feelings for the ex ever went away. Why would it matter if you no longer felt anything toward the person?
Has she been sitting around pining for him for the last 8 years? I don't get it.
BM does the same thing, only not so overtly. She makes sure to call when we have the kids to mention that they should say hi to her new man, she'll send messages when it's time to get them about how her new man is dropping them off, etc.
Congrats! You have a man! Let me run and make you some cookies right now!
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Post by ty1981 on Nov 19, 2009 18:16:37 GMT -5
Banana Cream Pie has been real quiet since court. Like I said she even sent Morgan a welcome to the world gift. I wonder if she has a man.
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Post by gemmani on Nov 19, 2009 18:17:21 GMT -5
Most likely!
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Post by ty1981 on Nov 19, 2009 18:21:52 GMT -5
Well, thank God!
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Post by jaylady999 on Nov 19, 2009 18:28:33 GMT -5
When people feel the need to "show-off" their new mate to their ex, it makes me wonder if the feelings for the ex ever went away. Why would it matter if you no longer felt anything toward the person?
Exactly!
Has she been sitting around pining for him for the last 8 years? I don't get it.
Neither do I, but one thing I've always felt was that if he and I were to break up, and he'd have her(NEVER), but she'd take him back and there is no doubt in my mind about it. Most BMs tend to have a sense of entitlement to BD as if the fact that she had a child or two, or three(in your case Gem ;D) that she's entitled to him by whatever means necessary. And they do it out of the guise of 'for my family'. Give me a break.
Lil Jay, BD, and I are nothing close to a family. I am family to my son and BD is family to his son. BD and I are not family to each other. Although I considerably bypass BD and say all day long, his family is my family ;D Cant nobody tell me that Granny aint my Granny too. I love that lady!
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It must be really pathetic for everything to be happy happy joy joy when your life is great and your new man is all you ever dreamed, but when you dont, all hell breaks loose for everyone around you. 
