Keeping it out of your Life and Marriage

[jusdntundstn]

I just got my order of "NO MORE BABY'S MAMA DRAMA" which clearly states "KEEPING IT OUT OF YOUR LIFE and MARRIAGE" what are u doing to KEEP IT OUT OF YOUR LIFE AND OR MARRIAGE"?

[wbmama]

Good read. Read it 3 times....

How do we keep BMD out of OUR lives? There's only one way we've found and that's to stay away from it all (and that means we don't get to see the child). We've spent the past 2 years trying everything. Now, we're at a loss. We've spent thousands on attorney fees - have a court order that she won't follow - she is not logical or rational -

See Chapter 9....

[jusdntundstn]

wbmama, It just makes me upset that we are asked to bite our tongues when we have a problem with what we read on this website..and I dont think thats right. I know you tryin to keep it peacefull and all, but dont you think its best to let it out and get it over with. Men do it all the time. So why cant us women?

[wbmama]

who said anything about biting your tounge?

[jusdntundstn]

Attention Ladies
« Thread Started on Apr 12, 2008, 3:13am »

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It seems that there is quite a bit of drama brewing on our BMD board. I, for one, do not want drama here. This should be a drama free zone where we can express ourselves without being judged.

I will from now on, ignore posts that are negative, judgmental and not meant as support. If we call someone out, it only gives them the attention they are looking for.

Unlike in our personal lives, we cannot ignore our BM's - ---- here we MUST.

Anyone agree?

[wbmama]

very well said.

[Keia1]

Involvement......should be limited between casual hello's and goodbyes...any discussions you have with bm should be about the childrens welfare...not stay the hell away from your hubby or bf, not about what phones shes calling, not about money (let bd handle it) if YOU have a problem take it to BD he is YOUR man and it is his JOB to have your BACK and explain how it will benefit you and if not explain to you why it has to be this way...NOT BM's. You should not email BM, call BM unless you have kids at your home and kids are sick, unless you (and I mean u personally not you and hubby or bf) are cordially inviting the kids to an event, unless you need to know what size the kids wear etc. BM and gf or wifey contact should be limited to discussing the children only....NOT BD. If you are BD's gf or wifey it's only natural for you to be on his side and want to defend him. Therefore it is better you NOT enter into any type of argument with her...DO NOT FLAUNT THE FACT THAT YOU ARE THE WIFEY OR GF...IT WILL ONLY CAUSE DRAMA...NO MATTER HOW TEMPTING IT IS. Remember you are a part of BD's life...not BM's she doesn't have to respect you personally because you are his wifey or gf.....she just has to respect the fact that you are his wifey and gf and that you are in his life. Your title does not entitle you to anything from the BM. If she is nasty or disrespectful do not stoop to her level simply cut off contact. To go back and forth is to only endanger the fragile relationship that man has with that child. Love the man, love the kids....but you don't have to love the BM. Just respect the fact that she is the BM and that those are her kids and that he will always owe her money until 18 and be in her kids life...even if not hers. Behave with dignity and let her know you are not intimidated by her. Because if she thinks so....oh the games she will play.....

Understand that your man had a past before you.....and that is okay but he must tame that tiger not you. Remember if another woman can beat you rocking she is entitled to that chair...just stay on your toes so that her or no other woman beats you rocking. Any issues take it to BD aka BIG DADDY. LOL!

[nomoredrama]

Alright already Keia. LOL.

[wbmama]

Keia - it sounds good on paper (so to speak). Its just not the reality for everyone.