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Post by jusdntundstn on Apr 21, 2008 22:09:52 GMT -5
He gets a kick out of watchin two women fight over him....They do it so indicreetly, you got to be up on yo game ladies.
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Post by downazzchick on Apr 21, 2008 22:15:42 GMT -5
I don't think my husband likes it. Really it's no competition. I just make sure my sh*t is tight at all times no matter what. My husband does not think entirely like mydadveiw. He does love his baby, but he does not get a ego boost because of our disagreements. Maybe he did at first (YEARS AGO) what man would, but after all this time he has seen how some of BMD has hurt his relationship with his child.
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Post by downazzchick on Apr 21, 2008 22:17:28 GMT -5
Just know I'm ROFL!!!! Man!!!!! Can you believe that? What u waiting on me fo? You know I aint no good! LOL!!!
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Post by cloudy752001 on Apr 21, 2008 22:18:43 GMT -5
I was merely giving an opinion. It seemed like when I co-signed what tellinit was saying it was cool beans. But as soon as I had an opposing opinion their came the back and forth nonsense. I I think that am entitled to my opinion. I meant no harm by it, but I will not apologize for it.
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Post by nomoredrama on Apr 21, 2008 22:19:35 GMT -5
I doubt that my DH likes it either. He has seen BM attack me physically, so he understands how serious it can get. For the 1st 5 years of our marriage, I did not have ANY contact with BM. She could not even speak my name. BM reached out to me to apologize...She has continued to apologize on & off. I take it with a grain of salt now.
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Post by downazzchick on Apr 21, 2008 22:39:43 GMT -5
cloudy, your opinion is definately welcomed. Just try not to pass direct judgement on someone. Everybody is different and handle their situations differently. What works for you may not work for me.
My husband has his CS directly taken from his pay check which is fine, but if it had to be payed I would add it in with the rest of the "GOTTA GET PAID NO MATTER WHAT" bills. I'm confortable with this because I don't have to worry I already know it is paid. His money is my money and his bills are my bills.
Just try to be open to other suggestions of improving. Thanks for being here!
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Post by cloudy752001 on Apr 22, 2008 6:14:26 GMT -5
It wasn't a personal attack that's why I said "why do women" not "why do you tellit" I wasn't looking for a battle. We all have expressed opinions throughout this forum. It seems like when I am in agreement to a post, that's fine but when I disagree, its a problem. That was not my first post in this forum but it probably was the first one when I had a opposing opinion. I did not say "do what I do" and that's why I said to each its own... Criticism comes in all forms, we just need to learn how to take it without offense.
You could have responded to my previous post because that's why I came on here with my situation. I have that "open mind" that is needed for different opinions and I will take in all criticisms with no problem. Sensitivity is a hella of thing, but I will keep that in mind when I feel the need to express my opinions again.
I just didn't know there were rules for being on here and if that is so, then this is not a TRUE forum that welcomes ALL opinions.
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Post by wbmama on Apr 22, 2008 7:58:29 GMT -5
Wow! Too bad I go to bed early! LOL.
I'm with Downazz - this is my happy place - and I don't like the sh*t being stirred.....
There has been more than one direct judgment on this board and its not ok.
Giving different opinions is great. What's up with negativity towards your fellow BMD sisters?
Tellit - don't try to explain yourself to Cloudy(or anyone else) anymore. You don't have to justify anything to anyone on here. We're here to help. We're all trying to find the answers on how to deal with the BMD. If anyone on here was doing everything thing right - then why the hell do they have drama???
I think we ALL need to offer opinions - give each other pats on the back and kudos - and point out what we think you're not doing right without personal attacks.
We are adults dealing with Craziness in our lives - we don't what that sh*t in our support group.
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Post by Keia1 on Apr 22, 2008 10:25:50 GMT -5
Down azz...why you gotta think I'm just gon jump in it....I already expressed my opinion on bd wifey or gf getting in BM/BD business. Nuff said. It hasn't changed. Somebody else is just starting to see what I already said.
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Post by jusdntundstn on Apr 22, 2008 15:38:09 GMT -5
Question Wbmama, Do you think everyone is going to have the same opinion? And two people that dont think the same, could possibly teach the other something they never thought of. EveryOne Dont thiNk The SaMe. And anyone who comes onto this board should be free to express themselves without feeling like they are going to touch somebodies soft spot. If you ur gonna enter a site such as this one, U could get THE BM coming at you sideways...My point "If ur gonna post somethin personal on here BE CAUTIOUS!"We are all strangers, some will agree..some wont.
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Post by wbmama on Apr 22, 2008 16:52:23 GMT -5
Jusdntundstn, in response to your question...don't you read what I write? I appreciate other opinions and I'm sure everyone else does too - but why is it necessary to make negative little remarks?
This place is turning out to be too much of a cat fight for me. I came here to learn how to deal with drama not bring more into my life.
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Post by jusdntundstn on Apr 22, 2008 17:51:26 GMT -5
No negative reMarks Just Reality...and yes I do read what u write. Do you feel that when people post opinions that everyone is always going to agree? You cant prevent that, this is not the first cat fight incident. This message board just started building up, do you think its going to be positive all the time? You got people on here making racial comments, but have you told them anything since your trying to keep the peace..?
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Post by cloudy752001 on Apr 27, 2008 23:31:39 GMT -5
OK I'm back. First of all I didn't ask for any explanations from anyone. "YA" got offended and started to explain yourself secondly, and THIRD like I said before, everyone is entitled to their opinion if I have a concern I'll voice it.
No I haven't been through a custody battle and DO NOT intend on ever being in one. But you left out the fact that I said if this BM is so bad, but has the guts to go back and review the CS situation every 36 months and she is actually GETTING it, then why aren't you and your DH hubby doing the same?
You have mentioned some immature childish acts that the BM have done to you two and if you had some type order that gives you SOME custody, then you could take legal action when she decides to pick up and run with your SD.
Hmmm... 10 years?? At least the BM is consistent enough to keep going back every 36 months. And d**n from another country?? I'm just wondering what's the hold up with you and DH? But wait, don't EXPLAIN yourself. You don't have to because it's pretty clear.
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Post by cloudy752001 on Apr 28, 2008 0:32:01 GMT -5
No thank you... for CARING enough to respond. Really, you didn't have to.
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Post by angelnmo on Apr 28, 2008 0:42:59 GMT -5
Wow, I am very new to BM drama, and now see that I have a huge battle on my hands. One thing is for certain, I am now well prepared for what lies in store for me and my future husband!
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