Post by monroe543 on Mar 31, 2014 15:18:43 GMT -5
This is a long story but i just need to vent and some help relieving this stress.
I've been with my significant other for 5 years. When we first got together he had just gotten out of a relationship. We were young (I was 17 he was 19) and we were attached from very early on. Fast forward 4 months every thing seemed tobe perfect. We had moved in together and were very serious. My dad was dying at the time and he was there for me creating a very strong bond. Until it all came crashing down with a wave of unexpected news. His girlfriend prior to me was 4 months pregnant with his child. I was devastated and although I wasn't cheated on i still felt strongly betrayed. Everything I had imagined and held in my heart for our future was ruined. I had wanted my own family and hoped very strongly to create it with him. To know it had been taken from me rightfrom under my nose was devastating at the age of 17. Bm had never been easy to deal with and always concentrated her hatred towards me being the new woman in his life. Constant emails and phone calls directed towards me in the worst way adding to my hurt. My so was unsure if the child was 100% his and I knew bm in the community was not a saint so i hung on to the hope that maybe it was not his. Then the DNA results came in and I was just overwhelmed because it all became real at that point. I made a decision that although I was hurt that I loved him too much to leave. I stayed out of their business but was still affected by it. For the first year bm's hatred for me and my so for moving on caused her to deny my so any type of visits with his son. I wanted to know that if I was going to someday have a family with this man that he would take care of this child. He did in an amazing way. Fought in court for visitation and never missed a child support payment. Court was finally finalized the day before his childs first birthday. She had no other choice but to comply with the visiting schedule. She tried her Hardest not to let my so be involved. She got in to a car accident and used her sons minor injuries as an opportunity to file a restraining order for her son against my so claiming he caused the injuries. In which luckily we were able to disprove. She went as far as attempting to move out of state. I could go on and on. During this time so and I became pregnant with our son in which bm became insanely jealous. When my son was born bm called him a "crosseyed fatass handicapped baby" and asked if we needed a wheelchair. He is perfectly healthy with no medical issues she is just hateful. The next year things seemed to calm down and everyone was civil and easy like it should be. Until once again things took a turn for the worse. Bm abandoned her son for meth. My so and i moved him in with us and cared for him with no support what so ever from bm. Bm tried to kidnap him under the influence. She called repeatedly with insane threats and showed up at our house trying to cause trouble and fights. She finally landed in jail a few times til she was sentenced to 6 months rehab. The child is 4 now and has been with us since he turned 3. I have taken care of him as if he was my own. Him and my 3 year old are very close brothers. Things have settled nicely till once again it starts to crumble. Bm just got out of rehab and has now filed for her to be the custodial parent once again. I'm just so depressed and tired of the constant stress. I know it is my so battle but I am very much involved and have been a mother to this child the last year. Any advice? I love myso and both children very much. It is just the bm is so much to deal with and does whatever to hurt us. What can I do to feel better? Its taking a toll on me emotionally. Just need someone to talk to really. I know its not my business but it doesn't change this heartache. Thank you for your time.
I've been with my significant other for 5 years. When we first got together he had just gotten out of a relationship. We were young (I was 17 he was 19) and we were attached from very early on. Fast forward 4 months every thing seemed tobe perfect. We had moved in together and were very serious. My dad was dying at the time and he was there for me creating a very strong bond. Until it all came crashing down with a wave of unexpected news. His girlfriend prior to me was 4 months pregnant with his child. I was devastated and although I wasn't cheated on i still felt strongly betrayed. Everything I had imagined and held in my heart for our future was ruined. I had wanted my own family and hoped very strongly to create it with him. To know it had been taken from me rightfrom under my nose was devastating at the age of 17. Bm had never been easy to deal with and always concentrated her hatred towards me being the new woman in his life. Constant emails and phone calls directed towards me in the worst way adding to my hurt. My so was unsure if the child was 100% his and I knew bm in the community was not a saint so i hung on to the hope that maybe it was not his. Then the DNA results came in and I was just overwhelmed because it all became real at that point. I made a decision that although I was hurt that I loved him too much to leave. I stayed out of their business but was still affected by it. For the first year bm's hatred for me and my so for moving on caused her to deny my so any type of visits with his son. I wanted to know that if I was going to someday have a family with this man that he would take care of this child. He did in an amazing way. Fought in court for visitation and never missed a child support payment. Court was finally finalized the day before his childs first birthday. She had no other choice but to comply with the visiting schedule. She tried her Hardest not to let my so be involved. She got in to a car accident and used her sons minor injuries as an opportunity to file a restraining order for her son against my so claiming he caused the injuries. In which luckily we were able to disprove. She went as far as attempting to move out of state. I could go on and on. During this time so and I became pregnant with our son in which bm became insanely jealous. When my son was born bm called him a "crosseyed fatass handicapped baby" and asked if we needed a wheelchair. He is perfectly healthy with no medical issues she is just hateful. The next year things seemed to calm down and everyone was civil and easy like it should be. Until once again things took a turn for the worse. Bm abandoned her son for meth. My so and i moved him in with us and cared for him with no support what so ever from bm. Bm tried to kidnap him under the influence. She called repeatedly with insane threats and showed up at our house trying to cause trouble and fights. She finally landed in jail a few times til she was sentenced to 6 months rehab. The child is 4 now and has been with us since he turned 3. I have taken care of him as if he was my own. Him and my 3 year old are very close brothers. Things have settled nicely till once again it starts to crumble. Bm just got out of rehab and has now filed for her to be the custodial parent once again. I'm just so depressed and tired of the constant stress. I know it is my so battle but I am very much involved and have been a mother to this child the last year. Any advice? I love myso and both children very much. It is just the bm is so much to deal with and does whatever to hurt us. What can I do to feel better? Its taking a toll on me emotionally. Just need someone to talk to really. I know its not my business but it doesn't change this heartache. Thank you for your time.