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Post by jusdntundstn on Apr 22, 2008 19:31:09 GMT -5
Keia1 If ive never agreed with you before, I sure in the hell do now. Just like it is my duty to make sure my bd doesnt get out of line with my bf. It is my mans duty put her in her place. I get to enjoy the pleasure of having my man on MY side.....and sweetheart if he cant do that he must not be man enough for me. And if she continues to bark CHapter 9 comes into place.
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Post by jusdntundstn on Apr 22, 2008 19:34:48 GMT -5
I couldn't have said it better myself. Just like its my duty to make sure bd doesnt disrespect bf, It is just as well his duty to tame his bm's. And if they want to continue to bark, sad to say but thats about where chapter NINE comes in.
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Post by jusdntundstn on Apr 22, 2008 19:36:03 GMT -5
My Da*# connection keeps gettin lost...OOps
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Post by wbmama on Apr 22, 2008 19:37:53 GMT -5
Chapter 9 is painful - we started that a few weeks ago.
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Post by jusdntundstn on Apr 22, 2008 19:57:07 GMT -5
I intend to take in every last bit. My bf already mentions eventually leaving the state because deep down inside he knows its the only way to be somewhat drama free. But I'd like to give it a TRY for the sake of his kids.
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Post by nomoredrama on Apr 22, 2008 20:13:31 GMT -5
You appear to be trying to supportive of your BF & that is good. DH & moved to another town to avoid BMD...It slowed because BM was not in our face all of the time...I think moving is a good idea.
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Post by jusdntundstn on Apr 23, 2008 12:53:32 GMT -5
When all else fails, I guess its best to focus on the family at hand. Whether u fight or dont fight the bm, there will be suffering. At least u know u tried. In my case I'm not sure if I want to try anymore, just leave it as is and stop pushin the issue about bringin his kids around. Why wait for them to push us away?
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Post by wbmama on Apr 23, 2008 15:57:36 GMT -5
My DH had had enough 2 years ago when we met. I pushed him to try harder, fight harder. I have an adopted child w/special needs and I believed that you could never give up on your children no matter what. He fought - for me and for the child. I think he knew, deep in his heart, because he knew her (BM) and knew what she was capable of. Now, I agree its time to walk away. Whether I was involved or not - there were MAJOR problems. Just my very exhistance in his life was the beginning of her hatred for me.
I'm still not for giving up on your kids. In this case however, we need a break from her. And the only way is to cut off contact. Its heartbreaking that someone has such hate and bitterness in their heart that they can't allow their child to be loved. This kid (my SS) is missing out on brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents and great grandparents who just love him to pieces. She's the mom - she has the control. Its so sad.
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Post by nomoredrama on Apr 24, 2008 18:35:43 GMT -5
I know what you mean wbmama...We love the kids. We want our spouses to maintain contact with their children; however, when the BM's act stupid, sometimes there is no other choice left. My SD is missing out on being a part of her brother & sister's lives. My son knows that he has a sister but he doesn't speak about her any more. My daughter has never even seen her sister.....It is sad....BM apologized to us for her treatment of us but then got upset again when she found out that we had another baby. We were going to tell her but BM stressed me out so bad when I was four months pregnant, so we decided not to tell her. We believed that she would increase her drama hoping to make me miscarry.
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Post by New to this on Apr 24, 2008 19:23:47 GMT -5
Wow, I understand your plight. Sometimes unfortunate for the kids, you have to end things. I truly feel for the children involved in situations like this.
Perhaps you guys or the BD can keep a journal for the child. So when the child gets older they will understand why their dad wasn't around.
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Post by nomoredrama on Apr 24, 2008 19:46:51 GMT -5
Thanks for the idea. My SD will be 14 years old this year. Mom moved out of the continental US when she was 7 years old. We tried sending emails to SD but have to go thru BM's email address, even now. BM just makes it all but impossible to communicate with SD. The last time we saw her was in 2005. We saw SD for 2 days. Even now, we have to call SD on her mom's cell phone as mom claims she does not have a home phone. For Xmas, we were going to buy SD a cell phone. Mom did not want that so she decided to buy SD phone herself. Mom won't allow SD to give DH her cell phone #. She is so silly it is a shame.
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