Post by lb on Mar 6, 2017 13:05:07 GMT -5
I've been experiencing drama with my fiancé BM for over 3 years!. I've tried to avoid & stay out of his drama on many occasions.. He wants to marry me & I really do love him, but I'm at my wits end with the situation.. I have went through the drama of being stalked on every social media account I own.. She's to poison the minds of his child, family, and friends against me.. She constantly tries to use the court & law to take advantage of my fiancé!.. She constantly threatens and seeks malicious ways to lock him up.. His daughter who is 7 has a behavior that is horrible she is a spoiled and rude child.. She is constantly in trouble at school and her mother cannot control her!.. I have a child of my own & they don't get a long at all!.. Recently I planned a trip for us with my family & his BM found a way to make it about her wants once again.. He asked to get his child early on a Thursday night for his court ordered weekend so we could leave Friday early morning.. It was a weekend trip and the place was about a 7 hr drive.. She said no that he would have to pick her up at his court ordered time on Friday which is Friday at 7pm.. This meant that since we couldn't leave early my child would miss out on the events on Friday that my family planned for us or another option would be for me to drive by myself for 7hrs without him & they would come later.. The BM ended up letting her come with us early last min because his daughter begged her constantly, but my issue is am I suppose to live my life around what she says goes!. I told him that if she says no the first time I am going to just count her out.. I'm not going out of my way to make sure his daughter is there if her mom does not want coparent properly and wants her daughter to miss out.. Am I wrong for not allowing her to dictate my relationship and use his daughter as a pawn to control our relationship!. When she wants their daughter on his CO time he lets her get their daughter with no issues.. Why can't it be the same.. My problem is if we were to have our own kids and the issue arised again would he be ok with missing out on our kids events just to go out of his way to make sure his daughter can be there.. I'm not ok with that.. He doesn't get what I'm saying and just brushes me off because he doesn't want issues with his BM. If my BD asks for something simple as he did from her I say yes no problem and have my daughters things ready!.. She's so bitter and I'm tired of her and their drama..