Post by vyren on May 11, 2008 16:44:49 GMT -5
60,000 characters, eh? I'll have to paraphrase.
New to this board, interesting reads but nothing like what I'm going through.
SO - 7 years ago I find out this girl I've been dating for 3 years is pregnant. I'm 21 at the time, pull up my bootstraps and grow up in a hurry. BM wants an abortion, I refuse to pay or go along with it, so she has the kid. BM's mom is praying nightly she miscarries. Nobody but me wants this child.
Love my daughter, put her to bed every night, play with her all day long. Support her and her mother, go completely broke doing it.
I catch her cheating (using my condoms, none-the-less) so I leave her ass in a hurry (Oh - right after she got 250K from her father's life insurance...I'm so not there for the money).
Two months later she is dangling my daughter in my face (literally, holding her crying in my face) and basically guilts me into coming back. With that insurance money WE purchase a house. I dump about $20K into the house (Repairs, etc) starting in Feb of 05. By May 05 she tells me she thinks I'm only there for the money. So I take my name off the house and we sign a 1 year lease for me to live there.
Things go down-hill. In the summers I work 80-90 hours a week, guess what BMD was up to while I was off working?
Cheating, with my daughter in tow the entire time.
I wake up one Sunday morning in November and am informed I must move out that day. Again, to keep it short - she leaves and comes back not only with the cops but her mother and her BOYFRIEND. She took all my paperwork from my office showing ownership of any property in the house and our lease so I have no choice I must leave THAT MINUTE. As I'm packing things up, the police inform me I must leave NOW. I can come back for my stuff later. Why? Because her boyfriend was moving in that night. I didn't even get to say goodbye to my daughter. I am forced to leave everything but my clothes, including my golden retriever puppy. We agree, in front of the cops, that she will keep my dog until I can find a home that I can have dogs.
Dude - What a sleeper - so I get a DNA test.
Yep - not my kid. Tell my BMD that I know, she tells me she has known since day one. She then gives away my dog in retaliation. I contact the police, they tell me they will not take any complaints from me and I must sue in civil court. I then ask about the reports from this day to show what happened... No reports, only a record that they had to come out to the house.
I'm not allowed to see my child until I take BM to court (At that time I was accused of "coming after her for breaking up with me". I'm told wonderful things like "she's not your kid, why do you care?". After the court gives me a WHOLE 7 HOURS A WEEK with my kid, I come to find that while I was out of the picture my kid was not allowed to talk or ask about me. I am not her dad, the new guy is.
She is being told that the police watch me and if I'm not nice to her they will "take me away". Now every time we drive past a speed limit sign she reads it and checks how fast I'm going to make sure I don't get "taken away again". At 6 years old her grandma has taught her all about sex, told her I am not her father, told her mom broke up with me because I wouldn't buy things for anyone but myself, I stole from mom, I hit mom, and so on and so on...
Every time I push for more time or holidays all I get is "she's not your kid, why do you care?"
Now, she wants child support.
My daughter has an obvious complex and nobody cares.
Nothing I say is even noticed, since my daughter is "lying" about everything and everything is fine.
Oh, have I mentioned how my daughter's step-father is abusive to BM? Yep, my daughter tells me - I report it - I'm lying. I've even video taped the two of us from the time I pick her up to the time I drop her off to show I don't have the time to put thing in her head. No evidence, my 6 year old must be lying at my own doing.
Wisconsin is a horrible state to have a kid in...I've gotten ZERO support from the local government -- unless its money, that I must give without question.
Its killing me to see this happen to my daughter -- and I can't do anything to stop it, so it looks like I'm going to have to remove myself as her father and move on with my life. I haven't slept well since this all happened and have developed many complexes of my own...I just cannot deal with it anymore. My life has been completely destroyed and nobody even wants to listen. Because I have a thingy.
DON'T EVER HAVE KIDS.
New to this board, interesting reads but nothing like what I'm going through.
SO - 7 years ago I find out this girl I've been dating for 3 years is pregnant. I'm 21 at the time, pull up my bootstraps and grow up in a hurry. BM wants an abortion, I refuse to pay or go along with it, so she has the kid. BM's mom is praying nightly she miscarries. Nobody but me wants this child.
Love my daughter, put her to bed every night, play with her all day long. Support her and her mother, go completely broke doing it.
I catch her cheating (using my condoms, none-the-less) so I leave her ass in a hurry (Oh - right after she got 250K from her father's life insurance...I'm so not there for the money).
Two months later she is dangling my daughter in my face (literally, holding her crying in my face) and basically guilts me into coming back. With that insurance money WE purchase a house. I dump about $20K into the house (Repairs, etc) starting in Feb of 05. By May 05 she tells me she thinks I'm only there for the money. So I take my name off the house and we sign a 1 year lease for me to live there.
Things go down-hill. In the summers I work 80-90 hours a week, guess what BMD was up to while I was off working?
Cheating, with my daughter in tow the entire time.
I wake up one Sunday morning in November and am informed I must move out that day. Again, to keep it short - she leaves and comes back not only with the cops but her mother and her BOYFRIEND. She took all my paperwork from my office showing ownership of any property in the house and our lease so I have no choice I must leave THAT MINUTE. As I'm packing things up, the police inform me I must leave NOW. I can come back for my stuff later. Why? Because her boyfriend was moving in that night. I didn't even get to say goodbye to my daughter. I am forced to leave everything but my clothes, including my golden retriever puppy. We agree, in front of the cops, that she will keep my dog until I can find a home that I can have dogs.
Dude - What a sleeper - so I get a DNA test.
Yep - not my kid. Tell my BMD that I know, she tells me she has known since day one. She then gives away my dog in retaliation. I contact the police, they tell me they will not take any complaints from me and I must sue in civil court. I then ask about the reports from this day to show what happened... No reports, only a record that they had to come out to the house.
I'm not allowed to see my child until I take BM to court (At that time I was accused of "coming after her for breaking up with me". I'm told wonderful things like "she's not your kid, why do you care?". After the court gives me a WHOLE 7 HOURS A WEEK with my kid, I come to find that while I was out of the picture my kid was not allowed to talk or ask about me. I am not her dad, the new guy is.
She is being told that the police watch me and if I'm not nice to her they will "take me away". Now every time we drive past a speed limit sign she reads it and checks how fast I'm going to make sure I don't get "taken away again". At 6 years old her grandma has taught her all about sex, told her I am not her father, told her mom broke up with me because I wouldn't buy things for anyone but myself, I stole from mom, I hit mom, and so on and so on...
Every time I push for more time or holidays all I get is "she's not your kid, why do you care?"
Now, she wants child support.
My daughter has an obvious complex and nobody cares.
Nothing I say is even noticed, since my daughter is "lying" about everything and everything is fine.
Oh, have I mentioned how my daughter's step-father is abusive to BM? Yep, my daughter tells me - I report it - I'm lying. I've even video taped the two of us from the time I pick her up to the time I drop her off to show I don't have the time to put thing in her head. No evidence, my 6 year old must be lying at my own doing.
Wisconsin is a horrible state to have a kid in...I've gotten ZERO support from the local government -- unless its money, that I must give without question.
Its killing me to see this happen to my daughter -- and I can't do anything to stop it, so it looks like I'm going to have to remove myself as her father and move on with my life. I haven't slept well since this all happened and have developed many complexes of my own...I just cannot deal with it anymore. My life has been completely destroyed and nobody even wants to listen. Because I have a thingy.
DON'T EVER HAVE KIDS.
