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[jusdntundstn]

Ya'll know how Bm's do ThInGs InDiReCtLy JuSt To geT a reAcTioN fRom Us? WeLl wHaT hAs YoUr bM DoNe To TrY tO gEt a ReAtIoN fRoM U?

[jusdntundstn]

For instance, mine recently tried to manipulate dh into coming along on a pic outting with her and the kids. Ya'll know she was up to somethin? Expecting him not to tell me and get his A$$ chewed out once I found out after the fact..yall tell me.

[jusdntundstn]

SOMETHING ELSE MY BM DID TO GET MY ATTENTION WAS SENDING MY DH A PIC OF HER TO HIS PHONE AND TOLD HIM TO SAVE IT TO HER #. AND YA'LL KNOW HE DID IT UNCONCIOUSLY NOT THINKING ABOUT HER AS THE SLICK LTL PREG DOG SHE IS! I DIDNT KNOW OF THIS UNTIL MY DAUGHTER BROUGHT ME HIS CELL PHONE AS SHE WAS CALLLIN. I WAS SOOO HOT YA'LL BUT I MANAGED NOT TO MAKE IT TO OBVIOUS. HE DELETED IT RIGHT AWAY SO THAT WAS THE END OF THAT. SOMETIMES I JUST BE LIKE "WHEN ARE YOU GONNA STOP THINKING EVERYTHING SHE SAY IS RIGHT"? WHATS UP WITH THAT? IM TRYING TO MAINTAIN MY DIGNITY YALL, THIS WOMAN HAS NEVER CALLED MY HOME NUT HAS CALLED MY CELL ONCE WHEN WE STARTED DATING. NEVER NOTHING NEGATIVE TOWARDS ME. SHE CANT WAIT FOR ME TO ANSWER HIS PHONE CUZ SHE USED TO BLOWIN HIS PHONE UP.

OH AND ONE MORE SITUATION A WHILE BACK I TEXT HIM, CUZ I KNOW HE VISITING WITH HIS KIDS AND AT SOME POINT HE FELL A ASLEEP AT HER HOUSE DURING THE VIST. SHE GOT HIS PHONE WHILE ASLEEP AND TEXT ME BACK SAYING "IM BUSY FU@*@!% WITH SOMEBODY ELSE" COME ON NOW? I KNEW IT WAS HER FROM DA JUMP TRYIN TO GET MY ATTENTION. SHE DIDNT GET FAR WITH IT, I LET HIM HANDLE IT. ANYWAYS THIS WAS WHEN I KNEW HE WASNT MESSIN WITH HER NO MORE AND IF IT WAS THAT SERIOUS SHE WOULD HAD CALLED ME. ITS FUNNY, AS SOON AS HE GOES TO SEE HIS KIDS THE FIRST THING THAT SHOOTS OUT HER MOUTH IS MY NAME. ITS LIKE SHE IS CURIOUS TO MEET ME BUT DONT WANT TO ADMIT IT. IN A SENSE THE IGNORING DOES WORK BECAUSE SHE IS CURIOUS LIKE "WHO IS THIS MYSTERY WOMAN"? BOTH HIS BM'S HAD A SO CALLED FRIENDLY RELATIONSHIP AT ONE POINT TIL IT ALL WENT DOWN THE DRAIN. I FEEL LIKE ONLY REASON THEY WANT TO ME THE NEW WOMAN IS TO SIZE'EM UP. WHY GIVE HER THE PLEASURE? NOT SAYIN I WOULD TURN DOWN THE OFFER.

YA'LL, I KNOW HALF THE STUFF I SAY MAY NOT MAKE SENSE. THIS IS JUST THE METHOD TO MY MADNESS. I AM VEENNTTINNGGG! (LOL)

[jusdntundstn]

Sometimes i think about callin bm on some of her mess but I then i think about it like Its only gonna make things worse and im gonna want to snatch her tonsils out her mouth. I figure I'll just react off of dh's moves. I think he pretty much knows its best to deal with it (her) himself, which I'll give him credit for.

[downazzchick]

Lol...tellitlikeitis, you are crazy! BM dates in and out of every race color and creed. Someone even told us one time that she was living with another woman who had kids. Eew! And some things I just wouldn't touch. I think if Osama Bin Laden winked his eye at her she would jump in the bed with him. You might want to re think that thought. That's just nasty! Even SD knows it. We were at a game and SD's band director walked up to me and started talking (you know trying to "TALK"). After we left SD's friends were saying how their teacher was trying to talk to me and Y? I didn't talk back. SD said to her friends "he got the wrong one" my mama the one that dates all different kinds of men. It felt good to hear that.

Oh every family gathering we go to at MIL house BM will come and bring that same ole key ring (you know the big square one from back in the day) with her and BD picture on it. She will hold her keys in her hand the whole day and there will be some idiot family member who asks to see it! That is a terrible picture of them both! Get over it girlfriend!

