Let 'em make a hard bed to lay in....

[Mr Don T Pissmeoff]

Am I a jack ass for helpin my self-centered BM every time she has a set back in her life? She chose not to be with me but it seems im obligated to drop everything I need to do to get my life in order to make her situation easy. I cut of communication for awhile to see if that would work for the both of us. I can take care of my daughter and not have to talk to her dumb ass ( excuse me). Im helpin her with her life when all im resposible for is my child. If she has all these freinds and dudes she talkin to and datin, why dont she ask them to help her to eat, get to work and what ever else and just let me take care of just my daughter? Im tired of bein Mr. Nice Guy.

[ayzha]

Those things are not your responsibilities. BM knows that she can try to make you feel guility using the baby. You can pick up your child and feed your child. If BM really is unable to work and provide then maybe you should consider getting custody. Are you paying child support. That is the only monetary obligation that you have to hand to bm but it is for your child. Anything extra that BM claims that she needs for your child like food and clothes, then you should buy it and not just hand her the money. Women will only do what men allow them to do and vice versa so if you allow for BM to run your life then she will.
Dont cut off all communictaion. You need to speak about child but when your bm starts going on about her stressfull day at work, etc. you pretend to be busy and find a way off the line.