Post by justwanascream on Dec 21, 2009 17:08:09 GMT -5
hello everyone. i am new to this site and i have a dilemma. My fiance has 2 sons by not 1, but 2 baby mamas. I knew that it wouldn't be easy when we first got together but nothing prepared me for the drama that 2 crazy baby mamas would bring......
Baby mama 1: Selfish, ghetto, believes the world revolve around her. (I'm sure you all can relate on some level). Anyhow, my fiance pays child support faithfully, he doest owe any back support at all and yet she treats him like shyt. She has a man living in the home with her and they both work and she also has an older child from a previous relationship. This heffa goes out partying, drinking, gambling, getting her hair and nails done but expects my man to pick up the slack when she can't pay for school clothes, winter coats, shoes etc. She also expects him to take care of her oldest as well. I'm sorry but i love the kids but this shyt is not going to happen as long as he pays child support and she has a man in the home. We have bills just like everyone else and if she thinks my fiance is going to take care of 2 households the girl got another thing coming to her. She is money hungry for sure. The beginning of the year she even tried to sell his son to him for $30,000 and $150,000 in stock investments. She does this because she knows how he feels about his son but she only hurts the child in the process by keeping him from coming around unless he gives her money. And since my fiance won't give it to her, he only sees his son occasionally. She does everything in her power to get money out of him, and even though she don't succeed she won't give up. She even let his son walk around with a thin windbreaker on in 25 degree weather just to try and force him to buy him coat.
She even tries to force him to take care of her oldest as though he don't have a father of his own. I truly believe she is trying to play my man as though he has some type of bytch running through his veins because any woman in her right mind, who has kids, would never allow her children to go without just to try and punk her ex. I am beyond tired of this drama and i am fully aware of my place in this situation but it's so difficult to see someone that i love so much go through this mess. He is a good father and role model for his children and would want nothing more than to be a father but it's women like her who make it hard for fathers like him to do so. She even leaves them at home by themselves and the oldest is only 9 years old. We found out about it when she slipped up and said that the oldest was her babysitter. at first we didn't understand because we thought she was talking about something else, but then the oldest started calling my fiance in the wee hours of the morning to tell on her for leaving them alone.
These kids are not stupid. They know that what their mother is doing is wrong but can't do anything about it. And tried to urge my fiance to call CPS but he is afraid of what might happen with the oldest. I told him something may happen to them while they are home alone and then he'll wish he had done something sooner. but again i can only tell him, i can't make him.
Baby mama 2: Is a little less of a problem but she still is in fact, A PROBLEM! She has not gotten over my fiance yet and is seeing a therapist just to help her with her problem. I don't feel that it is anything wrong with her seeking help because at least she is trying, but she is causing alot of issues with my fiance seeing his son in the process. She doesn't allow him to take him anywhere outside her parents home where she lives. He is also paying child support and is not behind at all, but i believe she just wants to have her time with hi m as well. I had to put a stop to this very early on in our relationship because when dealing with women like this, the courts are the only people who should have the last say. so i urged him to go to visitation court. I hate that it has to be this way but it's the only way the children can see their father regularly, and the o nly way our soon to be marriage can run a Little smoother. I refuse to have family with a man who is spending time at another womans home as though they are still a family because when it's over, it's over! I love my man and support him as much as i can which is why speak up about these issues. I am so sorry this a very long story but it;s just so much to talk about and I've been holding it in for so long. Any advice would help. i would like to know that i am not alone in this. thank you.
Baby mama 1: Selfish, ghetto, believes the world revolve around her. (I'm sure you all can relate on some level). Anyhow, my fiance pays child support faithfully, he doest owe any back support at all and yet she treats him like shyt. She has a man living in the home with her and they both work and she also has an older child from a previous relationship. This heffa goes out partying, drinking, gambling, getting her hair and nails done but expects my man to pick up the slack when she can't pay for school clothes, winter coats, shoes etc. She also expects him to take care of her oldest as well. I'm sorry but i love the kids but this shyt is not going to happen as long as he pays child support and she has a man in the home. We have bills just like everyone else and if she thinks my fiance is going to take care of 2 households the girl got another thing coming to her. She is money hungry for sure. The beginning of the year she even tried to sell his son to him for $30,000 and $150,000 in stock investments. She does this because she knows how he feels about his son but she only hurts the child in the process by keeping him from coming around unless he gives her money. And since my fiance won't give it to her, he only sees his son occasionally. She does everything in her power to get money out of him, and even though she don't succeed she won't give up. She even let his son walk around with a thin windbreaker on in 25 degree weather just to try and force him to buy him coat.
She even tries to force him to take care of her oldest as though he don't have a father of his own. I truly believe she is trying to play my man as though he has some type of bytch running through his veins because any woman in her right mind, who has kids, would never allow her children to go without just to try and punk her ex. I am beyond tired of this drama and i am fully aware of my place in this situation but it's so difficult to see someone that i love so much go through this mess. He is a good father and role model for his children and would want nothing more than to be a father but it's women like her who make it hard for fathers like him to do so. She even leaves them at home by themselves and the oldest is only 9 years old. We found out about it when she slipped up and said that the oldest was her babysitter. at first we didn't understand because we thought she was talking about something else, but then the oldest started calling my fiance in the wee hours of the morning to tell on her for leaving them alone.
These kids are not stupid. They know that what their mother is doing is wrong but can't do anything about it. And tried to urge my fiance to call CPS but he is afraid of what might happen with the oldest. I told him something may happen to them while they are home alone and then he'll wish he had done something sooner. but again i can only tell him, i can't make him.
Baby mama 2: Is a little less of a problem but she still is in fact, A PROBLEM! She has not gotten over my fiance yet and is seeing a therapist just to help her with her problem. I don't feel that it is anything wrong with her seeking help because at least she is trying, but she is causing alot of issues with my fiance seeing his son in the process. She doesn't allow him to take him anywhere outside her parents home where she lives. He is also paying child support and is not behind at all, but i believe she just wants to have her time with hi m as well. I had to put a stop to this very early on in our relationship because when dealing with women like this, the courts are the only people who should have the last say. so i urged him to go to visitation court. I hate that it has to be this way but it's the only way the children can see their father regularly, and the o nly way our soon to be marriage can run a Little smoother. I refuse to have family with a man who is spending time at another womans home as though they are still a family because when it's over, it's over! I love my man and support him as much as i can which is why speak up about these issues. I am so sorry this a very long story but it;s just so much to talk about and I've been holding it in for so long. Any advice would help. i would like to know that i am not alone in this. thank you.
