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Post by nomoredrama on Apr 20, 2008 0:23:37 GMT -5
There are so many thoughts going thru my head that I just can't fall asleep. My children are fast asleep, but not me. I am thinking about DH coming home next month. I am EXCITED!! I have surfed myspace and other websites. I have turned on TVLand, which normally puts me to sleep....And, NOTHING! My kids will be up at 6 pm and I will barely have 5 hours of sleep  |
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Post by lovejones08 on Apr 20, 2008 0:43:15 GMT -5
I know the feeling girl.
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Post by wbmama on Apr 20, 2008 14:27:02 GMT -5
Is this your first deployment?
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Post by nomoredrama on Apr 20, 2008 15:47:20 GMT -5
Yes, it is our 1st deployment but apparently not our last. DH said there are already plans to send his unit to Afghanistan in 2010  But, I am concentrating on here & now - We'll think about 2010 in 2010  |
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Post by wbmama on Apr 20, 2008 16:52:23 GMT -5
Do you want some advise? - been thru many deployments for years.
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Post by nomoredrama on Apr 20, 2008 17:26:24 GMT -5
Sure. I welcome good advice.
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Post by downazzchick on Apr 20, 2008 21:28:15 GMT -5
I can't relate to the deployment, but i feel ya pain sista! He'll be here soon. Count the days down if this helps!
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Post by wbmama on Apr 21, 2008 7:41:11 GMT -5
Ok...been thru more deployments than I can count on hands and toes!!
Do NOT be surprised if you have some post-deployment fights. I don't know if you experienced the pre-deployment fights too. Its the stress. I spend 10 years married to a special ops solider and still have friends who are still military wives. In the good marriages and the bad ones, its very much the same.
When he comes home - it will be amazing. You'll feel your life complete again. The kids will be happier (even our dog seemed happier) to have Daddy home. After about a week, things may change a bit. Now, with him gone, you have your routine (which doesn't include him), and your routine is going to change thus bringing about some stress. Don't freak out about it - its normal.
He may get on your nerves. That's ok.
None of this may happen to you - but I lived it and so do my girlfriends.
And try your best to keep it as BMD free as possible!
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Post by nomoredrama on Apr 21, 2008 11:07:47 GMT -5
Thanks wbmama. I have heard about the post-deployment fights. I know that we will do some fighting...after the honeymoon stage. And, DH will definitely get on my nerves. He will be off for 30 days, so he will have plenty of days to work my nerves. He is going to question why I did something like this or that...I'll get defensive, etc. And, you are right. I have developed a routine which doesn't included him. He will get down because our 20 months old will not want to spend a lot of time with him. She is going to cling to my leg for the first few days. But, I am praying that the post-deployment reintroduction will not be too bad.
What can I do to help make the process go more smoothly?
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Post by wbmama on Apr 21, 2008 17:36:03 GMT -5
Start talking to him about the baby now. Reassure him that its going to take her some time to warm up to him. I've seen it - it may take days or weeks or she may go to him within minutes. Just remind him ITS TOTALLY NORMAL! And show him this post. My bestfriend's DH was gone so much that her 3 yr old would run up to anyone in BDU's saying "DADDY!" Its hard on the kids - but they will bounce back way quicker than the adults. Tell him not to push anything on her - and make sure he gives her treats (cookies etc).
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Post by downazzchick on Apr 21, 2008 21:53:43 GMT -5
I'm glad somebody understands you tellitlikeitis! Thanks wbmama for helping our fellow sista out!
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Post by wbmama on Apr 22, 2008 8:08:02 GMT -5
Thank ya Downazz! Isn't that what we're here for? wink wink!
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