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Post by wbmama on Apr 24, 2008 8:27:47 GMT -5
These are just a few basic things I could think of that may or may not apply to you. My point is, that we're not all dealing with the same sorts of drama. You can choose more than one option. Or add something that I may have missed.
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Post by wbmama on Apr 24, 2008 19:03:45 GMT -5
so is this not interesting enough?
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Post by New to this on Apr 24, 2008 19:14:53 GMT -5
I've experienced the phone calls and text from BM. She is seeking a reaction from me, so I don't give her one. My mother told me long time ago to "kill em with kindness." Difficult NOT to express myself at times but self control is wonderful.
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Post by nomoredrama on Apr 24, 2008 19:54:43 GMT -5
I refrained from voting for BM hits you. It has been over 12 years since that happened but I haven't forgotten.
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Post by wbmama on Apr 25, 2008 5:06:19 GMT -5
Girl, how can you forget. I still remember the fight I got into in high school - a girl jumped me - and I still to this day - dislike that woman....
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Post by nomoredrama on Apr 25, 2008 9:47:21 GMT -5
Yeah, it is always in the back of my mind when I talk to her...And, this woman was 24 years old when it happened...I was 23 years old. Too old to be out acting a fool!
After she got Saved, the BM called me to ask for my forgiveness. I forgave her but it is just darn hard to forget!
There are different levels of drama. We have not gotten to that level anymore. We never ARGUE...She argues with my DH, but she & I don't argue. We have had HEATED conversations. I learned not to argue with her even when makes snide comments and tries to goad me into an argument. I don't argue with her, so it is pretty hard for her to argue with herself.
My DH tries to bite his tongue but she pushes his buttons. When she pushes his buttons, he gets short with her and then gets off of the phone.
But, what really helped us is the distance & time. We used to live in the same town with BM (5 miles away). DH & her used to have constant contact with one another because she would call him for this & that. Just to have contact with him so there was drama between the two of them all of the time. After we moved, the drama calmd down a lot but it did not go away.
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Post by wbmama on Apr 25, 2008 9:55:47 GMT -5
sounds like you're in a good place with the BM -
I'm envious!!! LOL!
I think its good that you can talk to her some without arguing. Me and my BM had that for a minute then she decided she hated me too much to speak to me.
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Post by nomoredrama on Apr 25, 2008 10:06:36 GMT -5
Don't get me wrong. It is not all peaches & cream. BM lives in another state now, so I don't have to deal with her on a regular basis. BM can be nasty & vindictive. I just decided after listening to DH, not to let her take me there. BM likes to GET under people's skins. She all but admitted it to me one time. That let me know right how she was so I decided to not give her the satisfaction of knowing when she irritates me....Like I said, I never change the tone of my voice...I just don't respond to her barbs...But, afterwards, I call one of my family or friends and vent about it. You just gotta get it out or you will blow up. Know what I mean?
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Post by awsomalx on Apr 25, 2008 11:35:50 GMT -5
You know I have it bad seeing how I was able to vote on 5 of the 8.
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