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Post by wbmama on Apr 16, 2008 9:11:08 GMT -5
Wow - she is amazing. She should write a book on how not to be a CBM! I could use that one myself! LOL!
See... she got her Karma -marring a wonderful man.
What a great story - thanks for sharing Tellitlikitis!
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Post by Keia1 on Apr 16, 2008 11:28:55 GMT -5
That's exactly how BD's family did me even though he was the one in the wrong. It's so crazy but like your friend I had to learn to forgive for my own sake. I think she did it for herself and for her kids. She was no good to them full of bitterness. God will take care of HIM in the end. But it's good to know that there are women out there who have experienced the same thing as me and made it through.
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Post by lovejones08 on Apr 17, 2008 11:40:05 GMT -5
Understanding that although BM negative and does things that I have all right to take personal it I push her out of my mind and realize that if I was the next chick or bald head with one tooth she would still act the same way. Understanding that her actions will not dictate my life and happiness with the man that I love and the man that loves me no matter what she does. It is a battle and it has been an interesting journey, but in the end when I see his love for his child the way my father loved me and I see his sexy smile and his big strong arms rapped tight around me it's like. HUH?! What!? BM, WHO??! Nope, don't know her! What's her name again?? LOL I found my happiness and I loved myself first and knew I deserved it. Nothing worth having comes easy and without of fight is what my father always told me.
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Post by downazzchick on Apr 17, 2008 14:13:52 GMT -5
I think I was able to move on because my BD told everybody he could that he did not think my (notice i said my) baby was his. After begging me to marry him and I refused. He was angry and automatically thought otherwise.I just did not want a future with him and I did not waste my time running away from him. My heart was elsewhere (with my husband) For me my reputation means a lot and I was already in a bad situation. I automatically thought less of him because of this. I could care less if he ever saw my baby. One thing about it I never stood in the way of him having a relationship with the child. If he came knocking I had the bags/bottles packed. I know the situation sounds bad, but that is what is real.
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