Post by jaylady999 on Nov 29, 2012 13:44:49 GMT -5
And that's the thing. The difference between me and you is that no BM holds enough weight in my life for me to expect anything from her. My DH won't ever let her disrespect me on any level, but I realize the only person I have control over is myself. I don't expect, request, or need respect from BM. She's a non issue to me.
Seriously, if you are doing so much for your SD without being the actual parent and expecting anything in return for it (especially from the BM no less), you have to know that is a risk you are taking.
Quite frankly, without me having birthed or legally adopted either of my skids, I just know my place, regardless of how much I do for them. I know that at any given moment, the bio parent does trump any stepparent. You may not like it, but it is what it is. Like I said before, one trip to family court will absolutely shed the light on where you really stand as opposed to where you think you should stand in your SDs life.
Again, you are talking to a SM who does way more than the average SM for my stepbabies. It seems that you do too. It's a good thing. It only becomes an issue when you think you have certain rights simply because of your presence in your SDs life.
But as I said before. I don't give a d**n about BM. Not her feelings, not her thoughts of me, nothing. My husband is a gem. He appreciates everything I do for his kids and so do my skids themselves. That is way more than good enough for me.
Seriously, if you are doing so much for your SD without being the actual parent and expecting anything in return for it (especially from the BM no less), you have to know that is a risk you are taking.
Quite frankly, without me having birthed or legally adopted either of my skids, I just know my place, regardless of how much I do for them. I know that at any given moment, the bio parent does trump any stepparent. You may not like it, but it is what it is. Like I said before, one trip to family court will absolutely shed the light on where you really stand as opposed to where you think you should stand in your SDs life.
Again, you are talking to a SM who does way more than the average SM for my stepbabies. It seems that you do too. It's a good thing. It only becomes an issue when you think you have certain rights simply because of your presence in your SDs life.
But as I said before. I don't give a d**n about BM. Not her feelings, not her thoughts of me, nothing. My husband is a gem. He appreciates everything I do for his kids and so do my skids themselves. That is way more than good enough for me.