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Post by LOL on May 22, 2008 14:07:04 GMT -5
You are right Destini that is in a perfect world. If both are financially stable and both contribute and the custodial parent gets laid off should the children be uprooted and move to live with the noncustodial parent until custodial parent gets back on their feet? Then shifted again when custodial parent finds a new job. What if mom and dad don't get along and with joint custody still cannot agree on anything? What if the CP makes less than the NCP there are so many factors to consider. The NCP may make more but the kids may not want to live with him or her and the NCP may actually want to be the NCP. Some daddies don't like being on diaper duty and car pooling etc.
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Post by destini1969 on May 22, 2008 14:28:08 GMT -5
If both are financially/mentally capable of taking care of the child, they should. The child won't be uprooted because BOTH were sharing in the responsibilities of the child. Again, that's the perfect world.
We live in a world where most BM/BD don't get along because one is trying to control the other. And really it's the BM trying to control the BD because the BM is feeling/hurt/rejected and everything in between!
The child has a say in where they prefer to reside in most states after a certain age. If the child prefers to go with the less structured parent, etc then the child's academic performance should be a determing factor.
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Post by LOL on May 22, 2008 16:42:17 GMT -5
Personally I've seen cases of both BD trying to control BM and BM trying to control BD. Often times people will try to inflict emotional distress on people they cannot control can be true for BM or for BD. In other words as my nieces and nephews say they are "hating" whoever is attempting to cause emotional distress or being plain nasty. In some cases in can be both that are doing it.
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Post by memyslfni on May 22, 2008 17:38:02 GMT -5
I think that is why alot of times bm's set an agreement for the child to spend time with the father and cancel at the last minute. Too have an excuse to get emotional/confrontational with the father and therefore volunteering himself in an endless battle of emotions with the bm. Which makes her day because she's gotten his undivided attention be it good or bad....  This reminds me of a new post I wanted to make... ;D |
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Post by wowposter on Sept 8, 2008 19:49:58 GMT -5
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This reminds me of a new post I wanted to make... ;D