[lovejones08]

Saw me driving down the road and sped up, ran a red light just to pass me so I could see her driving. LOL Don't get that one it has happened more than once! Found some random guy years younger after several other guys months before then got engaged to him 2 months after me and DH2B got engaged and this guy came out of no where, and grand finale she put her wedding date the day before mine after i set my date almost year until she found out when our date was then her date changed. Frickin idiot I SAY!!! I called it way before it even happened because she is so d**n predictable. I'm happy she's engaged hopefully this random guy will move her a** away, get her pregnant so he can deal with that BS or at least split it in half. Although, I really don't wish that BMD on anyone. I have a whole lot more to share but I would have to open my on blog thread for that entitled "DIS FOOL RIGHT HERRE"!!

[nomoredrama]

downazz, BM comes to MIL's events. That's too much. I don't want to be in the same room as BM. Why is BM showing up at DH's family events??!!

[wbmama]

I've reacted less times than I should have. One of the times she sent me over the edge was when she poked fun at my special needs son. I went CRAZY!!!! There's been a few times that she's acted a fool - for example : calling our house 9 times over Christmas - One of those times, she asked to speak to my DH and I politely said, "NO you cannot talk to him - its Christmas leave us alone." As she started screaming at me I hung up. That was hard -

I think that there is a line where you should hold back for the BM's craziness and sometimes you need to let her have it. Nothing we say will change her but the purpose of telling her off seems to just make you feel better. At least I think so....do you?

[downazzchick]

lovejones, u keep me laughin! I need my own blog too!! LOL!
Since DH and I got back together MIL has not cared anything about me or my baby. And we don't care to much about her. BM is MIL's friends daughter. So she knows that is the only way to see her grandchild is to invite her. She has to basically cater to her the whole time. Walking around trying to fix her plate and stuff. Y? Anyway I don't care, I just ignore her. She don't do anything but look stupid. I walk around socializing with everyone, playing with the kids, flirting with my husband, getting the food ready. So she the one looking like an azz! DH went in the house one time and she thought she was gonna be slick and follow him. Well little did she know we had already given each other the signal to meet in his (old)bedroom. She knew he was in the house, but she didn't know we were in there together. She walked in on us. We were just kissing and groping each other, but this girl was so mad that when she went outside she snatched SD up by her arm and her other baby and ran to the car. She was so pissed. MIL was mad at us for her leaving. This was a miniature shouting match with him telling her to leave SD and we will bring her home. She said NO she can't stay. I was out there with him making sure her other baby was fastened in the car seat because she just through him in and was shaking SD by her arm and grasping her wrists so tight they were just red. Of course she left and 7 months went by no SD I got a million of these stories!

[nomoredrama]

LOL. Before DH & I married, DH's mom used to live with him. MIL & BM were good friends at first. BM used to just show up at the house without calling. I would be in room with DH & BM would sit in room with BM. BM claimed she was "just visiting" MIL. She would be pissed off trying to listen in on me & DH. I don't have to put up with that stuff now because MIL does not want any contact with BM due to things she has said and done to DH. Since BM left, she has made several attempts to contact MIL but MIL does not want to be contacted. She told DH to tell her she does not have a way to be contacted.

[wbmama]

Is there a special school for these kind of pathetic behaviors?

[downazzchick]

Oh tellitlikeitis, that same thing use to happen to us. BM would say she visiting MIL and bring SD. She would not even allow SD to come in the room with us. She would be talking to MIL and SD would runaway from her and run to us or SD would be crying because BM had a death grip on her. DH would get so mad that he would just take his own child (out the back door) and we would leave (without her knowing). We would take her to the park or McDonalds so we could spend time with her Y? cause BM was at his house. BM would blow his pager up (yea i know right a beeper LOL!) He would tell her to go on and we would bring her home, but when we got back she would be still there waiting 5 plus hours later waiting on her child. Stupid! MIL would be looking crazy Y? cause she had to entertain the girl and still doing it to this day!

[nomoredrama]

Lol. My MIL has wised up some. My MIL used BM up. BM bought MIL shoes, coats, clothes, food, etc. When BM would show up, I would be steaming mad. MIL would tell me, "just be a woman about it." BM burned her bridge with MIL by making stupid comments about DH & I to MIL What makes her think she could talk DH like a dog to his own mom?!! One day (before w were married), we (DH2B, MIL, & I) were having a cookout. BM showed up to bring SD2B to see BD. Yeah right. He had a visitation schedule and it wasn't his day. I was looking good too...Hair done, body tight, and white tight shorts on. DH2B was very short with BM because she was not invited to cookout. We ate, and no, we did not offer BM anything. BM went on porch with MIL while we stayed in the yard. BM went in the house to talk with MIL. DH2b & I went in his bedroom to be alone. BM had nerve enough to knock on his door to let him spend time with SD2B. DH2B took SD into room with he & I & closed the door in her face. Did she actually think she was going to sit up in our face??!! BM was pissed but she went back into MIL's bedroom. 5 minutes later BM knocked on door again to get the baby. She left pissed off. She did it to herself. Why would you stop unannounced to his house? She knew he & I were dating. Did she expect him to put me out to spend time with her? It is about boundaries. She still doesn't understand that to this day.

[downazzchick]

Girl, I know you know what I'm talking about. This is the type of drama that has been going on since day one! I'm so tired of BM and her tricks. It's really time for her to get a life.

[nomoredrama]

Ya Know!!