Post by jaylady999 on Nov 16, 2009 16:20:42 GMT -5
I am already not having a good day today. Obviously. Anyway, last week, I called BD to tell him that Lil Jay got his report card and that it left a lot to be desired. He didnt fail anything, but I know my child can do better than B's and C's. I will give him a little bit of leeway because this is a transitional year from elementary to middle school. Its a bit of a transition for me too, because where I am normally used to having constant emailed communication with ONE teacher per schoolyear, this year, there are SIX teachers that I need to keep up with his progress in school.
Anyway, called BD to tell him last week and we both agree that the boy can and WILL do better. Now I've always been the one maintaining Lil Jays daily homework, quizing him for upcoming tests, just anything related to school is my territory. Always has been. BD is a tad too far to handle these daily tasks, but I accept the challenge as a BM, no worries.
Last week, BD was fine with whatever plan of action I thought was appropriate, as always, he just depended on me to know that I will work out whatever issues there are to getting Lil Jay where we both think he should be. So why does he call me today asking me what time Lil Jay goes to bed?? I told him that he normally watches the first 10 minutes of the 9pm news with me and DH and then he goes to him room and sleep by about 9:35. BD goes on to tell me that he thinks that this bedtime is too late for him and that he should be heading to bed at 8pm. Huh?
First of all, since when do you ever question me about what time he goes to bed. He knows me better than that. I am a "my house, my rules" BM, he is acting like he just met me.
Second of all, not that I had to explain this to him, but I reminded him that I dont get off work til 5:30, home and winding down by 6. By the time I am done cooking dinner, helping Lil Jay with his homework, (which takes up most of my evenings to begin with mind you), making sure the boy has his bath, 20 minutes of quiet reading before bed(assigned by his Language Arts teacher), mother/son one on one communication on top of all that, there is no way he will ever be sleep by 8pm. Its impossible. Besides, he wakes up at 7am, so going to bed at 8pm, he doesnt need 11 hours of sleep. Sorry, he just doesnt. In fact, I personally feel that too much sleep will only make him drag during the day.
I couldnt even believe that BD and I were actually arguing about this. I had to 'remind' him that he gets up every morning only having to worry about one person, comes home worrying about that same one person, and I have 2 people to account for. He is in no position to even 'suggest' that I should be able to make an 8pm bedime happen after I have just run down my evenings to you.
But he knows me very well, I wont argue with you about something that I know I have total control over, nor will I explain to you what goes on in my house, I dont care how many kids of yours I have in there. Bedtimes Sept thru Jun, MY TERRITORY. I told him to only concern himself with bedtimes from Jun thru Aug. He goes on to say that his bedtimes during the summer are irrelevent because he is not in school during those months. Um, my point exactly, no homework to contend with. Men!
In 12 years, me and him have NEVER had an argument about something that is going on in my house. EVER. And Lil Jay will maintain his current bed time, so that whole conversation was pointless. Just needed to vent for a minute.
Anyway, called BD to tell him last week and we both agree that the boy can and WILL do better. Now I've always been the one maintaining Lil Jays daily homework, quizing him for upcoming tests, just anything related to school is my territory. Always has been. BD is a tad too far to handle these daily tasks, but I accept the challenge as a BM, no worries.
Last week, BD was fine with whatever plan of action I thought was appropriate, as always, he just depended on me to know that I will work out whatever issues there are to getting Lil Jay where we both think he should be. So why does he call me today asking me what time Lil Jay goes to bed?? I told him that he normally watches the first 10 minutes of the 9pm news with me and DH and then he goes to him room and sleep by about 9:35. BD goes on to tell me that he thinks that this bedtime is too late for him and that he should be heading to bed at 8pm. Huh?
First of all, since when do you ever question me about what time he goes to bed. He knows me better than that. I am a "my house, my rules" BM, he is acting like he just met me.
Second of all, not that I had to explain this to him, but I reminded him that I dont get off work til 5:30, home and winding down by 6. By the time I am done cooking dinner, helping Lil Jay with his homework, (which takes up most of my evenings to begin with mind you), making sure the boy has his bath, 20 minutes of quiet reading before bed(assigned by his Language Arts teacher), mother/son one on one communication on top of all that, there is no way he will ever be sleep by 8pm. Its impossible. Besides, he wakes up at 7am, so going to bed at 8pm, he doesnt need 11 hours of sleep. Sorry, he just doesnt. In fact, I personally feel that too much sleep will only make him drag during the day.I couldnt even believe that BD and I were actually arguing about this. I had to 'remind' him that he gets up every morning only having to worry about one person, comes home worrying about that same one person, and I have 2 people to account for. He is in no position to even 'suggest' that I should be able to make an 8pm bedime happen after I have just run down my evenings to you.
But he knows me very well, I wont argue with you about something that I know I have total control over, nor will I explain to you what goes on in my house, I dont care how many kids of yours I have in there. Bedtimes Sept thru Jun, MY TERRITORY. I told him to only concern himself with bedtimes from Jun thru Aug. He goes on to say that his bedtimes during the summer are irrelevent because he is not in school during those months. Um, my point exactly, no homework to contend with. Men!
In 12 years, me and him have NEVER had an argument about something that is going on in my house. EVER. And Lil Jay will maintain his current bed time, so that whole conversation was pointless. Just needed to vent for a minute.
I think they call it being a DAD.
