how do I deal

[JC]

I started dating my BF before the baby was born during this time he did inform me that his BM was pregnant but did not know if the kid was really his or not. just before the baby was born we moved in together and it has slowly been going down hill since then. He hasnt told her that he has a girlfriend that is living with him. We have found out that the baby is indeed his. He picks up the baby every weekend and drives her home he will buy formula and diapers for the bm eventhough she gets aid from the county. He is an amazing father and wants full custody.the bm wants to be a porn star or stripper and will not give up custody because she wants to be with my bf because he has not told her he has a gf so she thinks she can just ask him to come sleep with her whenever she wants. she doesnt even care about the baby. My bf had to leave for a week for traing for his job and bm needed a babysitter for two days that week so i volunteered since i did not have to work those days. She was supposed to come pick her up and ditched out on her at the last minute. So I being the great GF I am I watched her for an entire week by myslef. During that week she never called to see how her baby was and never called my bf to see how her baby was doing. whenever they talk he is nice to her and tells her anything she wants to her and she has told him that she only wants to have custody of the baby because she wants her child support money. How am i supposed to be supportive to the situation when all i want to do is slap her repeatedly??

[krystal]

Hello, so I am a wife of a man that had two kids with a very unstable women. She too had the boys for the wrong reasons. I'm pretty sure she just wants my husband back. She does the most obscene things for att. She has showed up at my house trying to fight me (I am 3mths pregnant)
I have learned to STAY OUT OF IT. You will always get mad how the bm talks and disrespects the father and is ungrateful. Trust me this women is disgustingly rude and immature but your roll isn't a security guard. Its a provider and supporter for your man. Try and stay out of it. Don't watch the baby either. If anything happend while you watched the baby, you would get introuble. I would wait till she knows about you and that's something your bf needs to bring up to her. Also let your man deal with this situation. Everytime I got involved it seemed worse and I ended up irate! Hang in there my husband has told this woman that we r married, we r inlove and there relationship is now strictly about the boys. Ever since then her and the two boys r in and out the hospital. She's nuts. Be glad your bf doesn't have my husbands bm!! Lol