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Post by memyslfni on Apr 25, 2008 12:57:11 GMT -5
This sounds like a case of spoiled brat syndrome..whereas the parent does everything for the child and while entering into adulthood becomes needy and unaccepting of their own responsibilities.
Women have a choice to either abort, birth and give up the child for adoption or keep the child and accept responsibillity, whether or not the donor chooses to stick around.
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Post by Keia1 on Apr 25, 2008 13:28:36 GMT -5
Sounds like greed, selfishness and down right cold-heartedness to me. I am intelligent, smart, not to mention a down right fighter so the H*LL with whoever dislikes any comment I made or will continue to make. It seems to me a lot of people are in denial. The same people who cry and moan over how much money DH has to pay, or how DH is hurt, or how they cant see SS or SD have the GALL to pass judgement on me. I find it funny.... that the very people who diminish single mother hood are having the same of similar problems in the relationship or marriage. Bad chick is the only one on the board who is open minded enough to see that people working against each other only makes life harder for everyone involved. I have a home, car, money in the bank as well as receive 700.00 a month for my child. The point is people working against each other instead of together is the cause of so much BM/BD drama. And as far as the board goes peoples closed mindedness and need to be right obstruct good communication. I will feel however I want to feel however I am open to considering viewpoints that differ from my own. However, some people take offense to EVERYTHING that takes them out of their comfort zone. I don't care if people agree with me or not.
CS is to help the mother with supporting the child..... you need to look it up. You may have trouble with that I'll help youL
What is Child Support?
Child support is monthly mandatory payments calculated from the gross income of both parents for the purpose of providing the needs of children.
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What is the purpose of child support?
The Kansas Child Support Guidelines state that:
The purpose of child support is to provide for the needs of the child. The needs of the child are not limited to direct expenses for food, clothing, school and entertainment. Child support is also to be used for housing, utilities, transportation, and other indirect expenses related to the day-to-day care and well-being of the child.
READ IT AND WEEP...........THE COURT DOES FEEL THAT THE NONCUSTODIAL PARENT SHOULD HELP KEEP THE CUSTODIAL PARENT WITH ALL THINGS THE CHILDREN NEED TO SURVIVE. WHO PAYS UTILITIES, WHOSE NAME IS CAR IN, WHO PAYS FOR GAS....CERTAINLY NOT THE CHILD AND YES BD'S MONEY CAN AND WILL BE USED FOR SAID EXPENSES. WHY MAKE CS FORCE YOU TO DO IT WHEN YOU CAN DO IT ON YOUR OWN.
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Post by memyslfni on Apr 25, 2008 13:50:16 GMT -5
Keia, just in case u forgot these are ur words:
"African-American males have historically abandoned their offspring.....the black family structure is the WEAKEST of all the races. I am not being racist by making the statements....but I am pointing out the facts. It has often been said that AA mothers are the causes's of their son's demise......."
Did u think this way before u decided to have a child by the brotha? And is so, did u think about how he might abandon ur child? Also with his abandonment, does it make u feel any better knowing that your "logical" way of thinking was proven correct?
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Post by Keia1 on Apr 25, 2008 13:54:37 GMT -5
It made me feel like black america has a long way to go........the truth is the light. Just because I'm mixed doesn't make me less of sista....just a sista who tells the truth.
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Post by destini1969 on Apr 25, 2008 14:15:35 GMT -5
Keia1, is sounds as if you're angry about being a black woman. I really hope that's not the case because you're raising a black child.
Blacks in America isn't the only race suffering, we're ALL suffering. Lack of parental support/involvement doesn't occur in only once race, this CRAP is universal.
From reading what others have said on this board lack of parent involvement has often being based on the actions of the BM. If would be a wonderful/ideal world if BM and BD could get along, but that isn't the case. There is a little bit of crazy in all of us, but in the best interest of the child you need to put that aside.
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Post by wbmama on Apr 25, 2008 14:40:41 GMT -5
Reading all of this is almost like watching a dog chase his tail.
