Post by tooclassy on Aug 18, 2010 11:58:04 GMT -5
Hello everyone! I am new to this forum. I've found everyone's posts here to be very interesting and informative. I've joined because of a recent event in my life that has caused me some serious BM drama. Never in my worst nightmare did I believe that I would be dealing with such ignorant people. Here is my story:
I was a naive 24 year old when I got pregnant with my first son. His father would put me through the worst six years of my life and I think I am seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Basically, I woke up! Let me start by saying that I am a college educated 30 year old business woman, who prides herself in being a good mother despite the obstacle placed in front of me on a daily basis. I love my children! When I met their father, he made me aware that he had two children from a previous relationship and at the time I had no children. I walked away from him because of it. I didn't want to deal with a BM. His BM lost custody of the children to protect services. He continued to pursue me heavily until I caved. I was pregnant within 3 months(young & dumb) and I thought we were going to live happily ever after as a family. I'm BM #2, BM#1 is permanently out of the picture now because the kids have been adopted by aunt. When our first son was 6 months old, my BD got someone else pregnant. I found out through various phone calls from other people. This girl already had 3 kids from 3 different fathers. My BD offered to pay for an abortion for the girl after realizing the mistake he had made. She opted to keep it, BM#3. He made her aware that if she chose to go through with the pregnancy that he would not be part of the child's life. She is currently raising this child with her boyfriend and her BD#5. TRASH. Our relationship was able to heal from the situation(mistake) and we ended up having two more beautiful children.
There were several other bumps in the road for us(jail sentences, other females) and we split up. He started dating a 19 year old stripper from the bar that he manages. I spoke with her initially advising her that he already has 3 BM's and six children. She didn't seem to mind(not sure if there is a brain working in her head). I went ballistic and talked a whole lot of trash about her because I was concerned about the type of female that he was bringing around my children. I still at the time also had feelings for him and made her aware. I have never and will never use my children as pawns in the mess with their father. Now my BD who is 30 years old has gotten 19 year old stripper girl pregnant, BM#4. Apparently, now that she is pregnant she has placed herself on a high horse of some sort. She has declared that she openly doesn't like me and that my BD is her BD only. She blatantly disrespected me in front of my children and BD had to put her in her place. She has changed his phone number and I am not allowed to have it because the phone is on her phone plan. She stated to me that I don't need it that if I need something for the kids that I can go to his mother, who knows how to get ahold of him. He tells me that he will be getting another phone so that we can call him. My life was very sane before him and I am attempting to return it to that. What can I do in the meantime to deal with the current girlfriend/BM? I have never had to deal with this. Who is actually proud to be BM#4 and pregnant with kid#7? SOMEONE TELL ME. I want my children to continue to have a relationship with their father, but it seems that BM#4 views me as a threat to their relationship and her new family. I am making positive attempts to move forward with my life including applying to law school. I'm not part of the world that these type of people live in. I fear that I will end up having to cut off all contact with their dad in an effort to have peace in my life. What should I do?
I was a naive 24 year old when I got pregnant with my first son. His father would put me through the worst six years of my life and I think I am seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Basically, I woke up! Let me start by saying that I am a college educated 30 year old business woman, who prides herself in being a good mother despite the obstacle placed in front of me on a daily basis. I love my children! When I met their father, he made me aware that he had two children from a previous relationship and at the time I had no children. I walked away from him because of it. I didn't want to deal with a BM. His BM lost custody of the children to protect services. He continued to pursue me heavily until I caved. I was pregnant within 3 months(young & dumb) and I thought we were going to live happily ever after as a family. I'm BM #2, BM#1 is permanently out of the picture now because the kids have been adopted by aunt. When our first son was 6 months old, my BD got someone else pregnant. I found out through various phone calls from other people. This girl already had 3 kids from 3 different fathers. My BD offered to pay for an abortion for the girl after realizing the mistake he had made. She opted to keep it, BM#3. He made her aware that if she chose to go through with the pregnancy that he would not be part of the child's life. She is currently raising this child with her boyfriend and her BD#5. TRASH. Our relationship was able to heal from the situation(mistake) and we ended up having two more beautiful children.
There were several other bumps in the road for us(jail sentences, other females) and we split up. He started dating a 19 year old stripper from the bar that he manages. I spoke with her initially advising her that he already has 3 BM's and six children. She didn't seem to mind(not sure if there is a brain working in her head). I went ballistic and talked a whole lot of trash about her because I was concerned about the type of female that he was bringing around my children. I still at the time also had feelings for him and made her aware. I have never and will never use my children as pawns in the mess with their father. Now my BD who is 30 years old has gotten 19 year old stripper girl pregnant, BM#4. Apparently, now that she is pregnant she has placed herself on a high horse of some sort. She has declared that she openly doesn't like me and that my BD is her BD only. She blatantly disrespected me in front of my children and BD had to put her in her place. She has changed his phone number and I am not allowed to have it because the phone is on her phone plan. She stated to me that I don't need it that if I need something for the kids that I can go to his mother, who knows how to get ahold of him. He tells me that he will be getting another phone so that we can call him. My life was very sane before him and I am attempting to return it to that. What can I do in the meantime to deal with the current girlfriend/BM? I have never had to deal with this. Who is actually proud to be BM#4 and pregnant with kid#7? SOMEONE TELL ME. I want my children to continue to have a relationship with their father, but it seems that BM#4 views me as a threat to their relationship and her new family. I am making positive attempts to move forward with my life including applying to law school. I'm not part of the world that these type of people live in. I fear that I will end up having to cut off all contact with their dad in an effort to have peace in my life. What should I do?