Post by superstepmama on May 3, 2010 16:50:11 GMT -5
My god! This weekend we had my BF's 3 boys. It has taken a long time for us to really become a family. The major speed bump in the road for our family is the crazy pregnant dog that gave birth to them. My step sons are 12 10 and 6.
A little background my BF has 2 baby mamas the 3 boys with one and one wonderful 6 yr old girl with the other, also we together we have a 2 year old MONSTER. So I went from a single bar hopping tailgate parting girl to a step mom in a heart beat. It has never been easy. BM # 1 with the three boys will smile at your face while trying to find an angel to stab you from. I am very big on making sure that the kids never know what I really think of their mothers. It is none of the concern that is grown folks troubles. Kids should for the most part be carefree in life. This past labor day My BF and I were having a BBQ party and the boys really wanted their mother there. So as the grown woman I am we invited her. She smiled ate our food drank our tequila and pasted out on my couch. She ended up staying the night with the boys. STRANGE right ?? So later I find out she was talking to BM#2 about how I am going to have to back to work because My BF was going to have to pay her until the kids were 35. (now this conversation took place in our house where this pregnant dog was a guest) the following week were served with child support papers. I have no problem at all taking care of his boys they are his and that is his resp. BUT I had a major problem with the BM#1 for smiling at me like she was finally over him and going to just let us live our lives. So in return we got a lawyer and went after custody. Since then it has been all out war. Through the courts and a mediator we finally have the boys every other weekend from Thursday after school until Monday's drop off at school. Again another big adjustment for everyone. And every Thursday after school to drop off at school Friday am. We have had this shared custody since March. It has been a little tough here and there but we are getting through all of it together as a family.
SO this past weekend we had the boys on Saturday. for 6 weeks they have to go to court ordered group therapy afterwards we had a great day. Our six year had a lot of homework something his mother has failed to get him to complete at all since Nov of this school year. So being the Super step mom I am I decided it was time for action. We will call him kid d. Kid d gets the whole next weeks homework every Friday which give busy parents the weekend to get a jump start. So for 2 hours Friday night and 2 hours on Saturday night and then another 2 on Sunday, I was so proud that I facebooked that fact. That kid d was such a good trooper having to deal with all the homework while the other kids were playing. I also added a pic of him hard at work.
My 12 year old we will call him Kid S freaked out saying it was not a good idea his mother has flipped out saying horrible things out about me because of what her stalker ass was snooping to find on my facebook. This bothers me on so many levels. My main concern is what she is showing her son. BM#1 issues are just that HERS. If she has an problem with me she should bring it to my door step not her 12 year old son. So I went to facebook and adjusted my setting to save my step son from his mothers f**ked up issues. I just feel the kids are being used more like poker chips than the lil bundles of joy that the are. I don't get it. I have only been a mother for a lil over two years and I get how important my choices in life are. The choices we make effect our children not matter how big or small. I hope that this bitter pregnant dog figures it out before her boys no longer speak to her. As it is now the oldest and the youngest both want to live full time in our house. That says a lot when they will have to live with our house rules. Stay tuned it is just a matter of time before I have another crazy situation to share with you all.
A little background my BF has 2 baby mamas the 3 boys with one and one wonderful 6 yr old girl with the other, also we together we have a 2 year old MONSTER. So I went from a single bar hopping tailgate parting girl to a step mom in a heart beat. It has never been easy. BM # 1 with the three boys will smile at your face while trying to find an angel to stab you from. I am very big on making sure that the kids never know what I really think of their mothers. It is none of the concern that is grown folks troubles. Kids should for the most part be carefree in life. This past labor day My BF and I were having a BBQ party and the boys really wanted their mother there. So as the grown woman I am we invited her. She smiled ate our food drank our tequila and pasted out on my couch. She ended up staying the night with the boys. STRANGE right ?? So later I find out she was talking to BM#2 about how I am going to have to back to work because My BF was going to have to pay her until the kids were 35. (now this conversation took place in our house where this pregnant dog was a guest) the following week were served with child support papers. I have no problem at all taking care of his boys they are his and that is his resp. BUT I had a major problem with the BM#1 for smiling at me like she was finally over him and going to just let us live our lives. So in return we got a lawyer and went after custody. Since then it has been all out war. Through the courts and a mediator we finally have the boys every other weekend from Thursday after school until Monday's drop off at school. Again another big adjustment for everyone. And every Thursday after school to drop off at school Friday am. We have had this shared custody since March. It has been a little tough here and there but we are getting through all of it together as a family.
SO this past weekend we had the boys on Saturday. for 6 weeks they have to go to court ordered group therapy afterwards we had a great day. Our six year had a lot of homework something his mother has failed to get him to complete at all since Nov of this school year. So being the Super step mom I am I decided it was time for action. We will call him kid d. Kid d gets the whole next weeks homework every Friday which give busy parents the weekend to get a jump start. So for 2 hours Friday night and 2 hours on Saturday night and then another 2 on Sunday, I was so proud that I facebooked that fact. That kid d was such a good trooper having to deal with all the homework while the other kids were playing. I also added a pic of him hard at work.
My 12 year old we will call him Kid S freaked out saying it was not a good idea his mother has flipped out saying horrible things out about me because of what her stalker ass was snooping to find on my facebook. This bothers me on so many levels. My main concern is what she is showing her son. BM#1 issues are just that HERS. If she has an problem with me she should bring it to my door step not her 12 year old son. So I went to facebook and adjusted my setting to save my step son from his mothers f**ked up issues. I just feel the kids are being used more like poker chips than the lil bundles of joy that the are. I don't get it. I have only been a mother for a lil over two years and I get how important my choices in life are. The choices we make effect our children not matter how big or small. I hope that this bitter pregnant dog figures it out before her boys no longer speak to her. As it is now the oldest and the youngest both want to live full time in our house. That says a lot when they will have to live with our house rules. Stay tuned it is just a matter of time before I have another crazy situation to share with you all.
