New to bmd and have some questions please!!!!

[New wife]

So me and my husband just got married and he is a awesome wonderful man. He has two children with two different women. His sons mother I never have any issues with while his daughters mother likes to cause constant drama. I am all for supporting your children but I don't feel you should support the mother too. My husband placed himself on child support with his children and he is a loving father. I try to be supportive and when we get the kids I try and provide them with the best time possible while they are with us. With the daughters mother she makes this difficult and seems to try and use her daughter as a tool to get what she wants and then won't allow my husband to see his daughter for lengths of time. It is frustrating to me because we pay child support but half the time we don't get to see the child and we have never gotten to keep her over night because she just doesn't want to. He has told her that they need to abide by the cp and he should get his visitation as stated. She feels he should pay for her cost of living in addition to the cp apparently because she asks for rent money and additional money for herself. Now I try and stay out of I but she has recently began attacking me saying that we both aren't supporting her and her child. Mind you she has another bd that she stays with and another child by the 2nd bd. I could just use some advise if you all don't mind

[crtutm04]

Hi,

I am new to babymam drama.com and am in a similiar situation. I married to a man with two children by two different mothers as well. We have been married for over three years. In the beginning neither one of the mothers liked me too much but I managed to kill them with kindness and now I get along fine with each one of them. I respected them as the mothers and I asked for respect as his wife. My husband and I have a child together and my daughter is their children's sister. He pays child support for his older son but does not pay child support for his other daughter because she used to stay with us 5 out of seven days of the week. Its funny because before we got married and I got pregnant his son's mother said she did not want him on child support because he was already a supportive father. The day she found out I was pregnant and we were gettng married she went to the courts and requested child support saying that my child would not be better taken care of than hers. This was her reasoning! The mother of his second child is not getting any support because we used to keep the child 5 out of seven days and the courts denied her claim. They told her she could not file again for one year. So what she is doing now is keeping her child from us completely so she can build a case against him. My husbnand is a great father and I should know because he is a great father to my baby. Anything this woman ask of him to help her with pertaining to that child, he finds a way to make happen even if we do not have it. I do not appreciate the way he is being treated by her but I try to stay out of their fights. They fight constantly and all it does is upset my beautiful step daughter. I don't know what to do about this because my husband ahs been through so much that he is starting to not care anymore. He is tired of fighting her when all she does is intentionally make things difficult for him.

To help you with yoiur issue I would say no, I do not agree with suppoting the woman either because that is not your job. If he is on child support then he should not be giving her any extra money on top of this for her own personal use. If the child needs anything else that is not covered by the support and you guys make the decision that you want to help out then I would ask the mother what the child needs and instead of putting cash money in her hand just go out and purchase those needed items directly. You all are not responsible for supporting the mother because she is grown and needs to try to better her own situation. Just because you have a baby by somebody does not make them your own personal ATM!