Post by achang9523 on Jan 22, 2010 19:11:46 GMT -5
im 25 male. i have 2 bms an a gf. one bm put a restraining order on me cause i left her. my second bm is due feb 3 or around that time. my gf is the best friend that ive had for 7+ years. now bm1 left me wen she was 6mo preg and didnt show back up until 6mo after that. i missed everything about my son birth. so wen she gets back we hook back up and move in together to do the family thing. times got tough and we didnt get along much, she was cold and in affectionate. always lied to me and left the house without me on a regular to go do her own stuff. evenutally ihad enough of bein treated like a door mat. so i decided to leave for my own sake. now bm2 was around wen bm1 left the first time, i lived with her for about a month and her roomate was bein a pregnant dog and i had to leave. now around the time bm1 was actin shady my bestfriend moved back from maryland. now ive always had alot of love and a huge crush back in hs. anyway she had gotten over her ex and i was plannin on leavin mine. bottom line we have had love for each other and had never had a chance to express it to each other. anyway not too long after makin it official bm2 calls and tells me she 6mo preg. not telling me until then. n my gf said she was willin to deal with the situation. i was still talkin to bm2 and getting money from her so i could get to school seein as my gf couldnt help me out. i made a bad decision not tellin my gf about it and she ended up goin in my phone and fb and seein the things i should have told her. we got over it cause i told her id stop talkin to bm2 until the baby arrived and id let her know wen i started back talking to her. now its gettin closer to that time and she contacted me. the day she contacted me i was lookin for the way to tell her we had talked but didnt know of a way to tell her without upsetting her. and now that she knows i know shes not happy and we seem to be drifting apart. i asked and she tells me she diistant because it makes it easier to not care about the situation, i on the other hand have tried everything i can to help her feel like she can trust me and i try to keep her up to date on everything. ive gave her the pw to my email and fb and myspace so she can check any of my resources at any given time. but it seems no matter wat i do or how i do it shes not happy and very distant. it bothers me that i cant help her feel better or things dont get better. im trying hard to keep us together but we need advise on how to handle the situation. wat can we do to make things better????please helpp!!!!