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Post by ty1981 on Nov 16, 2009 20:06:48 GMT -5
Extended Day Learning Opportunities. They usually take place on campus with teachers who teach the subject. It usually happens right after school. it can be helpful because tutors sometimes introduce a subject different ways then the teacher. This way they get the same information because it comes from the source.
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Post by jaylady999 on Nov 16, 2009 20:35:10 GMT -5
Ahhh, I see. Ok, well I think that is what that is. The teachers are actually the ones doing the tutoring. His math and science teachers tutor before and after school
And any other resources you have for me would be fantastic ;D
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Post by ayzha on Nov 18, 2009 1:19:44 GMT -5
I dont want to start any trouble but I was wondering if a little bird by the name of K may have put this in his ear. I know that we are tell our SO stuff that would benefit the child if we notice something that BM is slipping on and have our SO direct the issue to BM. I know that I have a few times. When my SS had a diaper rash and I noticed that BM had sent some special scented baby powder, I told my SO to tell his BM that this may be irritating the baby. He told her but didnt mention my name which I didnt want him to because she wouldnt have listened if told by me but sure enough it went right away. Im just saying that Jay maybe your BD has had some outside influence since this was the first time that you two had issues of what goes on at the house. In any case, I would take it as him trying to be concerned and feel that he is doing his part to try to be involved in schooling because you have always emphasized that it is something exclusive for the parents only. I know that your BD knows that he probably has never done a day of homework in his life with Lil Jay but he may just want to feel like he helped out but didnt know how to come about it in the right way. Would you had been upset if he volunteered to pick him out one day out the week and work on the homework with him. Would you have felt offended like he was saying that you cant do homework well with him. I dont think so. Its just your baby daddy know that you came to him with a problem regarding schooling and he really has no influence but wanted to find a way to help but went about it all wrong.
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Post by jaylady999 on Nov 18, 2009 9:49:57 GMT -5
Ayzha,
I'd be completely lyin if I said that K didnt entire my mind with this issue, but honestly, if she put that bug in his ear, I am sure by now he has gone back to her to tell her that it didnt fly.
Honestly, she has every right to 'suggest' what she wants to her man and he can bring it to me if he feels its worthy of entertaining. And if she did, he handled it exactly right by not mentioning her name to me as it concerns our son. But he should know by now, that what goes on in my house are my rules, I just thought he knew me better than that.
He would have been received a lot better had he come with wanting to help Lil Jay with homework once or twice a week and I would absolutely welcome the idea ;D
But bed time? Nah, that is way out of his territory.
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Post by jaylady999 on Nov 18, 2009 9:58:28 GMT -5
Nomoredrama, I totally agree with your position  I think what irritated me so much with BD was that he came at me in a "blame game' sort of way. Like I am just letting Lil Jay have his way by not making sure he is not in the bed earlier. I felt insulted to think he thinks that Lil Jay just comes home and watches tv and plays video games all evening when he doesnt even have a clue. My point was that he should have at least asked first what our routine is. He hasnt been concerned about our routine in 12 years, so why now? Because his grades are slipping a little bit? I was honestly feeling like in the back of his mind he was blaming me for that and I just snapped. As you said, and you live this too, I sacrifice many of my hours helping my son with school, I've done it for years. I've turned down better paying jobs in the past because while they paid better, the hours would have had me coming home 8 or 9 pm and while DH is there, I feel that its MY job to help him through school. Perhaps BD could have just come at me better and that conversation would have ended a little better.  Oh and yes, he does have a great system of suport. BD is a good dad and has our sons interest at heart no doubt. DH is there to reinforce me, and so are my parents. I just cant wait for him to get over this 6th grade slump  |
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Post by gemmani on Nov 18, 2009 10:52:49 GMT -5
I was taken aback by it because this seems very out of character for BD (from what we know of him on the web, lol). I kind of agree about K being the one to start this, but I guess it's the way it came off that had me like, whoa!
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Post by jaylady999 on Nov 18, 2009 10:58:15 GMT -5
Right Gem. I figured K was behind it, BUT actually I didnt even mind because BD was smart enough not to bring her name up to me in this issue. He, at the very least, did that much right.  Yep, way out of character for the man to even go there with me. |
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Post by youknow on Nov 25, 2009 14:24:39 GMT -5
Jaylady..........I think lil j has discovered GIRLS. LOL |
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I think what irritated me so much with BD was that he came at me in a "blame game' sort of way. Like I am just letting Lil Jay have his way by not making sure he is not in the bed earlier. 
