Post by tryingtofixthings11 on Jan 2, 2011 16:04:18 GMT -5
Ok so i got together with this guy about 7 months after his child was born. to make a long story short the girl moved away shortly after the baby was born so my boyfriend didn't get much contact with her or the baby. Ok so flash foward to our relationship, well i am the jealous type and i admit that, if the baby mama would call i would get mad or jealous so eventually he stopped answering her calls to make me happy. so basically now she wants to put him on child support cause she feels like he doesn't care about the kid. Well he's pissed and told me i ruined the relationship he had with her. On the one hand I feel guilty that my jealousy got so in the way on the other i don't feel so bad because there were times when she would promise to let him see the baby and then she would cancel the plans. this happenend more than once. He's only seen the baby like five times in her life (turns four this year) anyway that's not an excuse, oh and did i mention SHE moved away? she did and to me i didn't feel like i should have to share my boyfriend with someone that moved away it's not like my bf is a deadbeat or anything like i said she moved like a 1000 miles away so i just felt like why should they talk all the time. Anyway about 9 months after we started being serious she sends him this picture of herself not even a picture of the baby it just made me so insanley jealous that things really just got worse from there. I found her myspace her fb i wanted to see who this person was the mother of my boyfriends child. seeing her fb and myspace made me even more jealous because i saw how carefree she was. Now i know im wrong i know this and there's alot i left out. I suggested to my boyfriend that before he actually gets put on child support that he start sending her money. This pissed him off even more because he's like you ruined it dont try and fix it now. Well i feel like i should. He told me in an arugment a couple weeks ago that I was the one that made such a big deal about her he said never once did she act jealous about him having a girlfriend. He put it harshly by saying she could care less about you. I just need some advice because I love him so much but i feel like my jealousy will be the straw that breaks the camels back. I want to meet her but he won't let us meet and I always wonder if she did live here would things be different? I just need answers opinions and help. thanks