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Post by jamirolove31 on Sept 20, 2011 9:11:34 GMT -5
First of all, you are HIS wife. And anything going on with his children from a previous relationship, you should have no concern with. Let your husband deal with her and keep your distance, unless you truly see strong evidence of child abuse happening. As I read many topics on here , a lot of them are bashing BMs I am a BM and I never got involved with my ex bf girlfriends, or now his wife. I didn't have any communication with them, because it cause drama. It's obvious that she (BM) is troubled but that is no reason to call DHS on her.
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Post by lark on Oct 12, 2011 21:32:49 GMT -5
sofedup,
I understand your frustration. You saw your husband in pain and wanted to lash out to protect him. But next time, sleep on it and don't call CPS. Even though it is awful that BM is probably encouraging alienation between the child and her father, know that if he continues being a loving father, she will see the truth. Especially at that age, children say things they don't mean because they don't know how to effectively express their frustrations. Just put yourself in her shoes. She loves both of her parents. When one parent bashes the other, she internalizes it and takes it to mean something must be wrong with her also. Encourage your husband to be the bigger person, ignore BMs games and just keep loving his child.
Spiteful bms use tactics like what you are describing to cause confusion in the household. They also know how to play their children against the other parent. This is a 6 year old spewing adult words that have no meaning to her. Do you really think a 6 year old knows what it means to be "worthless". She is just parroting a script BM gave her, and she said it to get mommy's approval. It's hard enough making a blended family work without a selfish parent adding to the turmoil. This is one thing that I do in my house. I have a 5 month old step daughter. I have explained to her that disrespect towards her mom in our home will not be tolerated under any circumstances. We don't talk about her mom and only nice things are said. Children a very perceptive. They, unlike most adults sadly, pay more attention to actions instead of words.
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