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Post by wbmama on Apr 29, 2008 7:45:43 GMT -5
At what point in your lives' do you and Dh decide you've had enough BMD? How much should you have to put up with? How far should you let it go? Especially when you know that you're very existence is causing the child mental anguish because BM will never let up..
Do you cut ties completely? Do you walk away a little?
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Post by lovejones08 on Apr 29, 2008 14:40:34 GMT -5
Hell no you don't walk away. Walk away from who? No, don't entertain BM, but you stand ground in your household definitely unless DH isn't worth all of the drama because the drama may last until the end of times and the best thing to do is find alternatives to keeping yourself sane. For some BMs enough is never enough and DH will never get enough because he will always have this child by BM, but you don't necessarily have to stay and put up with it. Also, your existence is not what causing the child mental anguish unless you are doing things that you have not mentioned in your post otherwise that is between that child's mother/father whoever is keeping the DRAMA alive.
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Post by destini1969 on Apr 29, 2008 17:10:41 GMT -5
Interesting post...
DH and I have decided to walk away the agony is far too much for now. DH has tried countless times to get the child, but BM uses the child as a pawn. Getting the courts involved in this regard has proven to be useless. Child support payments isn't an issue it's the BM herself.
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Post by wbmama on Apr 29, 2008 17:12:57 GMT -5
Just brainstorming - wanting to get some different view points.
Thinking about Chapt 9. Wondered what you all thought of it?
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Post by nomoredrama on Apr 29, 2008 18:02:56 GMT -5
I feel ya on that one destini...I can't answer when enough is enough. When you have done all that you can within your power & your pocketbooks, you have to move on.
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Post by wbmama on Apr 29, 2008 19:04:07 GMT -5
Destini - do we have identical twin BM's who were separated at birth? LOL
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Post by destini1969 on Apr 29, 2008 21:52:00 GMT -5
Wouldn't be surprised!
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Post by lovejones08 on Apr 29, 2008 22:59:00 GMT -5
Well destin if you and DH walked about from each other over this then it may have been for the best. It is a tough situation and it's not something that everybody can deal with. Love and agony so not mix at all.
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Post by wbmama on Apr 30, 2008 4:33:41 GMT -5
lovejones - I was talking about walking away from the BM (and I think that's what Destin means)
Hell no, I ain't leaving my DH LOL!
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Post by yy73 on Apr 30, 2008 8:47:52 GMT -5
I am in a similar situation now, this has been going on for a year now. He can't see his son because he is with me. She constantly harrasses us.. She got his family against him and most embarrassing is she posts all this hateful stuff on her myspace with pictures of him and comments about me being a hoe.. Just basically ignorant stuff. It has caused us to fight and just has ruined many special occassions and holidays.. But as many times I have thought about just letting him go and walk away, I can't he lives with me, and we are truly happy together. I guess it depends on the person and what you are wiling to take. My girlfriend went through the same thing and 7 years later and 2 kids they just came back from there honeymoon, I attended there wedding last month it was beautiful and a happy ending. Hopefully I will have the same ending.. If we break up then she gets what she wants, she gets to sit back and laugh and she will continue to make whoever he is with life hell. But I decided not to give in to her wild antics and stick it out.. Eventually she will either get tired and give up or find herself another man who can occupy her time. either way Destini I am sorry to here you guys decided to walk away.. Things happen for a reason..
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Post by destini1969 on Apr 30, 2008 13:01:28 GMT -5
We've decided to step back temporarily from the child, not each other, at least not at this point. We are definitely going through a rough patch with last week being a breaking point for me. She came to the house (I live with him), put all kinds of hateful notes about my DH on MY CAR over 50 pages of crap. I went smooth off on my DH because that was my initial reaction. You just get to the point of when you're just tired of the drama. When I cooled the crap out! I came to my senses and DH advised if I give in to her actions, I would be giving her exactly what she wants. I have a good (although stubborn at times) man that understands me and my moods. That is a task in itself.  ) I AM HERE WITH DH like Bonnie and Clyde, like Will and Jada, like Oprah and Stedman, I guess you get the picture... |
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Post by lovejones08 on Apr 30, 2008 13:24:31 GMT -5
hahahah NOT Oprah and Stedman.......You would be better off saying Oprah and those d**n dogs of hers.
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Post by just2bme on Apr 30, 2008 13:39:47 GMT -5
Lol. That is funny. Oprah & the dogs.
Stedman got to sleep outside. ROFL. ;D
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Post by wbmama on Apr 30, 2008 18:07:48 GMT -5
I love Oprah!
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Post by destini1969 on Apr 30, 2008 20:30:32 GMT -5
I like Oprah's power and cash flow! ;D
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) I AM HERE WITH DH like Bonnie and Clyde, like Will and Jada, like Oprah and Stedman, I guess you get the picture...