I don't get it - child support is yours to use for whatever the child needs (and the child needs transportation). What's this arguement about anyway? If you don't have enough money to live either get a job or change your lifestyle - its just that simple.
ANY FINICIAL expert will tell you that the problem with families today are they rely on a 2 Parent income!! MISTAKE!!!!
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Post by destini1969 on Apr 25, 2008 14:49:13 GMT -5
Love your response! LMBO (laughing my behind off)! How true! ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
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Post by awsomalx on Apr 25, 2008 15:21:18 GMT -5
I see reading comprehension is not one of your strong points. So here, let ME help you. I'll highlight and bold key words, maybe you can follow along better that way. CS is to help the mother [glow=red,2,300]with supporting the child.[/glow].... Key Words to Note HELP and CHILDNote: BOTH PARENTS Income! Now let me explain that paragraph for you as you seem to be stuck on stupid: You can spend the $700 he sends you on whatever you want. the NCP has sent what the "Government says" (because your child is now a Ward of The State) is their PORTION of the support. Nothing above that is owed. Hell as a matter of fact, your portion should be at least equal to that (and I'd bet dime to a donut that you don't spend $1400 a month on your child) READ IT AND WEEP...........THE COURT DOES FEEL THAT THE NONCUSTODIAL PARENT SHOULD HELP KEEP THE CUSTODIAL PARENT WITH ALL THINGS THE CHILDREN NEED TO SURVIVE. WHO PAYS UTILITIES, WHOSE NAME IS CAR IN, WHO PAYS FOR GAS....CERTAINLY NOT THE CHILD AND YES BD'S MONEY CAN AND WILL BE USED FOR SAID EXPENSES. WHY MAKE CS FORCE YOU TO DO IT WHEN YOU CAN DO IT ON YOUR OWN. Again your reading comprehension sucks or you just choose to read it in a way that pleases your limited mental alimentation. CS is suppose to be the NCP PORTION of the financial duty to the child. The CP's portion should be equal (and we all know it's not) |
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Post by destini1969 on Apr 25, 2008 15:25:37 GMT -5
WOW!  |
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Post by wbmama on Apr 25, 2008 15:36:00 GMT -5
who are you directing your post to Awsom?
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Post by destini1969 on Apr 25, 2008 15:44:26 GMT -5
It appears as if he was directing that post to Keia1 because he copied/pasted comments made by her.
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Post by wbmama on Apr 25, 2008 15:50:48 GMT -5
Good....
I thought I made a good point. LOL
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Post by Keia1 on Apr 25, 2008 17:51:34 GMT -5
Wait a minute stupid a**......I said a portion...you are probably some dum a** who doesn't want to pay support....I said to HELP. Quit distorting what I SAY or don't fuc*in read my posts. It never going to be half and half unless both parents make the same...your just mad cause you have to pay......in the end it is to help the mother meets the needs of the child and hel* yeah...I spend some of that on me too. Why are you so worried about my education...just mad that I proved U wrong... sound like hating to me.
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Post by nomoredrama on Apr 25, 2008 18:01:53 GMT -5
Keia, you are a trip !!  I will give you this. No matter how bad people beat up on you, you don't back off. If you channel that persistence in a positive means, it will pay off for you career wise and personally. |
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Post by KIA on Apr 25, 2008 18:19:08 GMT -5
Wait a minute stupid a**......I said a portion...you are probably some dum a** who doesn't want to pay support....I said to HELP. Quit distorting what I SAY or don't fuc*in read my posts. It never going to be half and half unless both parents make the same...your just mad cause you have to pay......in the end it is to help the mother meets the needs of the child and hel* yeah...I spend some of that on me too. Why are you so worried about my education...just mad that I proved U wrong... sound like hating to me. quick question... if u spend some of the cs on yourself, as u have stated, then why should your bd give u "extra" money whenever something "comes up".... i mean, is it his fault that u choose to spend the cs money on other things besides what it is intended for??  |
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