BM misses me...

[wbmama]

Yesterday I got a call from my BM! I was surprised because she keeps harping on me to "leave her alone" which I have done. And she called wanting to talk to me.....ahhhhhhhh.....Actually she want to bit*h at me!

Here's the skinny....
DH agreed to pay half the child's medical - he sent her a certified letter asking her to send him a copy of the bill from the insurance/dr and he would pay directly to the dr. Very sensible. His attorney advised him of such.

She's BIT*HING at me for the letter - saying that I don't know how insurance works "in the real world". LOLOLOL.....

So funny! She's pissed because she was cut off at the knees of having an excuse to call and bug the sh*t out of DH for every little $10 co-pay.

The real funny thing about it is she will never send us a bill!!! We are not paying ANYTHING directly to her. There have been countless checks "lost int the mail" then found months later...

Its just pathetic that the man has agreed to pay child support and half of the medical care of the child and she still is showing her a**!

By the way, does anyone know what world I live in?

I guess the SANE one!!!! LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

[nomoredrama]

BM charges half of $10 co-pay?! That is ridiculous! Who pays for health insurance? DH provides insurance (well, I provide it thru my job because cheaper). BM or whomever takes child to doc pays co-pay. We have taken SD to the doc but since BM moved & we don't see her, of course BM takes her to doc all of the time.

Before BM moved, she put some doc bills in DH's name & provided her mailing address. We did not find out about bills until doc's office sent them to a collections agency. I took care of that though!! I called BM & let her know that she did not have a right to put any bills in DH's name. I let her know that if she signed DH's name, she would be charged with fraud.

I called collections agency and hospital. I informed them that DH & BM were never married nor has DH ever lived at BM's address. Hospital had billed DH at BM's address. Collections agency had billed DH 4 times at BM's address. BM never said a word. I spoke with a hospital billing supervisor who acknowledged that BM should not have been allowed to put bill in DH's name. Pulled patient info & verified that BM signed her name as responsible party.

We agreed to pay half of medical bills since in our state both parents are 50% responsible for child's medical care. I then gave collections agency BM's name, her new address (she had taken off for new state), her telephone number, & her social security number. We paid our half of the bill (it was too late to file with the insurance company because over one year). *** Yes, SD was covered on our insurance at time of hospital visit ***

Collections agency wrote demand for payment letter to BM and sent us a copy of it. Imagine her surprise when she realized she had not gotten off scott free after trying to mess up DH's credit!! She had to come out the pockets too.

After wards, we had the child support order amended to state that DH would provide medical & dental but each parent would be 50% responsible for all charges not covered by medical insurance......BM called from her new home state HOT about court order!! She, of course, did not show & thought court would not amend it if she was not there. But, Child Support sent their lawyers (we did not have one). Well, who am I fooling, I was DH's lawyer. I wrote up the paperwork & told DH what to say in the courtroom. I researched state law to make sure we had a leg to stand on....In the end, CS attorneys cried foul saying there was not a reason to amend the order. CS claimed that DH should be responsible for all bills. DH explained what had occurred. Judge ruled in our favor.

We cut BM off at knees. She has never tried that mess any more because she understands that she has to pay half of the bill!!

[downazzchick]

Can these conversations be avoided? What is the problem with just working through the problem for the sake of the child? No one wants to be stuck with all the medical bills, so Y don't they just wise up and pay their half?

tellitlikeitis, you did good girl. I'll bet that was a kodak moment when she got her half of the bill. Score 1 up for you! Good job prepping your husband for the court hearing (somebodies got to do it or BM will get away with murder!)

wbmama, have you set BM straight about the way she talks to you? This has got to be done if you haven't done it. You have got to tell her that she has to talk to her rationally without profanity and without raising her voice. Once she starts to violate your boundaries end the conversations until she can gain her composure. She will really love that and it will show how much control you have over the situation.