Advice::My ex boyfriend/BD is still my best friend

[retromantic]

OK. so my baby daddy and have had a weird relationship. we started off ass friends with benefits, i got pregnant, and that was the start of our getting to know each other and taking it to the romantic relationship level. the first 5 months of our relationship, he was cheating on me sleeping with someone else, which i didnt know about until i caught him. of course he told me it didnt mean anything and he and i were stronger than that, and i wanted things to work between us for the sake of our child. so i took him back. he lied about some things, i blew up and we had quite a few arguments, and yet we kept on moving forward. fast forward, 2 months after our son was born, he ended things. we managed to stay best friends, our friendship is pretty much exactly the same as our relationship was, we just dont have a title. since then, weve been sleeping together regularly and going out together, because he "wasnt sure what he wanted with me." just this week i found out that he had taken this girl on a date. when i asked him, he lied to me, and i knew he was lying. i then decided to look at his email and everything just so i could let him know i knew he was lying. we got in this argument and i blew up at him saying how i never wanted to see him again and i gave him an ultimatum to choose his new interest, or me. in my mind the fact that he couldnt decide right away makes me wonder, but then i thought to myself, why do i care. we arent together. i want him to be happy, i really do, but i dont like the thought of him dating yet. not when hes strictly been with me in the ways he has.

I need advice. How do I handle this? how do i explain my jealousy or my actions.

[triciatenaka]

Aug 31, 2010 20:53:46 GMT -5 retromantic said:

OK. so my baby daddy and have had a weird relationship. we started off ass friends with benefits, i got pregnant, and that was the start of our getting to know each other and taking it to the romantic relationship level. the first 5 months of our relationship, he was cheating on me sleeping with someone else, which i didnt know about until i caught him. of course he told me it didnt mean anything and he and i were stronger than that, and i wanted things to work between us for the sake of our child. so i took him back. he lied about some things, i blew up and we had quite a few arguments, and yet we kept on moving forward. fast forward, 2 months after our son was born, he ended things. we managed to stay best friends, our friendship is pretty much exactly the same as our relationship was, we just dont have a title. since then, weve been sleeping together regularly and going out together, because he "wasnt sure what he wanted with me." just this week i found out that he had taken this girl on a date. when i asked him, he lied to me, and i knew he was lying. i then decided to look at his email and everything just so i could let him know i knew he was lying. we got in this argument and i blew up at him saying how i never wanted to see him again and i gave him an ultimatum to choose his new interest, or me. in my mind the fact that he couldnt decide right away makes me wonder, but then i thought to myself, why do i care. we arent together. i want him to be happy, i really do, but i dont like the thought of him dating yet. not when hes strictly been with me in the ways he has.

I need advice. How do I handle this? how do i explain my jealousy or my actions.

Congragulations! You are a statistic. You remind me of all of the chicken head baby mamas that used to call my phone to (ages 18-23 I dated some undesirable guys who were irresponsible & had immature BMs) either: 1- ask how I know thier BD and have we had sex. 2-throw salt. 3. talk nuts. All of them ultimately dissapointed in themselves for letting him knock them up, all while still letting him f**k raw w/o birth control. Thus resulting in more kids my tax dollars may or may not (giving you TBOTD) have to pay for. Your focus should be your kid and keeping your legs closed, not chasing down your BD.