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Post by sinsitiv on Jan 7, 2011 14:55:26 GMT -5
So me and my bf have been together for 3 years going on 4 in April and I have a real problem with him and his baby mamas relationship. They have a child who is 5 and me and him have a child together who is 2. My problem is that he is on her cell phone contract, her health insurance, her gym membership etc...We have had plenty of arguments about this but nothing seems to change. I told him I don't like the fact that he is so attached to her but he simply blows it off. The baby mama runs around town telling others that she "loves her baby daddy" and that they are the best of friends and he has to told me that they are great friends. Wtf who does that! Is this normal and what should I do because I can't take too much more!! Thanks please respond...
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Post by memy on Jan 12, 2011 21:49:46 GMT -5
Hmm sounds familiar...I use to deal with the same crap with my SO but over time he took the steps towards making the changes that I needed to see. Thought here we are 6 yrs later and there still are a few minor changes that need to made. My point is, it's a process and the individual has to want to make the changes. Look at it like this, for every step that he doesn't take...you take one of your own..  |
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Post by youknow on Feb 24, 2011 16:32:26 GMT -5
Maybe they truly are friends they do have a chid together. Is it possible that you are just being extremely insecure? If he is with you what is the problem? My fiancee' is extremely attached to his ex wife's son whom is not biologically his. He has him from time to time and gets him on the weekends. I don't trip I am not insecure when we have our own kids things will probably be different even if not I'a m not sweating it. I'm not trying to deprive a kid of a father for my own selfish reason's. I am NOT insecure.
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Post by whocares on Mar 10, 2011 11:25:37 GMT -5
I don't think you're over reacting or being insecure. He can be in his child's life WITHOUT being on her cell phone contract, her health insurance, her gym membership etc. I mean yea if they were just friends than of course that would great but come on lets be realistic do you have your friends on your cell phone contract or on you health insurance? I don't think so. I think maybe its more so of a dependency issue your bf may have. Does he even pay child support?
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Post by notyourmananymore on Mar 20, 2011 14:11:12 GMT -5
As we all know most of the time when your in a serious relationship with someone rather they have kids or not. The request is that you stay faithful to that person. As far as having memberships and bills etc, with someone you are no longer with this is only another way to keeping ties with one another. This is fine if your not bringing someone Else into the picture. In my opinion he sounds like a user and a person that wants his cake and eat it too. He should have a good relationship with his child's mother and be the best of friends, but make him get rid of the memberships and etc and watch the games began. She paying for him this is just another tie and only making her feel she has ownership because she is paying and he knows this. Games people play! Double lock thats all it is.
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Post by NC WifeMomStepMom on Apr 2, 2011 8:36:21 GMT -5
I agree with all of the above..
One should be secure in their relationship,however who wants to play a passive "fool" if they don't really have to.It sounds like he's playing for keeps,when it comes to the benefits from the ex.You can't make anyone change(unless they want to) The question you have to ask yourself,is it worth it....
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