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Post by jaylady999 on Nov 24, 2009 16:58:12 GMT -5
For me, I just cannot see myself hitting, tapping, spaking ANYONE'S kids, except my own. Its not just DHs kids, I wouldnt hit my godchildren, my nieces or nephews. I just cant do it.
Maybe its because I have a child of my own and if ANYBODY hits my child, they will be dealing with me. So since I know I dont want anyone touching my child, I wont touch anyone else's. .
One exception to this is my mother. She has full authority to discipline as I would because she's been there since day one and is like his second mother. And even she has never hit my child, but she is the ONE person who I know if she did, I'd trust her with it.
And to add to that, I've never been the BM to call BD for disciplining issues. I take care of it myself, then I call BD for fyi if he wants to reinforce. If he doesnt, thats fine too. I got this.
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Post by ty1981 on Nov 24, 2009 17:07:53 GMT -5
Hitting someone's child that doesn't belong to you....NOT OK!
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Post by memy on Nov 24, 2009 17:39:24 GMT -5
Like that man that smacked that kid in WalMart......Wayy outta line  |
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Post by jaylady999 on Nov 24, 2009 17:42:53 GMT -5
Like that man that smacked that kid in WalMart......Wayy outta line Darn right. Hit my child and either I will be calling the po-po on you OR you will be calling the po-po on me cuz Imma whoop that azz. Point blank.  |
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Post by gemmani on Nov 24, 2009 18:24:36 GMT -5
I've never hit a child, period. I have little cousins galore and three stepkids and I have never once laid a hand on them. Why? THAT'S NOT MY PLACE TO DO SO. My DH is perfcetly capable of disciplining the kids without my input, thankyouverymuch.
I really don't see where getting so overly involved in the stepkids is a good thing. Why can't you just love them and send them home? I just see huge acts of overstepping boundaries and if I were BM I'd be highly pissed off. No matter how YOU feel she is as a mother, SHE IS STILL THEIR MOTHER AND YOU ARE NOT. Your opinion doesn't matter much.
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Post by jaylady999 on Nov 24, 2009 18:32:34 GMT -5
My DH is perfcetly capable of disciplining the kids without my input, thankyouverymuch.
Exactly
I really don't see where getting so overly involved in the stepkids is a good thing. Why can't you just love them and send them home?
Works for me ;D
I just see huge acts of overstepping boundaries and if I were BM I'd be highly pissed off. No matter how YOU feel she is as a mother, SHE IS STILL THEIR MOTHER AND YOU ARE NOT. Your opinion doesn't matter much.
I dont know this is such a hard concept. I have no opinion about BM as a mother simply because she is my skids mother. If I did have an opinion, it wouldnt matter much, so I dont put any thought into what that woman does on HER time with HER kids. Now if DH has issue with something, to me, he has that right because they are his kids too.
But me? Nah, she can do what she wants with her kids, or not do what she doesnt want and it wouldnt affect me one bit. Again, may affect DH, but sure wont affect me.
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Post by gemmani on Nov 24, 2009 18:49:37 GMT -5
Now we all know I am not fond of BM in the least, but I'm not going to sit here and act like I have the right to take over caring fro HER kids.
Funny enough, my skids have no problems listening to me without me having to touch them at all.
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Post by memy on Nov 24, 2009 19:08:33 GMT -5
Shiz, I'm scared to even put hands on my own darn kids let alone someone else's. Lucky for me, I've picked up other methods of discipline and channeling my frustration. Don't need Children's Services knocking on my door for trying to keep my kids in order. Cuz they won't hesitate to investigate and I don't need them folks all in my biz...  And let a Skid go home and tell their mama....."My SM hit me". Huh, BM would be all over that and ya better hope she don't put any extras on it. |
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Post by mrznixon on Nov 24, 2009 19:18:06 GMT -5
memy you are so right about that, BM would eat that up all the way to the court house. i send her to her room or the corner for a while and i dont have any problems out of her for rest of the day. but since she lives with me and DH is at work most of the time i have no other choice but to do something because chastising her later about it is wrong.
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Post by jaylady999 on Nov 24, 2009 20:00:18 GMT -5
Yep, I can count on one hand the # of times I've whacked Lil Jay and none since he was 3 or 4. Punishment and taking away of his privledges does just fine for us ;D
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