BMD I'm about to lose it!!!

[kishaw]

My boyfriend & I are dealing with real bi-polar baby mama/ex-wife drama going on 4 years and its only getting worse. He was recently laid off from work and she immediately put child support on him even though she knows how hard it’s been for him to find work. Her response is always she doesn’t care about him or his new family and he should have had all his ducks lined up. Despite him not being able to fully take of his children financially he still gets them every weekend faithfully and drives an hour and half to get them and take them back. She refuses to meet him half way in any situation. She recently called the cops on him because he couldn’t pick the kids up one weekend. Financially it wasn’t in our budget to use the extra gas going to get them. But she would rather argue and say how he’s no good then bring the kids to him. We have a 4 month old baby and she knows that he watches him during the day, so she knew he would be home when she called the cops to come. The cops came because he is behind on his support. They said the money he’s paying is not enough! She constantly calls back to back several times to harass him and tell him what he not doing or what a dead beat dad he is. All of this is in front of the children. What can we do to make this situation better? I know she has nothing nice to say about me, I'm his little girlfriend, I guess because I'm 6 years younger, but she is the one who is very immature! I usually stay out of the drama but it’s getting to a point where I have had enough of her disrespecting my home and my family. I think the last straw was calling the cops knowing he was home with the baby!

[whocares]

WOW! That's crazy! My boyfriend's soon-to-be-ex-wife/baby mama is the same way! I'm 7 years younger than my boyfriend so she use to refer to me as his "little girlfriend" that is until she saw me in person! I'm 5"7 and this woman is probably 5"0 (if that) so she quickly stopped referring to me as his "little girlfriend" lol. But anyways if the drama has really gotten to a point that you can't handle my suggestion to you is to step back some because your boyfriends drama shouldn't become your drama. As of right now me and my boyfriend are on a "timeout" until his divorce is final and honestly I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Try to focus more on your precious baby instead of his drama because although ya'll are together it's still HIS drama. If that doesn't work send her this letter

stepfamilyletterproject.wordpress.com/2009/05/13/to-the-insane-ex-wife/

[Knowledge]

Sorry to say this, but if your man couldn't afford to have a second family then he should have worked out the differences with his wife from the first one! Real rap! Finances are an essential element in taking care of children properly. You both knew going into the situation he had responsibilities with this lady and now you want to sit and cry about it. She has every right to be upset about him not paying the support. Men that don't have Lil Wayne money have no business having multiple baby mama's.

[Malia]

I am currently in that situation right now. No one understands what you are going through truly but you. There is honestly two choices that you have right now unfortunately it is either leave or deal with it. I do not want to sound so cold, but that was a difficult decision that I have to deal with.

Something that you have to realize is that she will always be like that. The only thing that youc an change is how you act about the situation. It's a painful pill to swallow, but you chose to be with this man and unfortunately being with him comes with this emotional baggage. (TRUST ME I KNOW!! )

What you can do is write everything she is doing. Every little thing. It will help eventually. Talk to your family and his family and tell thema bout the situation and let them know. If they are family and if they love you they will understand.

Hopefully things look up for you.