I have a few question for you ladies?

[caramel1976]

Would any of you women stay with a man who has twins girls on the way, from his ex girlfriend? Even though they were already broken up before you met. Ok, you may say no. What about if he treated you like no other man as. For the negative part. Would you stay, if you found out she still loves him and wanted to marry him? Even though he claims he doesn't want her anymore. Now what about if she is playing games telling him he needs to sign over his rights as a father? These are only questions. So if you happen to read my other post. Don't assume I am going back to this man I may be talking about. I just want to find out other womens point of view. Please be honest.

[memy]

If I had the chance to do it again, I would keep my distance and watch and see how he handles the whole situation. Continue to do me (and I would make him aware of that) and make him show me that he means business through his actions. Making yourself available to this man, just places you in the midst of his troubles and trust you don't want any parts of that.

You may only come to regret that you wasted your time on this man, in the long run.

I can tell you one thing. If I was without child, I wouldn't dare be wasting my time on someone who does. You still have a shot at having a traditional family, and I would take advantage of that to the fullest...

[blaquechinadoll]

Hell NAW... You are setting yourself up, Boo! Plus I don't have the patience for an old @$$ man or new born babies... In this economy, one can never get too much education... spend this kind of energy on a Master's degree or a Doctorate!

[STALKMUCH]

Would any of you women stay with a man who has twins girls on the way, from his ex girlfriend?

No.

Even though they were already broken up before you met.

According to your first post they weren't broken up when you met him. They were living together.

Ok, you may say no. What about if he treated you like no other man as.


If what you wrote about is treating you like no other man has then you need to get counseling. Its sounds like he is a player and you have been played. Try counseling or get out more because nothing you have written says good man. So you met him family? Dogs have families who know that they are dogs.

For the negative part. Would you stay, if you found out she still loves him and wanted to marry him? Even though he claims he doesn't want her anymore. Now what about if she is playing games telling him he needs to sign over his rights as a father? These are only questions. So if you happen to read my other post. Don't assume I am going back to this man I may be talking about. I just want to find out other womens point of view. Please be honest

You have already been given honest advice. You just are not hearing it because its not what you want to hear or see.

[caramel1976]

Wow STALKMUCH your cruel. That's cool, I can take the heat. However, I am not a stalker. I haven't talked to him in over three weeks. Yes, I called and emailed him many times. He wasn't replying to my calls or emails. Many women would have gone to his house. I deserved to know what was up. That's not stalking. As far as all your comments. When we met, yes she was still living with him. He put her out soon after. Should he have put her on the streets with her three kids? So to me seems like he was done with her. Not my fault if he didn't want her in his life anymore. I don't have low self esteem. I just had feelings for someone who maybe I shouldn't have. However, seems like you like saying spiteful things to me. Which is fine. I am not the type of woman who takes comments to heart. I have left him alone. As far as his age. Well that was my choice to deal with a much older man. I can do that because I am a grown ass woman. Not like I am 20 years old. His soon to be kids mother is a crazy ass bi***. She would hit him and act crazy. Now why would a man want that kind of woman in his life. She is just pregnant with his kids. So she will think (like most pregnant women) that it means they will be a family once the kids are born. NOT TRUE. Just because she's having his kids, doesn't mean he has to be unhappy and try and make it work with her. He already did that. They failed to make it work. So she should have just left him alone. She didn't have to get pregnant. Now that she is, she thinks no one can date him. She's crazy and needs to be on meds. I don't have kids, which means yes, more men will want to deal with me. However, I can't help if I had feelings for someone who has kids on the way. nuts happens in life. I didn't even know she was pregnant until we had been dating for a few months. She didn't tell him as soon as she found out. So don't judge me for that. Even though you already have. You never answered any of my questions. All you did was repeat the questions I asked you. Then use them on me. Which I thought was really silly. Advice is always good. I welcome all comments. So I will say thanks for taking the time to write such a detailed reply. However, I didn't take anything you said too seriously. Not because I didn't like what you had to say. I just don't feel like you answered any of my questions. Do you have kids with a man your no longer with? If so, does he have kids with other women? If so, do you get along with them? No woman can keep a man, just because they have kids with one another. I don't feel bad for what happened. It wasn't my fault he didn't want her. The only mistake I will admit is, I don't and wont deal with a man who has twins on the way, with a crazy ass woman. Who thinks she will get him back, based on the fact that she is having his kids. Truth is he isn't 100% sure the kids are even his. I for one am not going to deal with a jealous bitter BM, who is mad because her man doesn't want her. We would still be together if she wasn't pregnant. He told me he doesn't want me in the middle of all this BS and drama this this woman. He also said he isn't sure what he wants to do. So I told him I am not waiting for him to figure that out. He replied by saying things between he and I, needed to be put on hold. I don't think so. I am not desperate for a man. I guess my feelings got the best of me for a moment. I know in his heart he would prefer to have things work with the person who is having his kids. He knows it wont work with her. She's crazy and abusive. However, he decided to have kids with someone who he knew want his type of woman. Deep inside I still want to be with him. Yes I said it. Regardless of how I feel, I wont be calling or emailing him again. We just happen to meet at the wrong time in our lives. No one in perfect in life. I would do it all over again.

[ty1981]

Caramel I think Stalkmuch was a little harsh in her answers...but bottom line she is right. You do sound a little crazy right now....but we have all been there at least once.....keep your head up and move on leave that drama alone!

[caramel1976]

Thanks for the reply ty1981. I am done with him. Sometimes it takes someone else to point out the truth. I am not about drama. It was best things ended when they did. However, I was pissed with how he ended the relationship. Maybe in my first post I did come off a bit crazy. However, I feel I have moved on with my life. I do still have feeling for him I can't help that. I know those feelings will fade over time.