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Post by eringreen3001 on Jul 29, 2011 11:33:25 GMT -5
I never knew BMD could cause so much tension in my chest. I have been married to my husband for 5 short months and I do not know how much more I can take. I have a 7 year old son of my own and he also has a 7 year old son. His BM is the neediest human being I know. She can not handle anything herself. Basically the roles are flipped here....my husband is the mom and she is the dead beat dad. They have joint custody which on their paperwork says he has him 60% of the time and she has him 40% but yet he still pays her child support..I dont get that but whatever it is what it is. My husband offered in court to pay the child care (after school care and summer care) if they take the percentage out of the child support he would take on the responsibility....she said no (Because she wants her money) but then she has the nerve to ask him to pay for summer camp....and HE DID IT! This kind of stuff drives me insane. This women is not your typical mother and she walks all over my husband and he lets her. It is making me crazy! Summer camp is her responsibility so this week she signed him up for a vacation bible school that only runs Mon - Thur. She decides to tell him yesterday that and tells him he needs to find someone to watch him on half day Friday because she has to work at 1. Well that made me mad already why is it his responsibility? So of course he finds someone (well he finds my sister) then texts her at 7 am saying he is brining the kid to her and to take him to my sister at 1 and she says she can....she has clients. Thanks for the notice BM! Ugghhh I don't know if I can live with some other women controlling my husband and my husband being such a push over when it comes to her.
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Post by triciatenaka on Jul 30, 2011 14:10:34 GMT -5
I never knew BMD could cause so much tension in my chest. I have been married to my husband for 5 short months and I do not know how much more I can take. I have a 7 year old son of my own and he also has a 7 year old son. His BM is the neediest human being I know. She can not handle anything herself. Basically the roles are flipped here....my husband is the mom and she is the dead beat dad. They have joint custody which on their paperwork says he has him 60% of the time and she has him 40% but yet he still pays her child support..I dont get that but whatever it is what it is. My husband offered in court to pay the child care (after school care and summer care) if they take the percentage out of the child support he would take on the responsibility....she said no (Because she wants her money) but then she has the nerve to ask him to pay for summer camp....and HE DID IT! This kind of stuff drives me insane. This women is not your typical mother and she walks all over my husband and he lets her. It is making me crazy! Summer camp is her responsibility so this week she signed him up for a vacation bible school that only runs Mon - Thur. She decides to tell him yesterday that and tells him he needs to find someone to watch him on half day Friday because she has to work at 1. Well that made me mad already why is it his responsibility? So of course he finds someone (well he finds my sister) then texts her at 7 am saying he is brining the kid to her and to take him to my sister at 1 and she says she can....she has clients. Thanks for the notice BM! Ugghhh I don't know if I can live with some other women controlling my husband and my husband being such a push over when it comes to her. Sounds like something that should have been addressed before getting married, which you probably failed to do because there probably wouldn't have been a marriage. He knows he shouldn't be paying child support and keeping the boy 60% of the time but he chooses to do it anyway for the sake of his child and/or to please his baby mama. Anywho, you signed up for it, no need to complain now. Evidently you like push overs. |
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Post by growapair on Jul 31, 2011 14:05:13 GMT -5
Your husband needs to grow a pair of balls. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but things will only get worse as long as your DH continues to let his ex control him. There is not anything you can do about it until your DH decides he doesn't like the situation. Speak up and tell your DH what bothers you about his ex & his relationship. Either he will agree that things need to change and move towards changing it, or he will say that he doesn't have a problem with the way things are. You have to decide whether or not you want to stay and put up with it. Good luck with this because I know that there is nothing more irritating than watching another woman control your DH.
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