TIRED OF BMD AND HIM TOO!!!!!

[cranberry35]

I'M ALSO NEW BUT I NEED SOME ADVICE MY BOYFRIEND OF FIVE YEARS CANNOT SPEND ANY ALONE TIME WIT HIS DAUGHTER BECAUSE OF ME. HIS X HASN'T GOTTEN OVER THE FACT THAT HE HAS MOVED ON WITH HIS LIFE BUT EXPECTS HIM TO DO WHATEVER SHE ASK OF HIM WHEN SHE ASKS AND IF HE DOESN'T SHE BLAMES ME AND TELL THE 9 YEARS OLD CHILD THAT HE IS NO GOOD A DEAD BEAT. AFTER THE BREAK-UP WITH HER AND HIM HE PUTT HIMSELF ON CHILD SUPPORT AND ALSO PAY HEALTH INS. NOT TO MENTION XMAS BIRTHDAYS SCHOOL CLOTHES AND SUPPLIES. NOW HE HAS TO PAY TO GET VISITATION RIGHTS JUST TO SEE THE CHILD BECAUSE OF ME I TELL HIM ALL THE TIME THAT HE TALKS TO HER TO MUCH SHE ONLY CALLS HIM WHEN SHE THINKS HES AT WORK NEVER WHEN IM AROUND, SHE OFTEN SAY WE MISS U, WE THINKIN ABOUT YOU AND WHEN HE TELLS HER NOT TO CALL WITH DAT SHE SAY YOUR GIRLFRIEND GOT U TREATIN ME DIFFERENT. NOW SHE CALLS HER SELF A PREACHER (DEVIL) AND USES QUOTES FROM THE BIBLE AND SAY WE'RE NOT LIVING RIGHT WHEN SHE DOESN'T WORK AND LIVES IN GOVERNMENT HOUSING AND USES GOD TO REPRESENT HER OWN LIFE (WAY OF THINKIN). THE CHILD HAS NO FRIENDS ONLY AT SCHOOL, NO CABLE, CALLS BABY DOLLS DEMONIC, GAMES KEEPS HER MIND OFF THE RIGHTEOUS ONE, SHES NINE YRS OLD WHEN DOES SHE EVER GET A CHANCE TO BE A CHILD. I ASK MY BOYFRIEND WHY HASN'T HE BEEN TOOK CONTROL OF THE SITUATION HE SAID HE THOUGHT IT WOULD HAVE GOTTEN BETTER BEFORE NOW. I TOLD HIM ILL HELP PAY FOR THE LAWYER CAUSE ENOUGH IS ENOUGH HE MADE A COMMENT LIKE I HOPE U DON'T THINK THIS IS FOR U LIKE WHAT SHES BEEN SAYIN IS GETTING TO HIM I DON'T KNOW HOW TO FEEL RIGHT NOW BECAUSE HE IS DOING WHAT I ASK OF HIM ITS JUST SEEM LIKE ITS MOVING SO SLOW AND I'M FEED UP WITH HER AND HIM PUTTING UP WITH HER MESS WHAT SHALL I DO ABOUT THE SITUATION ? ???

[memy]

Dec 27, 2010 10:53:43 GMT -5 cranberry35 said:

