HELP PLEASE anyone and everyone

[shortie1]

ok so i guess a little back ground info is needed. i am 18 my boyfriend is 18 too... so he has a BM she's 19. me and him have been goin out for almost 2 years... he didnt tell me he had a baby till we had been goin out for two months... so i was in complete shock like HUH?! so i started you i guess making a mental image of how the BM looked i guess a beautiful hispanic girl... well it wasnt it was a black girl she isnt very goodlooking which came to my surprise...im not racist at all what so ever. i just want to express myself completely. i mean a baby is a BIG deal whenever you have a baby with someone their gonna be part of your life forever. bc theyre gonna be sending money. so i didnt really care about all this mess until oneday i found a bag with a letter from her some pics a candygram... this is when everything changed.. because the letter was from her to him it was OLD of course but it expressed how she felt for him and how much she loved him. so i guess it kinda showed me that they were really in LOVE?! so after that i didnt trust him talking to her of texting her, it has seem to almost gotten worse. i dont want her to call him at all unless it is a 911 emergency concerning theyre son ( which is just a little over 1 yr old) i dont want her texting him at ALL i mean thats unnesessary! i hate her bc it was suppose to be me with his child not her.. i feel like im desperate to have his kid now. which ive always wanted to have a baby around 18 or 19.. i want to break up with him and i feel it would be easier if i had his kid bc i will always have a part of him with me... we are both in love truly but i dont think i can live with the fact he has a kid with another women. please help me give me any advise you can or want.... thank u for reading this!

[krystalsgoingnuts]

Hello my name is krystal and i was just reading your story. if my advice means anything please read....First your 18, try and not get pregnant:) if you feel the need to have a baby with someone to keep them then your in it for the wrong reasons. i know its hard because you feel like she has something that will keep them always together and your just hanging out the words I Love You to keep you two together. i understand.
another thing you have got to understand taht he had a life before you and he will have one after (if there is even an after who knows you might end up married! )

My husband and i were together for a while and i knew he had two boys with this girl. with my luck she was disgusting and BIGGGGGG lol so it made it easier not to get jealous. he never kept any pictures or anything from her and they were together for 4 yrs. when he broke up with her he meant it was OVER. but still, it hurts when she texts "our kids need blah blah blah" because its like it connects them always and forever. but you know what? i waited patiently and TRUSTED him, that he loved me the way he showed and said. and with that it made the relationship easier. now this woman did everything possible to make sure we werent goether. she would call and said they were already married (all of this is lies) that he still loves her, blah blah blah and she even now stalks us for hours outside the house!

The point to my store is be patient. men HATE crazy women....if you prove your just as crazy as she is, you will be where she is. with a baby and not with him. see? i didnt want to be like that. i wanted to show him i was a real true woman that was able to deal with her ass and take care of him. and tahts what i do. and we are married now with our own lil one on the way. its just so important to trust him. if he hasnt shown you any signs he loves her then dont worry sweetie i know its hard

another thing is i understand you dont want her talking to him, but honestly you two arent married, you dont have alot of say to what she wants. its up to HIM to put bondaries on his relationship with her. you saying she cant call unless its a 911 emergency is kinda showing that you dont trust him :S...and your really taking away from the baby. that baby needs the daddy. no matter what.....


Just try and have a good long thought with yourself, and make sure your in this for the good reasons. she isnt going anywhere so accept that, now its up to you to determine how you will let her affect your life and his.

I know its hard though, trust me i know!! its so hard.

is she crazy like all the other babymamas on this website? lol my husbands babymama is the craziest women i ever had to meet. yuck.

[shortie1]

thanks so much for the advise... and ur right about everthing you said... i guess i should trust him more bc i know he loves me and hes always telling me that they have nothing just his son. which kind of sucks. but like you said he needs his daddy. i guess she could be worse so she isnt THAT bad... lol and goodluck with your situation thats kinda of CREEPY!!! and you know i rethought the whole situation and it is a good idea now to get pregnant i dont wanna end up like her... plus i got a good future ahead of me, so i dont want a baby to get in the way of it.

and your right men do HATE crazy women. its just really hard to deal with i guess maybe bc im still young and never in a million years thought i would be in this situation. but again thank you!!!!!!. i thought i would never find someone who would understand me!