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Post by awsomalx on Apr 30, 2008 13:56:58 GMT -5
awsomalx if you're not a man sorry for I disagreeumption. If you are a man then d**n I'm good or maybe men just think alike when it comes to their mothers, but no love lost here welcome to BMD!! Yep Yep, I'm a Man in every sense of the word. I also hold no bones in telling you or anyone else that my T-Jones is more special to me then I could put to words. BUT if you were a bystander and heard my T-Jones and I interact, I'm sure you'd wonder if we even liked each other much, LOL. All your assumptions of me being the typical Man that can or does not stand up to his Mother are laughable in my case. My T-Jones has a strict tell the truth, feelings be d**n, policy. Once you reach the age of 16, you're GROWN and she treats as such. There is nothing out of bounds and nothing off limits, as long as it's the honest to God truth, it's all fair game. Good or bad (her issues or mine) we discuss and hold nothing back. My Mom's is a Multi-Degreed Clinical Psychologist, so we're not talking about some nut case with bad parenting skills. Do I tell my T-Jones about my going ons and such............... YEP YEP...................Does she opine on it Yes Sir! Does it carry any weight??? Without A Doubt. Albeit, my Moms mouth is nota prayer book. So if I were to ever be married, whomever the lucky lady is. She'll need a strong ethics policy on the truth and expect to deal with my T-Jones "openess" on all things I involve her in. If that's too much for someone or I seem like a "Momma's Boy" (there are worst things to be) she can speed on. My Mom's is the only love on Earth I've known to be true. I'll never put another person's before that (been let down one time too many trying that) |
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Post by memyslfni on Apr 30, 2008 14:23:12 GMT -5
Hey awsom, theres nothing wrong with being a "MOMMA'S BOY" but women do like a man that can fend for HIMSELF, With or Without her. Its NO wonder u made that comment "when u marry a man u marry his mom". WOW  If u dont mind me asking are u in a relationship now? And if so how does this woman feel about the attachment You have with Your Mum? |
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Post by awsomalx on Apr 30, 2008 14:48:24 GMT -5
Hey awsom, theres nothing wrong with being a "MOMMA'S BOY" but women do like a man that can fend for HIMSELF, With or Without her. and let me tell why....................I have had a job/hustle of some sort since I was 8 years of age. I grew up on the South Side of Chicago and did everything from hustling groceries (used to stand outside of Jewels and ask to help carry bags to the car for change) to selling papers on Stoney Island @79th (if you're familiar with the area, you'd know how daunting Stoney Island is and I was only 11 at the time) I left my T-Jones at 17 (went to the Military) and I've NEVER had to ask her for anything since in support. And I lived the life.........,Hustled dope, stole cars, jacked and got jacked, had no real place to call "home" for months at a time, did small bids (Thank God I beat them all with no felony convictions) all that. All this 1300 miles from home with NO family. NEVER ONCE did I call and ask my T-Jones for anything! And it's not that she couldn't afford it either. My Moms paid for BOTH of my brother's weddings (in full), has paid for my Nephews surgery forllowing an accident (insurance fell like 11 large short.....she wrote a check)..............basically we had it rough as shorties but once my T-Jones got that last Masters, she's never looked back financially. So please believe, I can "fend" for myself  and always have. Yep, I guess I am. I don't know how she feels about my RELATIONSHIP with my T-Jones......................I'll let her answer that one as I'm sure she'll read this (plus I can't speak for her..................and she types about 30WPM more then I do  ) |
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Post by memyslfni on Apr 30, 2008 15:43:22 GMT -5
I actually meant to fend for themselves in all aspects, financially, emotionally, socially, mentally capable of making decisions on their own. A grown a$$ person cant always go to their mom or dad every time they dont know what to do. Thats why in the end, its U that has to make that final decision. In ur case, U r fortunate to have a mom that is educated in the field she is in because she mostly likely has alot of advise to offer you. As far as relationship wise, the relationship between a man and woman and momma has to be air tight not to have any kinks in it. No matter who's momma. Please do invite ur lady friend to the board, Every woman has a little wisdom to offer.....Not that ur input isnt appreciated.  |
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Post by awsomalx on Apr 30, 2008 16:36:47 GMT -5
I actually meant to fend for themselves in all aspects, financially, emotionally, socially, mentally capable of making decisions on their own. That is such a bogus statement that Females use but NEVER adhere to. A Man can't go to his boys if he has an emotional issue (hell can we even have an emotional challenge at all). Women gather from far and wide to discuss/plot when their is any type of emotional crisis for them. Hell, can a group of women get together and NOT talk about Men, ever?  And socially................You have to be kidding me right? Yall can't even go to the bathroom alone! Financially, I won't even comment further then to say, I'm better then any woman I've met, when it comes to handling money (and if the other half comments to this thread, I hope she chimes in on that) I think you're directing all this at the wrong SEX. From my experiences in life/relationships it's the fairer of the sexes that need to cling to what's quoted above. Yep Yep, I believe that whole heartedly. I have kind of rift right now because my other half did a little something that is not kosher. We'll see how it plays out, my T-Jones is pretty understanding. She was here first and of course you think she has wisdone to offer (see above about woman and all the gathering/meeting ) |
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Post by destini1969 on Apr 30, 2008 20:35:50 GMT -5
 Wow I have to come back to this one!
