Is there a cat fight or what?!

[nomoredrama]

Lol. We deal with BMD & Drama in the BMD website. LOL.

[cloudy752001]

I don't pick fights. I just voice my opinion. I'm bold whether online or in person, but picking fights isn't my thing. It's a given though to receive this type of reaction for merely speaking your mind ONLINE or NOT. I am the same way in society so don't think that I am hiding from anything. So now YOU leave it alone cause there really isn't much left to say. As I said before Tellit, your situations is pretty clear. Take care.

[cloudy752001]

Your TRUE colors are really showing and that's why I say that your situation is pretty clear. I'm not on here to "GET" anyone. And I am definitely not the one that needs the "HELP." Good day to you, Madame.

[saj2777]

Wow! Now what did we learn from this?

[lovejones08]

How much drama there is in the world other than BMD....LOL someone crack a smile.

[nomoredrama]

LOL Lovejones. U R hilarious. I always read your posts and ROFL. U speak a lot of truth but u put it in a way that that is entertaining.

[memyslfni]

Ok someone help me...what the heck is ROFL?

[saj2777]

Roll on the floor laughing?

[badchick]

YOU GO CLOUDY....BOUT TIME SOMEBODY TOLD TELLIT OFF.

[wbmama]

Badchick - Out of all the posts I've read, I thought you really had it together. So, what's this post all about?

[BADCHICK]

Just tellit seems to get into it alot with other ladies cloudy (lol), keia1 (lol), and if you notice it's always about the same thing. Tellit we can have different opinions it's okay really.

[cloudy752001]

Badchick:

You have made the point that I have been trying to convey all along. Opinions don't always have to be positive and I really wasn't trying to be negative in the first place. All I wanted to know is why we women tend to do more than we should sometimes and then get nothing but drama and heartache (for years sometimes?) My cuzo is going through that and I hate to see her in that position. But I guess if you love a man too much (and there is such a thing as loving too much), then love will conquer all.

Just hope these type of relationships last for a lifetime or else all of that "loving too much" goes down the tube. And all that energy was just a waste because the BM will still be in his life and the wifey or gf won't. And if you have his kids also, then you become the 2nd BM.

Women already have enough on their plates these days as it is.

Thanks for clarifying things with your opinions post.

[nomoredrama]

Cloudy & Badchick...I don't believe that I have "gotten into it" with anyone on this board. What we had was a very strong difference of opinions. Cloudy & I have had the strongest difference of them all. She is entitled to her opinion & I respect that. I am not into name calling (especially with people that I don't know). As far as Keia is concerned...If you read thru most of the posts, I am not the only person who has taken strong exception to things that she has posted about. But, even though I feel that Keia is truly off the mark in some of her posts, I have still listened & drawn from it what I needed. It is not on me to question how or why she thinks the way that she does. If she said something that (in my opinion) was unclear, I asked for clarification. When she asked for advice, I gave it to her.

As far as Cloudy telling me off, call it what you will. She strongly expressed herself and I have expressed myself but it went on for WAY too long. And, it is not why I visit this board each day. As I have said before, I use this website as my sounding board. I also have gotten great advice from others guests.

I will continue to do for my family what I feel is necessary because at the end of the day, my family is who I am here for. I respect Cloudy's feelings about what a wife/girlfriend should do because it works (or doesn't) for her. Even in my "cat fight" with Cloudy, I still drew from it what I needed to. I firmly believe that there is a lesson to be learned in everything. What I learned about the situation is that it is so easy to get drawn into drama even when you hope to avoid it. Even though my post about child support was supposed to be a vent, it ended up bringing about drama. And a lot of people got drawn into the drama. So when I see posts from people saying "stay out of it," I have learned just how difficult it is to do that. You see, Cloudy & I mean nothing to one another. We have never met. We have never spoken to each other outside of this website. Yet still, she & I went round & round about absolutely nothing. We just each wanted to have the last word. Badchick, you took exception with something that I may have written to Keia & Cloudy, so you offered them your support.

Now, take that situation and think about Baby Mama Drama. The BM knows us (in most cases). Our DH/Boyfriend/Fiance(s) are very dear to us. It is instinctive for a woman, and especially a mother, to protect her household. So, even though we try to stay out of it, when the BM challenges you, it is hard to ignore & stay out if it. We (wives/girlfriends/fiances) take exception to something the BM may have said or done to our significant others, so we offer the DH our support. And, often times we come to their defense.

The drama on this board is some what like the drama that we face in real life with the baby mama. The only difference is that we don't have anything invested in this board. But we invest a lot in our marriage or relationship...

[Keia1]

I personally agree with cloudy on her stance on staying out of the BM drama. I personally feel that a lot of people on this post have took my posts and added or concluded something from them that I did not say. For the record, my BD has a traumatic brain injury...his speech is slurred. After the accident he had epilespsy so he couldn't drive. I have never asked him for a ride, or for money or anything else. I filed cs before he was in the accident...not after. Because he refused to help me financially with supporting the child and things after he was born. Attempting to use money to control ME. When my baby was 3 wks old he was got in the accident. Me and my family single handedly took care of my son. With out any help from his family and not a dime of his short term disability (I guess his mama was pocketing that). I started receiving finances on behalf of him when my son was 13 months old. I worked my as* of and went to school. So yes, when I got that 5400.00 check I bought me some stuff too. And when I get that 700.00 check each month I take care of his needs and spoil myself too because I deserve it. The unecessary stress inflicted by his family was just that unecessary.

But I must say I have learned some things from this board whether YOU ALL realize it or not. I've learned that whenever you have a child by someone they may or may not have your back. And in the event that they dont' SO WHAT......your life isn't over. BM's should not rely on the BD but should be able to take care of their own needs and responsibility. If you get a good BD like my mom had that's great. But nowadays it's more rare than ever as most people are solely concerned about themselves. I learned that just because that happened to me "it doesn't define me," it didn't kill me it only made me stronger. I realize now more so than ever that you will always have people who dislike you, insult you, attempt to belittle you, try to expose you etc. I have experienced it on this board. But ultimately it's the truth you know about yourself that matters. Just like BD's family they are entitled to believe and act how they want just because it's true to them doesn't mean it's the truth. I know I am a good mom, a strong person, very edgy and controversial (sometimes I do say things that shouldn't be said) could really work on that. But overall I am intelligent, good person. And if BD and BD's family can't see that ....to hel* with them.

So Cloudy....with your judgemental comments...whatever. And tell it...a lot of the things you say in your posts are on point....but I think if you would just try to see things in the eyes of the BM sometimes and not solely from your wifey point of view sometimes you could stop a lot of your drama before it starts.
And wbama...im beginning to think you enjoy the drama a little bit.
bad chick...thanks for having my back.

[cloudy752001]

Me? Judgemental? Naw, never that... Thanks for the post tho, ur the best!