Post by realchick39 on Jun 7, 2011 15:25:37 GMT -5
:-/ok so i've never ever dealt with a situation like this before and is in desperate need for some kind of advice any. My bf and I have been sexually involved for almost 3 yrs now, prior to meeting we both were in relationships, however I broke up with the ex 1st and he continued 2 yrs into us dealing on that level with his relationship asking me for "time". long story short he finally broke up with her after 2 yrs of dating me, however 2 months after she received devastating news about a family member one thing led to another and he fell back in her bed (how many times I dont know and doesnt matter) end results was a baby. she is currently 8 months expecting at any minute. she works nowhere its been this way for yrs now with her. she was literally homeless with her son who isnt his for a few months before the pregnancy but decided to keep this one anyway as a weapon to get my bf back. she has done n tried every trick in the book to get him back but he's with me and hasnt been there for her since the pregnancy, however he pays her rent n cell fone becuz he refused to see her go to a shelter. ofcourse i'm not cool with that but i understood to a certain extent (refraining from being the pregnant dog) today though he has a sudden sense of responsibilty where he feels she's stressed and tha he has to be there for this here. i want him to be a father to this baby more than anything cuz some day i'd like for him to be a father to mines, but tell me if i'm wrong? should he be going over to her house when baby gets here for long periods of time (all a baby does is sleep) and should he be sending nights taking turn to watch baby or get up at nights? if u and BM have no kind of relationship i as ur gf should accept such behavior under no circumstances after all she completely shut down ur feelings when u said this was bad timing n u wasnt ready, she knew u were in a relationship with someone else and that u werent with her so y is she stressed today that ur not around? is she using this situation to her benefit and if so where do i stand in all this and what should i do as a young woman with no kids of my own a bright future ahead i love him completely and is willing to be at his side in all this but i dont thnk im getting the respect that i deserve in all of this.....help :'(