Not his, but emotionally attached

[claire]

I am currently dating a great guy, who recently came out of a relationship with a woman who had "his" baby while they were together. After the child was born he found out the child wasn't his, but stayed with her and the child for 8 more months.

The relationship didn't work out and now he's with me, but still keeps in contact with her via text messaging and she comes over to get her mail.

I know he wants a relationship with this child, but I also know the "ex" wants him back, as well.

What should I do? I am very happy with this guy, otherwise, but not happy with the "ex" still in his life.

[theotherwoman]

You should tell him how that his contact with her makes you feel uncomfortable. Explain to him that for the relationship to be successful you need to be comfortable. You shouldnt have to feel uncomfortable about this issue.

[theotherwoman]

He also needs to make a decision if he wants to be in the childs life or not. If he does, you need to decide if you can handle his contact with the mother. That is a part of him you will have to accept. I know the situation can be tough... I have been there myself

[pisces22687]

Maybe it's best if you sit down with him and basicly ask him about his feelings for her and if he can't tell you how he feel towards this female then you need to go to plan B. I know he may love this innocent baby as well but now he has to make a choice because he's not in it alone and you have feelings too...

[jusdntundstn]

Run while you can, thats 18 years worth of attachments that aint his. He needs to let her come pick up her mail and her mail only....If he cant do that gyrl plan B is always an option. Dont get your feelings to wrapped up in that just yet..at least you two come to a mutual understanding. Gyrl dont be afraid to lay it all down. Its still early for you. MORE POWER TO U