I'M ALSO NEW BUT I NEED SOME ADVICE MY BOYFRIEND OF FIVE YEARS CANNOT SPEND ANY ALONE TIME WIT HIS DAUGHTER BECAUSE OF ME. HIS X HASN'T GOTTEN OVER THE FACT THAT HE HAS MOVED ON WITH HIS LIFE BUT EXPECTS HIM TO DO WHATEVER SHE ASK OF HIM WHEN SHE ASKS AND IF HE DOESN'T SHE BLAMES ME AND TELL THE 9 YEARS OLD CHILD THAT HE IS NO GOOD A DEAD BEAT. AFTER THE BREAK-UP WITH HER AND HIM HE PUTT HIMSELF ON CHILD SUPPORT AND ALSO PAY HEALTH INS. NOT TO MENTION XMAS BIRTHDAYS SCHOOL CLOTHES AND SUPPLIES. NOW HE HAS TO PAY TO GET VISITATION RIGHTS JUST TO SEE THE CHILD BECAUSE OF ME I TELL HIM ALL THE TIME THAT HE TALKS TO HER TO MUCH SHE ONLY CALLS HIM WHEN SHE THINKS HES AT WORK NEVER WHEN IM AROUND, SHE OFTEN SAY WE MISS U, WE THINKIN ABOUT YOU AND WHEN HE TELLS HER NOT TO CALL WITH DAT SHE SAY YOUR GIRLFRIEND GOT U TREATIN ME DIFFERENT. NOW SHE CALLS HER SELF A PREACHER (DEVIL) AND USES QUOTES FROM THE BIBLE AND SAY WE'RE NOT LIVING RIGHT WHEN SHE DOESN'T WORK AND LIVES IN GOVERNMENT HOUSING AND USES GOD TO REPRESENT HER OWN LIFE (WAY OF THINKIN). THE CHILD HAS NO FRIENDS ONLY AT SCHOOL, NO CABLE, CALLS BABY DOLLS DEMONIC, GAMES KEEPS HER MIND OFF THE RIGHTEOUS ONE, SHES NINE YRS OLD WHEN DOES SHE EVER GET A CHANCE TO BE A CHILD. I ASK MY BOYFRIEND WHY HASN'T HE BEEN TOOK CONTROL OF THE SITUATION HE SAID HE THOUGHT IT WOULD HAVE GOTTEN BETTER BEFORE NOW. I TOLD HIM ILL HELP PAY FOR THE LAWYER CAUSE ENOUGH IS ENOUGH HE MADE A COMMENT LIKE I HOPE U DON'T THINK THIS IS FOR U LIKE WHAT SHES BEEN SAYIN IS GETTING TO HIM I DON'T KNOW HOW TO FEEL RIGHT NOW BECAUSE HE IS DOING WHAT I ASK OF HIM ITS JUST SEEM LIKE ITS MOVING SO SLOW AND I'M FEED UP WITH HER AND HIM PUTTING UP WITH HER MESS WHAT SHALL I DO ABOUT THE SITUATION ? ???

This comment was about his ego which tends to do a number on men in these circumstances. It's thier own little way of letting you know "I'm still the man" (even though he's doing/ going to do what you suggest). You have to understand that his "manhood" was lost somewhere in the midst of dealing with his ex which is why it's so hard for him to put his foot down to her. Therefore once he gets his "manhood" back, he'd rather hold on to it than place it directly into the hands of another woman.

LoL...My BF is 33 yrs old and let me tell you, he swears he's coming into his "manhood" (30 some yrs later)....Lmao!

[jaylady999]

LOL. Memy you are a nut!

[sinsitiv]

If you and him do not have kids together I would leave. Go find another man with NO kids who is worthy of you. Live peaceful life is too short.

[Spice1]

If you love him you will stick by him. Don't leave that the easy way out and someone usually someone who is unhappy thier self is giving the advice of leaving. I say his babymama rather they were married or not still baby mama and they are not together. More than likely she is just a bag full of hot air. She just wants to break u up. She is only hurting herself and her child. If it doesn't create a huge problem for him to the point its interfering with u two relationship. I say don't worry about it. If she wants to keep her child at home let her. better for u anyway because all she will do when the child does come around is school him/her on how to report everything u do then she will find something about that.. I say let the child stay home till they figure it out it's not your fault it the dizzy B*c*th fault. That her child not yours O well she needs to wake up and smell the coffe and realize u are going to be together. Tell her to get a man or better yet get a life

[notyourmananymore]

I agree with Spice 1....and also tell him to man up and help him do that that's all you have to do. He's weak right now...It's time to man up seems like he's use to a pattern with her. Also inform him never to tell this woman anything about you. Your not her concern that will come shortly after she receives her wake up call.

[fukallbms]

Fuk it!! Tell him to kick rocks!! Him & his slop bucket. (For all u who don't kno, the BM).