Post by 12many on Apr 29, 2011 17:58:50 GMT -5
I've been in a relationship with my soon to be BD (8 months pregnant with our son ) for a year and a half now. I knew when I met him, that he had ALOT of baggage, but none of this mattered to me....... but to explain to you all what I mean about baggage...I will now be my BDs 5TH BM. He currently has 5 kids with 4 different women. SO..this will be his 6th child with me and I will become the 5th BM. I get along very well with one of the BMS, however the other 3 are giving multiple issues. The BM to his oldest child is very mature and we've learned how to become a family, we have dinner and spend even holidays together. The BM of his 2 kids that follow was being great. We all got along fine and my BD was able to see his children every other week and she was happy with the amount of $$ she was receiving. NOW that I am pregnant, things have changed. Her just hearing how beautiful our babyshower for our son was (heard it from my step daughter) flipped her out, and now is claiming my man needs to give her more money for her two kids and is not letting the kids come over until she gets more money out of him. She wants $200 extra a month which he can not afford. The 3rd BM and his 4th child live far from us, about 10-12 hours. He hardly has any relationship with this daughter. The relationship is more of a long distance type of thing and they are not that close..apparently the BM feels as if the long distance relationship includes her as well. To say the lease she is a sleeper and I found nasty XXX pictures she sent to him via email back in December 2010. He stopped all communication with this BM (hasnt talked to his daughter either) cause I freaked out about the photos when I caught them and he says he feels that there will be tension if he even communicates with them. He blames me cause he says "He knows how I will get" if he even speaks to them. He says he sacrifices that to not have issues with me and not to upset me during my pregnant. When the issues with the XXX pictures came about, he begged me not to tell her anything, to let it go and that she was garbage and has always been. Said for me to act like a "lady" and to let it go. Unfinished business, not having told her anything makes it hard for me to forget how she disrespected me, and finally the 4th BM has a daughter that claims to be my mans, but since the beginning he says he was not his. I had an altercation with her ONCE via internet where she claims the kid WAS his and that he gives her money behind my back for daycare. I confronted him and he confessed he did give her money then.. but NOW he tells me that shes MIA and he has NOT spoken to her at all and does not even know what the little girl. I am extremely stressed out with all these BMS! My hormones are going nuts...and I need some advice...even though there may not but much to do but I guess IGNORE and move on... In the end of the day I shouldve known what I was getting myself into. :-[