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Post by sbimiss on Jul 4, 2010 19:12:09 GMT -5
My DH and I picked up SD for a few hours last night. We took her to Dave & Busters(restaurant & arcade). SD had a blast. She won alot of stuffed animals and played lots of games. Afterward, we had dinner and then took her home. For those of you that don't know, SD permanently lives with BM's mom.BM lives elsewhere. We took SD back to her grandmothers house and as my DH was leaving the grandmother handed him some of SD's school photos.
He returns to the car and we looked at them together. DH and I commented about how cute she looked in one of them. I went to put the pictures back in the envelope and noticed something written on the back of them. It read: TO MY DADDY ONLY!
LOL! I have been with DH for over 10 years on and off and SD is 6 years old. It speaks for itself just by doing the math.
I do not interreact with BM nor does DH. In fact we havent seen in her or spoken to her in over 2 years. DH deals with SD's grandmother whom SD lives with.
Now, I wasn't hurt by the gesture....just very angry that this seems like it's never going to stop. Any chance this halfwit gets she takes a personal attack at ME. It's nice to know she does things out of spite for me and not simply for her daughter. I must get under her skin that much, right?
DH said that we would take them to our local photo shop and have copies made and send these back to the grandmother's house via mail. I'm going to put them in an envelope and send them back to where they came from. Usually, I don't feed into this mess. I normally ignore her immature antics. This time, I just can't. DH said he'd send her a "nice" little note in there. I am wondering if we should include the note or just return the photos alone?
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Post by eyeswideopen on Jul 5, 2010 0:22:53 GMT -5
Hey, if you're going to send the pictures back anyway, why don't u send a little something extra?
You, stepdaughter and hubby should take a picture together and write on the back " To BM, one big happy family"!! LOL!! ;D
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Post by blaquechinadoll on Jul 5, 2010 0:23:26 GMT -5
I wouldn't do either. She's not worth the time or the few dollars for the copies & postage. But if you must, dont include the letter, either she'll get it or she won't... I make it my business to spend as little time as possible on negative people, CBM included.
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Post by KEEPTHEPICS on Jul 5, 2010 6:33:01 GMT -5
Why send them back? The pics are of his DD. Who cares what BM wrote. Dont spend any of your time or energy on trash. Sending the pics back is feeding into her non sense and will only fuel her. Keep the pics and ignore her.
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Post by memy on Jul 5, 2010 12:48:18 GMT -5
"Never mind what haters say, ignore em till they fade away.."
;D
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Post by sbimiss on Jul 5, 2010 15:46:09 GMT -5
Thank you all for your responses. DH took the photos to Walgreen's and made copies of them. I sent them back with the mailman today. No note, just the photos. However, he scribbled out the "To dad only" part. I figured that will speak for itself. I don't need to shoot indirects to her. I've always been a straight up person and I'm sure she knows exactly what she's doing. When SD visits, she will see her photos in our home along with the rest of our family photos.
BM won't have the satisfaction of photos with things written like that on them in my home! She tried to make a statement with what she wrote. This is the same as how she used to call both of our cell phones anonymously to JUST listen. Trapcall.com exposed her. I can bet my last dime she will never say a thing to my face.
I always hear about others having problems like this. I think to myself, "what did they do to that person for them to be doing things like that to them?" Well, I can honestly say I understand now that you can do absolutely nothing to a bitter BM and they will hold unwarranted animosity towards you. I wonder if it will EVER stop?
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Post by YOUKNOW on Jul 16, 2010 20:31:42 GMT -5
Girl don't send them back you will be being just as petty as her. She is obviously delusional as she doesn't even care for her own child. Be maturre....leave the childs play to the kids.
