Post by madwhitegirl on Nov 11, 2011 17:43:18 GMT -5
Okay, so I have a 27 month old son with a previous BF and my boyfriend of 10 months also has a child, 18 month old son, with a previous GF a.k.a. BM!!! And just recently have things just hit the fan and I'm sick of it!
So me and my BF started dating and as soon as BM found out she flipped and called him, BM mama called him and blessed him out, cussed him and verbally bashed him and she denied my BF visitation. Which they were already in a custody battle that is still going on! Anyway, eventually she calmed down but STILL denied visitation until one random day my BF, my son and I planned to go to a zoo, well i suggested that he ask BM if his son could come as well... randomly and SURPRISINGLY she said yes! (Note that this was at around 3 months into our relationship) Well we go pick him up and the WHOLE 5 hours that we have him, BM constantly text him and asked for pictures! I mean I dont blame him for doing it then because the court hadnt made any final decisions but d**n if it didnt boil under my skin but i refrained from adding any comments. Well this sort of behavior has been going on and off our whole 10 month relationship.
A month ago my BF was cutting through a parking lot and happened to pass BM and she signaled their son was with her. So they parked and my BF got to see his son, he nicely asked if she would bring him by his work so that his family could see him and she agreed. (Of course..) But then she asked if he would go into the pharmacy to get their sons meds with her! He said yes?!?!? i was so upset when he revealed his actions, but he backed them with "i never get to see my son and that was the only reason i did that" i responded with "BM just told you she would bring him by his work" and we had a short argument and just dropped it.
Well this passed Wednesday my BF lawyer called him and said that temporary custody had been judge signed and that he could go get him that afternoon at 6 and keep him till the following morning at 7:45... well of course he goes 20 minutes away and picks him up BM keeps him over there for an hour talking to him and basically stalling time. My BF finally gets to his moms house so that everyone can see him and he tells me that he and his son have to stay at his moms because the judge disapproves or non married couples to live together with children in the house... so 1-2 nights a week he expects me to just think everythings okay and normal that he has to stay at his moms while me and my son stay at OUR home!!
When we first got this house 3 months ago, we both said that we wanted to do this so that all 4 of us could be together and start our own family and now its this!!! Not to mention the entire time my BF had his son that night BM text him twice, called his mom 2 times and text his sister non stop!!
She purposely does this! she dangles him intentionally!! She is nice for a few weeks then is a pure demon for months and so on and on... Since the day she found out we were together she has been insanely jealous and always does her best to put it in my face that she is going to be there forever and can do as she pleases with MY BF and there is nothing i can say or do... MY BF says that he IS going to text her back because he wants to stay on good terms with her for their sons sake! He says they are gonna stay at his moms the nights that he has him because his lawyer wont approve of him staying at our home! THEN he says he is nit going to change this around because he wants to see his son. Which i explained to him that there are legal papres written and there is NOTHIG BM can do to take your son away from you! But he goes back to the "keeping peace for their son"... i personally think that there is a difference in getting along than what they are doing now!
I dont know what to say to convince him of this? I dont know if this is just me? I need advise!!!!!
So me and my BF started dating and as soon as BM found out she flipped and called him, BM mama called him and blessed him out, cussed him and verbally bashed him and she denied my BF visitation. Which they were already in a custody battle that is still going on! Anyway, eventually she calmed down but STILL denied visitation until one random day my BF, my son and I planned to go to a zoo, well i suggested that he ask BM if his son could come as well... randomly and SURPRISINGLY she said yes! (Note that this was at around 3 months into our relationship) Well we go pick him up and the WHOLE 5 hours that we have him, BM constantly text him and asked for pictures! I mean I dont blame him for doing it then because the court hadnt made any final decisions but d**n if it didnt boil under my skin but i refrained from adding any comments. Well this sort of behavior has been going on and off our whole 10 month relationship.
A month ago my BF was cutting through a parking lot and happened to pass BM and she signaled their son was with her. So they parked and my BF got to see his son, he nicely asked if she would bring him by his work so that his family could see him and she agreed. (Of course..) But then she asked if he would go into the pharmacy to get their sons meds with her! He said yes?!?!? i was so upset when he revealed his actions, but he backed them with "i never get to see my son and that was the only reason i did that" i responded with "BM just told you she would bring him by his work" and we had a short argument and just dropped it.
Well this passed Wednesday my BF lawyer called him and said that temporary custody had been judge signed and that he could go get him that afternoon at 6 and keep him till the following morning at 7:45... well of course he goes 20 minutes away and picks him up BM keeps him over there for an hour talking to him and basically stalling time. My BF finally gets to his moms house so that everyone can see him and he tells me that he and his son have to stay at his moms because the judge disapproves or non married couples to live together with children in the house... so 1-2 nights a week he expects me to just think everythings okay and normal that he has to stay at his moms while me and my son stay at OUR home!!
When we first got this house 3 months ago, we both said that we wanted to do this so that all 4 of us could be together and start our own family and now its this!!! Not to mention the entire time my BF had his son that night BM text him twice, called his mom 2 times and text his sister non stop!!
She purposely does this! she dangles him intentionally!! She is nice for a few weeks then is a pure demon for months and so on and on... Since the day she found out we were together she has been insanely jealous and always does her best to put it in my face that she is going to be there forever and can do as she pleases with MY BF and there is nothing i can say or do... MY BF says that he IS going to text her back because he wants to stay on good terms with her for their sons sake! He says they are gonna stay at his moms the nights that he has him because his lawyer wont approve of him staying at our home! THEN he says he is nit going to change this around because he wants to see his son. Which i explained to him that there are legal papres written and there is NOTHIG BM can do to take your son away from you! But he goes back to the "keeping peace for their son"... i personally think that there is a difference in getting along than what they are doing now!
I dont know what to say to convince him of this? I dont know if this is just me? I need advise!!!!!