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Post by Keia1 on Apr 15, 2008 17:17:11 GMT -5
What do you really gain by getting in BM/BD business? Does anything ever change? Does the drama pick up or slow down. Just curious?
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Post by wbmama on Apr 15, 2008 18:25:37 GMT -5
Elaborate on what you mean by"getting in BM/BD business"....
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Post by Keia1 on Apr 15, 2008 18:30:04 GMT -5
By becoming involved whether on your own or when and if she starts something with you?
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Post by jusdntundstn on Apr 15, 2008 19:23:48 GMT -5
U see Keia1, its not about us getting into their business. When DH comes to us with their business/probelms it automatically puts us in it. When your man comes to you about a problem at work, bm's or anywhere else it becomes our business. Because we have to be that shoulder or that strength that they need to overcome whatever it is that they are going through. And being their women we can either be for it or against it..hope this sheds some light.
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Post by jusdntundstn on Apr 15, 2008 20:58:32 GMT -5
Aint that about a B!*@! how she told him not to tell, just to plot on tellin you herself. These ingrates are somethin else and she diggin for more. You right as usual gurl there needs to be a limit on the $$, no more and no less. That is unless ya'll fall behind on the CS.
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Post by junieb2 on Apr 15, 2008 21:09:18 GMT -5
DH business is my business, therefore BM business is my business when it affects DH
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Post by wbmama on Apr 16, 2008 4:58:42 GMT -5
I agree with Junieb2 - we have a understanding, that we are sharing our lives therefore, BMD is part of that.
Think of it like this...if something positive goes on with BM isn't that ok to share that with you?
So why not the negative?
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Post by Ihateher on Apr 18, 2008 11:35:19 GMT -5
Baby mama is always there with me.. It slows down but never goes away
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Post by nomoredrama on Apr 18, 2008 14:31:53 GMT -5
Ihateher. BM won't go away as long as child is around. We just have to learn to cope with BM and not stoop to BM's level.
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Post by wbmama on Apr 18, 2008 15:20:17 GMT -5
We wish BM would go away - its a matter of dealing with what we've got. And yes, Telitlikitis, not stooping to their level all the time.....lol!!!!
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Post by nomoredrama on Apr 18, 2008 19:03:44 GMT -5
Yeah. Sometimes it is fun to stoop to their level to give them a dose of their own medicine.
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Post by downazzchick on Apr 18, 2008 22:06:14 GMT -5
I hate to drop down, but I love to see her face crack wide open when her drama has failed. LOL! You know me and DH are bestfriends and we just look at each other with that questionable sideways glance and the DH bust her game right down the middle!
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Post by wbmama on Apr 19, 2008 4:38:27 GMT -5
That's great downazz!! Yesterday we did that - we teamed up and the bit*h shut up!!!
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Post by cloudy752001 on Apr 29, 2008 16:38:23 GMT -5
Someone made a point that if the DH/BF comes to you about his problems then they become your problems. But if your man is complaining about his boss do you call his boss and cuss his boss out? Do you attend his meetings at work to make sure that his boss doesn't get to him? Or do you let him handle his business?
I say all this to say that there's a LIMIT to what you should involve yourself in. The same composure that you uphold when it comes to the tribulations of his profession, should be (to some extent,) the same when it comes to matters with how he handles situations with the BM.
You may say "that's different," "he could lose his job," but if you're fighting the BM for him, then doesn't he still face losing something also (the child?)
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Post by wbmama on Apr 29, 2008 17:03:51 GMT -5
I think that's a GREAT point Cloudy (about the boss). See that's what I love - ideas, brainstorming!
Anyway, here's what makes that different....if my DH's boss called my house and cussed me out, or snooped around my house, or called my child names etc....then HIS boss has pulled ME into the mess and I'm only going to stand quietly and take it for so long until I cuss the bast*rd out!
This is how BM pulls you in. I spent 8 months quiet - putting up with whatever she did. Then I had enough - cause what she was doing was just to my DH it was to me too.
Loosing the child? My DH doesn't even get to talk to his child on the phone....not because of what I've done ... because she's beyond angry and bitter. So, he can't really loose something he's never really had.
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