Post by Deleted on Nov 13, 2013 15:37:02 GMT -5
I've actually seen this before and I agree with it completely. If anyone ever wants to know "why"...well this is probably your manual; one of these reasons or another-heck, it could be more than one. Its easy to just point the finger and say she's CRAZY and I have been down that road, around the block and back. After about 9 years, I have only JUST RECENTLY decided and REALIZED that I need to step back. I have removed myself from any kind of dealings with my husbands BM and SO FAR there has not been an altercation of any kind. It's only been a few weeks but so far so good. I hate to say it was me keeping it going but whether or not the BM is looney or not, I KEPT it going by giving her ammo, which I know we've all heard that a million times before but (for me) it seems to have been true. I have always wanted to show my control over MY husband and MY household so I was sure to make myself and my IMPORTANCE known. It was due to my insecurities with my husband bc of the way his BM came to be. He cheated on me with her (before we were actually married, but still....he cheated) and therefore even though he and I mended our relationship, I still had doubts DEEP down in my heart bc of how it all came about. It took YEARS for me to get cofidence in my relationship with him and a lot of growing and maturing as well. At this point, I have come a LONG way and a lot of it, had to do with the people I surround myself with and becoming a Christian. I put all of this in God's hands and that has worked for me. My husband has done a comeplete 360 and so have I and I just hope things continue to work out. Sometimes we have to put ourselves in another persons shoes and let God take control....
