Baby momma #1 vs Baby momma #2

[duck sauce]

Short(er) Version

Mom #1 dated for short period of time then and baby-girl #1 came along. Could say not ready for it, but took care of my responsibilities. Gradually-around a year later - accepted I didn't want to be with her I couldn't reciprocate the feelings. moved on *(sounds harsh- keep in mind shorter version) Anyway Shortly after this I started to date again ~ hopping not to get a similar outcome - i played it safe(r). years into this relationship we got *serious> bang baby #2 came along into the picture-3 months old now. Here --- the good stuff >>
All this time I've working and going to school full time to finish my BA- graduation next week- Finally after years 7+ years in the making I'm walking or am I? Here's the thing Ideally I'd like to have both of my kinds present * this means a lot to me- mom #1 doesn't want daughter near or nothing to do with my son- (kinda understand) mom#1 not allowing me to have my daughter that day as long as mom&baby #2 are around- So stressing out about this- came to a harsh conclusion that no matter how much this means to me- I either have both of my kids present or not. Pretty much not walking. mom#1 doesn't feel guilty Ima skipp my long-awaited graduation * why would she anyway- "It"s too young to even know whats going on nor he will ever even remember this"-mom#1 - Sad she thinks this way. Mom#2 offer to skip graduation so my 5year old daughter can be present. I know I got myself involved in this / mistakes or whatever but its part of learning. Now I am more confused than ever.
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[RUStupid]

R U Stupid or just dumb? Why would you let BM #1 keep you away from your graduation? You have worked hard for this accomplishment and would be a FOOL to let anything barring hospitalization or death keep you away from walking across the stage to get your degree.

BM #1 is childish. She doesn't want your DD around your DS? How stupid is that? They are siblings, whether BM #1 likes it or not. BM #1 doesn't have to like BM #2. They aren't sleeping together (I hope not anyway). All you have asked is that your DD be there to watch you get your degree. If BM #2 chooses to keep your DD away from your graduation, then that is her choice.
I would still walk across the stage with my head held high. You didn't cause your DD to miss your graduation. Her BM did.

You are a fool if you choose not to go because of BM #2. And, if you bow to her about something like this, buy some kneepads because you'll be kissing her azz for a long time time come.

Grow a pair of balls please!!

[eventualesq]

I would have to say that if you have visitation, by law you can request the time. If you don't, then get it. She shouldn't have that kind of control over your moves. Do what you have to do to ensure that you can spend time with your kids when you want to. Go to court. Stay in court. Don't leave until you get what every willing parent is due.

[tnlady]

just curious to know but when you say that you "kinda understand baby mom1# not wanting her kid around" is it some reason or safety concern just curious to know what or why you understand