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Post by destini1969 on Apr 30, 2008 22:39:06 GMT -5
Wow, since my DH has called me out, I guess I will have to respond to his (awsomalx) comments in this post... Yes, my DH (darling honey) and I are currently in a relationship, but we're going through a rough patch. I still love/want and need my DH more than anything I can think of. I would do ALMOST anything to get us back on track. EVEN POST MY PERSONAL BUSINESS ON THIS BOARD.... I actually love my DH's mom to pieces. She is witty, compassionate and has a heart of gold. I am pleased to see DH loves and respects his mom. Before I met my DH I prayed to God that he would bring me a man that is capable of such love. And boy did God hear me, but I think I should have been a little more descriptive because I got the love mixed in with the stubborness. A man's emotion is charged more differently than a woman's. Often times women cry and become bitter, where as men deal with their emotions through anger. The crying woman nags the man and the angry man shuts the woman down. This has been my experience with DH. My DH is much better controlling the finances than I am. A woman's expenses is much more than a man and there are some things in which as a woman I can't go without. Sorry, but I can justify in my mind why I need more shoes, clothing, starbucks, etc. My DH expressed something that I did which was unethical. This is true, I lied to my DH about something that involved me when initially asked. I lied because he may not have agreed with my decision and therefore would have given me lip service. When a partner responds poorly to the truth, that opens the door up for a lie. Our level of communication needs to improve. My DH may disagree but I know him better than he thinks. I don't respond well to loud voices of anger and disrespect. Actually he has a loud voice when he enters a room you will know he's there. Actually he and his mom both do, don't know why? hmmm. Yes, I was soooo excited about the people on this site, that I mentioned it to him and he signed up. I was surprised but happy to have a male's input on this site. So there you have it! My DH and I are having issues, but I am woman enough to know when I fudged up.  |
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Post by memyslfni on Apr 30, 2008 23:40:32 GMT -5
Wow, okayyy. Should I say KIss and Make Up Now.....Destin, whatever u did, momma did not like  OOoohh. Hope it wasnt to bad...and like ur dh said "Moms is pretty understanding". ;D |
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Post by lovejones08 on May 1, 2008 1:25:20 GMT -5
Thank you soooo much for your comments awsom......you have told me what? I'm happy that you and T-jones have a relationship that you, your wife/gf, and her will be holdin down for the 2009, but my post wasn't about a competition between mother and wife although you would think that way. pulled your card again. Anyway, like I stated before the issue is not with my Dh's mom and I because we're on the up and up, but the issue is with him and his mom and how the things she says affects him negatively then I have to lift his spirits back up again and I'm tired of it. So my questions was SHOULD I TALK TO HER OR LEAVE IT ALONE AND HOPE HE FINDS THE COURAGE TO SAY HOW HE FEELS? I also asked for responses related to my question. I guess we're not following directions, but DH has that same issue at times. THE BATTLE OF THE SEXES, HUH? Anyway, I encourage him to be a better man not tear him down due to his shortcomings thinking that will push him to pursue what I want him to pursue and if T-Jones did that for you and your married brothers then kudos for you all maybe you need to send a T-Jones post to his mother. So maybe you should consider re-reading my post before you go into the "Momma's Boy" story because I don't need to be in competition with anyone including his mom when it comes to DH because I know I was made to give him things that his mom can't or shouldn't be giving him......but thanks so much for your 101 lesson on men and their mommas. And I graduating in this month in Counseling Psychology so I guess T-Jones and I would get along well. Now when T-Jones starts making you feel like sh*t because your life wasn't the way she intended then get back to me on this topic. |
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Post by lovejones08 on May 1, 2008 1:38:34 GMT -5
Yes, destini girl more power to you because I see that Mr. awsom is anger about something and it appears as though he is studying psychology as well because he has a power come back to every line that someone says and thinks what people says is slap knee funny!! LOL well I can so relate to laughing at people post and like he said if you don't like it keep it movin' and I and so movin in the other direction because I'm a DADDY'S GIRL and daddy always told me to choose my battle but he does understand that I'm now ready to move on from DADDY'S GIRL to BIG DADDY'S GIRL!! So you win awsom LOL!!! I ride d*cks I don't wear them. Thanks for your input though it added some extra interest to my thread.
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Post by wbmama on May 1, 2008 7:55:35 GMT -5
What's T-Jones? Or who is she?
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Post by nomoredrama on May 1, 2008 8:38:28 GMT -5
I think T-Jones means his mother.
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Post by destini1969 on May 1, 2008 9:44:07 GMT -5
I didn't do/say anything offensive to his mom. Would never do that to my elders. I have gathered that (MOST) men are analytical and defensive about things and often times read more into what the woman is saying. When a woman is venting to them they are thinking a woman wants them to fix the problem. When actually a woman just want that man to LISTEN. I like the comment from lovejones08, you just ride thingys you don't wear them. The competition thing with a man isn't that serious, will never be for me. They can lead 24/7 all they want, just make sure you lead me in the right direction. That was the initial attraction for me with my DH. I am not sure what T-Jones is either. He may have entered a word and it subsituted for T-Jones. |
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Post by nomoredrama on May 1, 2008 10:10:14 GMT -5
Lovejones, here is your Kumbaya moment...Ahhh....That was so sweet...
Destini, I think you & your DH will be fine. He was man enough to come on this website & defend his viewpoints shows that you have a real man.
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Post by awsomalx on May 1, 2008 11:24:31 GMT -5
T-Jones is MOTHER it's a common slang term.
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If u dont mind me asking are u in a relationship now? And if so how does this woman feel about the attachment You have with Your Mum?
and always have.
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And socially................You have to be kidding me right? Yall can't even go to the bathroom alone! Financially, I won't even comment further then to say, I'm better then any woman I've met, when it comes to handling money (and if the other half comments to this thread, I hope she chimes in on that)
Wow I have to come back to this one! 
OOoohh. Hope it wasnt to bad...and like ur dh said "Moms is pretty understanding". ;D