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Post by sbimiss on Jul 17, 2010 15:34:12 GMT -5
Girl don't send them back you will be being just as petty as her. She is obviously delusional as she doesn't even care for her own child. Be maturre....leave the childs play to the kids. You are certainly right! Today I get a phone call from my MIL. I missed the call so I told DH to call her back. To my surprise, I hear DH screaming and yelling. Apparently, BM who doesn't speak to any of his family, contacted his sister on Facebook. She asks for his mother's phone number. She gave the number to her. BM explains that SD's grandmother sent some of SD's school photos to DH and he sent them back. She explained how pissed she was and so on. So, this is her latest scheme? She knows how to get a hold of DH. SD's grandmother has his phone number. So why would she need to contact my MIL saying she doesnt know how to get a hold of him and to explain her mess? My MIL says she's trying to turn the family against me. WTF? She can keep trying. These people are not on speaking terms with her because of other past conflications yet she calls them to address something that she should have addressed DH about. DH was yelling at his mother like it was her fault. This is exactly what BM wants. She wanted to create friction between the family and she wants them to know I am the cause of it. He gets off the phone and calls BM's mom. He tells her that BM is ignorant and is only creating problems. He said that BM is not to contact any of his family with mess ever again. BM's mom replied that she had no idea her daughter was doing these things. yea right! One thing I know is that I have nothing to prove to anyone. My SD knows how much I love her and all that matters is that SD knows that. BM is so transparent. I can tell that she is trying anyway possible to get at me. She wants me gone. She wants his family not to like me and she wants him to feel like I am the problem. What do you think about this? |
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Post by youknow on Jul 17, 2010 17:36:30 GMT -5
Sending the pictures back caused all that.....you gave her the audience she wanted. Ya'll could have just copied the pictures and threw the one's she sent away or just scratched that mess out. Like I said....be above that, leave the child's play to the kids.
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Post by sbimiss on Jul 17, 2010 18:40:16 GMT -5
Right again youknow! =) Just as she didn't care about the repercussions of her actions, we didn't either and this was the consequences of sending them back. We shouldn't be playing this game with her. I'm sure of her intentions and I know if she really had a legitimate reason to be upset, she would have contacted him directly but she didn't. She wanted an audience, like you said, no doubt about that. Just don't understand how someone could be so relentless. No one even bothers with her.
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Post by ayzha on Jul 26, 2010 21:33:44 GMT -5
LOL. This reminds me of school picture that I sent of SS6 to the house of BM. I just wrote it to the attention of SS3. Im pretty sure that BM knew that I wrote it. LOL. I didnt add BM name even though she deals with SS6 at times. I didnt want to give her that credit/respect. It seems petty now but I know that BM got the picture. Doesnt matter whos name is in the back. Its the person on the front of the picture thats important. As long as BM is not sending a family photo I wouldnt care to send it back. Being that your SS was 6 that was all the works of her mom and I would have ignored it. I would have actually laughed because adding the word "only" would have confirmed that I crossed her mind.
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Post by lamujermaravilla on Jul 26, 2010 22:42:54 GMT -5
i screamed when I read this post!
I cant believe you sent the pics back! LMAOOOOO! But yeah, that definitely causes drama...
In the past when BM says/does dumb sh** I ignore it... but I don't know what I would have done in your situation.
BM have the emotional mentality of their children.
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Post by sbimiss on Aug 3, 2010 16:41:00 GMT -5
Everyone has some good opinions. I guess it's hard to continue to ignore this kind of immaturity. It would be the norm for me to ignore this. This time it was like DH and I both had it. I feel as though she is constantly trying to hurt my feelings. She was far from hurting my feelings. I was just fed up. Fed up that I constantly have to take mess from her and shut up about it. DH was just as fed up. In future, she can send all the subliminal messages as she wants.....the fact that I get under her skin that much is enough for me. My DH and I will always go on with our lives. We are happy. I am happy that he is apart of his daughter's life and that we all enjoy spending time together as a family. She on the other hand, spends her time worrying about me and my happiness. What a shame!
Regardless, I've learned from this minor experience. You ladies helped shine a little light on how I need to view situations like this in future.
Thanks! =)
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