Am I BEING PETTY OR DOES HE NEED TO STEP UP???

[trynafindabalanc]

So its been about 3 yrs and trust from day one there has been drama with the baby mama. My now soon to be husband, who is 10 yrs my senior has a thirteen yr old son who is very rough around the edges.The BM and my fiance were in an on and off relationship for about 9 yrs before i came into the picture and with that being said she is not use to him being in a serious relationship where it effects her stringing him along. She is use to calling arguing or fussing and him running to her aid both financially and emotionally. Now that she sees how serious we are she cant handle it and tries to find little ways to nit pick. ME I don't have the patience or tolerance for it and my fiance knows that. So now when she calls he tries to do what she ask or give her the info she want just to shut her up and keep the peace in our home but i keep telling him that that is not the answer. HE NEED TO LET HIS NO BE NO especially considering that we share finances and everything in between. Don't get me wrong while his son is a handful, i would loose respect for my fiance if he didnt take care of his responsibilities. But come on there is no reason she should be showing up at my door 11:30 at night to drop anything or constantly pulling for info about what is going on in our household or calling to borrow our car ESPECIALLY when she suppose to be in a relationship, and him telling her what she wants to know or saying well see just leads her on or okay cuz i don't feel like an argument will lead her to believe its acceptable and its not especially not in my home. She had the NERVE to call and ask my fiance for 6,000 dollars so that she could move like she is his responsibility his son has his own room at our house and is welcome anytime but she is not his child or responsibility especially not when OUR finances are intertwined. Do you think its time for me to make a big deal about cuz she not running my life.

[aquari0216]

I'm only 24 but have been in a similar situation for the last year and yeah I think its a big deal.....

[triciatenaka]

Jun 5, 2011 16:34:08 GMT -5 trynafindabalanc said:

So its been about 3 yrs and trust from day one there has been drama with the baby mama. My now soon to be husband, who is 10 yrs my senior has a thirteen yr old son who is very rough around the edges.The BM and my fiance were in an on and off relationship for about 9 yrs before i came into the picture and with that being said she is not use to him being in a serious relationship where it effects her stringing him along. She is use to calling arguing or fussing and him running to her aid both financially and emotionally. Now that she sees how serious we are she cant handle it and tries to find little ways to nit pick. ME I don't have the patience or tolerance for it and my fiance knows that. So now when she calls he tries to do what she ask or give her the info she want just to shut her up and keep the peace in our home but i keep telling him that that is not the answer. HE NEED TO LET HIS NO BE NO especially considering that we share finances and everything in between. Don't get me wrong while his son is a handful, i would loose respect for my fiance if he didnt take care of his responsibilities. But come on there is no reason she should be showing up at my door 11:30 at night to drop anything or constantly pulling for info about what is going on in our household or calling to borrow our car ESPECIALLY when she suppose to be in a relationship, and him telling her what she wants to know or saying well see just leads her on or okay cuz i don't feel like an argument will lead her to believe its acceptable and its not especially not in my home. She had the NERVE to call and ask my fiance for 6,000 dollars so that she could move like she is his responsibility his son has his own room at our house and is welcome anytime but she is not his child or responsibility especially not when OUR finances are intertwined. Do you think its time for me to make a big deal about cuz she not running my life.

Ladies,

If your man is totally intolerbale of the bullnuts from his baby mama then there should be no need for you to even have to give her a second thought beyond what's necessary because he WILL handle it. My man has always assured me I would never have to check his baby mama when he's around and there will never be any drama concerning me, her or his child. So far so good!

Baby mama's need to learn to get over thier emotions & be fair. And some men need to step up and do something when the pregnant dog ain't being fair. DOn't just do what she want to shut her up. He pulling stunts like this makes me think he's a softy and a man catering to his baby mama like that is grounds for termination of the relationship. Sorry to be so harsh but I can't tolerate a man who finds this OK.